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andih22
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I just don't know what to do??!
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Ok so we've been engage for 6 months (WOW) this month and we were looking at having the wedding summer/fall 2012. . One of my issues is where to have it? I'm from Oregon and I know domestic partnerships are legal there but... long story short I kinda already have one and its way complicated to get rid of it partly because no one really knows much about them. My parents won't come so that's not an issue but some of my other family would like to. We are thinking of having a ceremony in Portland and also gettng it legalized in a place like New York. The question is do we have the ceremony first? or legalize it first? Or not have a ceremony in Portland but just a reception? If I did get "married" in both states then which one is my wedding date??? I don't want one to take away from the other but I just can't seem to have my cake and eat it to! Any advice??
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Re: I just don't know what to do??!
Once you get that done, there's really no set schedule of events. Do what works for you. People I know that have gone to NY seem to favor doing the legal bit first, then coming home for a party.
Back to your question: We (and most people I know) had the legal wedding first, then had a reception back home. If you want, you could even have a video of the legal wedding to show at your reception. We didn't really see the need for a second ceremony once we were already legally married.
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I unfortunantly was 18, in love and had no knowledge of any of it. It's a bummer because I just contacted a lawyer here too and they just told me I had to deal with in Oregon. Oregon tells me I can't do it there unless I live there. So if anyone has an knowledge of where I could do it without being a resident that would be awesome! Ahhh so frustrating especially since my ex is now married.
But 2dBride that's what I was wondering, thank you. I think that is probably what we will do. I especially like the video idea. Although my fiance has suggested having a ceremony and then maybe in a year legalizing it.
Good luck w/ the "divorce" in Oregon - I'm sorry I wish I knew more about that!
[QUOTE]As far as which one to have first, my fiancee and I are doing a commitment ceremony in Indiana in front of all friends and family then going to a state like Massachusetts within a year to legalize it. Our anniversary date will be the ceremony in Indiana - it's more important for that to be what we remember and celebrate (committing in front of friends and family) then go to a legal state and have no one be there. However, whatever you want to do will be great!
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We're doing the same thing, only we're getting the legal marriage on our honeymoon, so it'll just be a few days later, but the ceremony date will be the one we consider our anniversary.