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JLAyen8861JLAyen8861
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so little vent trying not to freak/get nervous too much...but my future father in law is driving me a little crazy.  my parents who god bless them offered to pay for our inviations would like to order them this coming weekend.  we are like most trying to keep it to a certain head count and which also leads to how many invites we need to order.  i have for the past few months requested a guest list from my father in law and his now wife and...NOTHING.  tried to nicely say to him yesterday, "say i really need that list for the head count which also helps us know how many invites you need" his response, "i do not understand"...he knows that we are planning to order this weekend...ugh.  k, vent should be done now...thanks :)
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_little-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:d3693daf-a59d-47c0-9522-a0e17ce3a6d3Post:95247c60-44bd-4a62-8e39-bb88f4acceb8">Little vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]so little vent trying not to freak/get nervous too much...but my future father in law is driving me a little crazy.  my parents who god bless them offered to pay for our inviations would like to order them this coming weekend.  we are like most trying to keep it to a certain head count and which also leads to how many invites we need to order.  i have for the past few months requested a guest list from my father in law and his now wife and...NOTHING.  tried to nicely say to him yesterday, "say i really need that list for the head count which also helps us know how many invites you need" his response, "i do not understand"...he knows that we are planning to order this weekend...ugh.  k, vent should be done now...thanks :)
    Posted by JLAyen8861[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Either you or your FI need to say to them "we need your guest list by X date or we will take that as you don't want anyone invited."  </div><div>
    </div><div>Then be firm on it.  If they don't give you a list, they don't get anyone extra invited.  Of course I'm assuming that you already have FI's family on your guest list.  

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  • JLAyen8861JLAyen8861
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    oh for sure.  his parents have not been together for a very long time...and it still is a stressful situation in trying to have his parents get along.  father in law was not close with fi while he was growing up (not because he was a dead beat or anything just not an excuse but the situation with his ex/fi mom)....SO i have fi mom side all accounted for but fi sadly does not know his dads side that well and cant help me with knowing any counts.  we want to be nice and want his father to be involved and have his side there but he is not getting DEADLINES...it might just be a man thing lol
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    I would have your FI meet his dad for lunch and have them compile a list together.
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    Honestly, if you've made an honest effort in trying, I'd send one more email (does he do those?) that says, "Listen, I really need to know who you want to invite by X date because I have to order the invitations.  If I don't hear from you, I'll allot 20 seats for your guests and we can figure out names later."  Then order 15 more invitations - you should always have a few extra anyway.  If he gives you the names and addresses later, great.  Otherwise, you'll end up saving money per-head, yes?

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  • tyleet87tyleet87 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_little-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:d3693daf-a59d-47c0-9522-a0e17ce3a6d3Post:266cba58-c65e-408f-b5d0-a7ac018965df">Re: Little vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Little vent : Either you or your FI need to say to them "we need your guest list by X date or we will take that as you don't want anyone invited."   Then be firm on it.  If they don't give you a list, they don't get anyone extra invited.  Of course I'm assuming that you already have FI's family on your guest list.  
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    I would absolutely do this. I'm not going to beg for a list of people to spend money on that my Fi and I aren't even close to! If I don't get a list by x date than no one is invited. I don't like to deal with stubborn or procrastinating people.
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  • Danidawn20Danidawn20
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_little-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:d3693daf-a59d-47c0-9522-a0e17ce3a6d3Post:f4ac8257-f38d-4279-9014-8530f02ea902">Re: Little vent</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would have your FI meet his dad for lunch and have them compile a list together.
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

    I like this idea
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