so my mother in-law and i dont get along very well. i suppose it is not that we don't get along but they are very different (this is not just my opinion-several people do agree that they are bit off). I won't go into the full stories because that could take forever. I have been trying to be nice and include her even though we are totally different people.
For the reception my FI suggested that i talk to his mother about who to invite from his side of the family. I have only met them once because they aren't a very close family so I can't help my Fi put together the list. I nicely emailed his mother this....
Dear Mil
I was asking FH about family that he might want to have at the reception on June 6th and he said it might be better to ask you. I was hoping that you could include the addresses fo the family to so i could send out invitations. Thanks...sorry it's quick...in class
Me
this is what she sent back..
Can I also invite a few friends that are like family to FFIL and I ? ie my good friend who gave me my dress to wear? It is her way of being there with me, and she has known FH since 1989. I am sure very few family will attend, especially on my side since they are far and few between, and live far away. Mama
and this is what she sent my FH without knowing she sent it to me as well...and without giving me time to reply to her first email...
Your future wife Casey emailed and stated I should come up with a list of who you want to invite ie family. I have thought about it more, and dont feel comfortable with putting out a list, until we discuss who it is you want on the list. I also asked her if mother and father of the birde and groom are including their friends. Let me know. Have a great day, mom
i am probably reading into this, but she has done things like this in the past. Going behind my back to my FH or putting me on the spot in front of several people and then asking a question that will make me look bad if i say no. Maybe i am not a trusting person, maybe i am crazy...i dont know. what do you ladies think?
oh i probably should add that the event is not being contributed to by his parents at all...i know that question will come up