QOTD 9/22

SamiJoeB · September 2011

We've been doing vents/rants/confessions on Thursdays... Or we can do a thought provoking question? Or how about BOTH!!!

Post Both, Either/Or, Whatever!! Post a random pic, or even a recipe if you want!! We can turn it into a "Haphazard Thursday"!!

Okay..

Ready..

Set..

Go!!!

calindi · September 2011

I hate my boss, and thus I hate my job. I think he's a moron and I have no respect for him. I keep hoping the company will let him go, but if not I've got to find a way out of this situation. I've debated just working at a retail store or something, anything to get me out of this job.

shan87 · September 2011

Now my 'o' key is sticking.... WTF ketboard!

I am heading home to MN this wknd and I can tell H is bummed I'm leaving him. Which makes me feel guilty.

LetsHikeToday · September 2011

I had a mini stress breakdown last night. It's really hard to be in charge of everything since H works so much. I have no idea what I'll do when he is deployed.

Sometimes I feel like I can't say things like that on this board. I understand it isn't the military's fault but sometimes I get frustrated when he has to do random things. I know what our life will be like and we made the joint decision to stay in. I'm excited for military life but sometimes, it's a little too much on me.

I think it's okay to feel that way but I also feel like on this board we can't express those feelings. You know? I feel guilty typing it.

AmandaSC1988 · September 2011

My FI got his new phone yesterday. I'm probably behind on the curve but he can apparently skype with his phone. Which is awesome! We haven't done it yet because I have been busy. But when he is on his "Lunch" he can skype. (basically the only time we can talk)

They are doing flue shots at work this morning. I'd like to get one, but I am feeling like I am getting a cold..and my immune system is down...I don't want to get the full-blown flu after getting the shot.

amh04 · September 2011

FI is really on my nerves, he has a horrible memory - get that - but really? really? your going to wait until midnight to text me saying its a late work night (he works portside/starboard - one night off at 6pm and the next night off between 10pm-2am) after I waited up. Ughhhh. And then I get the whole 'well you know I have a bad memory' - there is a difference between a bad memory and taking advantage of it. Whatever - worse yet - he waited till last night to ask anyone to fee the rabbit on saturday while we are OOT.
My mom is driving me insane - she thinks this whole visit home this weekend is to simply see her - umm.. love you mom but I don't want to leave my home to just sit at your home.
My boss - who is also my mom's neighbor - is driving me up a WALL. She is so nosey and blames me for her mistakes - and I'm talking in one case a $80k mistake I had to find/figure out/ and fix.Then she is like 'oh when are you leaving' i get that you need to know some things about my trip and times for work reasons - but BACK OFF!
FI's sisters make me so mad and they really did hurt me much more than what I wanted to let on to - so it pisses/aggrivates me when I see 'I can't wait for you to get married - you looked so beautiful in your dress Saturday!' on her FB wall from the youngest sister.

End of my rants.

As for Thursday - I think we should wing it.

Some weeks call for thoughtfulness and other weeks call for ranting. We could maybe do an on going thread where we share recipes? Either way I think you all are doing a great job!

ggirl2001 · September 2011

Hike, of course you can vent, there's a difference between venting and blaming EVERYTHING on other people and not recognizing that you made the joint decision or choice to live this life (which you do recognize). We all get frustrated and upset with things.

I get upset with people who show up a 1/2 hr late to counseling appointments. You wouldn't show up to your doctor's office a 1/2 hr late, don't do it here. I might not be a doctor, but to see me we bill your insurance company just like a doctor's office would. I have other things to do then wait around to see if you are going to show. it also takes up a spot that someone could have used more efficiently and gotten value of. It's a waste of my time to sit around and wait for you. If you're that concerned with your child's mental health that you want an appt ASAP then show up on time to said appt.

Sorry, but that annoys me. I HATE when people request an appt as soon as possible then either don't show or show up extremely late.

LetsHikeToday · September 2011

GGirl- I hate when people are late. I think it is rude.

calindi · September 2011

Anne, what happened with the sisters that they hurt your feelings? I think I missed that.

Hike, I totally understand. I feel like we spend so much time saying, "that's just the military, get used to it" that we forget that each of us has a right to be frustrated sometimes. We're not perfect, and it's certainly challenging. That doesn't mean we should all be martyrs, but it's totally reasonable that we complain occasionally! Sometimes I feel on this board that my opinion is somehow less valid on military stuff since FI hasn't been active and has never deployed.

Shan, sometimes it's nice to have time to miss each other! I left for a day trip with a friend this past weekend, and he was pouting all morning before I left but he gave me the best cuddles when I got back since he missed me!

I really want to quit. I'm fantasizing right now about walking in there, telling him to shove his stupid head up his own stupid butt, and walking out the door and going to Total Wines and filling out an application. They must have employee discounts, right? Right about now, I could use a beer or two or twelve. Yesterday, he was giving me the silent treatment - who the heII does that?! I went out at lunch for a beer just to survive the day.

ggirl2001 · September 2011

I can handle 5 minutes late, it was just a downpour here a minute ago so I could understand if someone should up late then. I can even tolerate 15 minutes late if you call and let me know. But a 1/2 hour late??

I love my job and sometimes I still fantasize about quitting haha. I want to open a cafe/bookstore on a beach/boardwalk area and just do that for the rest of my life. Is that too much to ask?

calindi · September 2011

I don't know what I want to do. It's a work in progress. I'm planning on trying to become a novelist, which I think I would really love and be good at, but I just don't have enough time to dedicate to writing right now.

FI and I have a plan where I'm going to write my first book during the interim temporary duty orders next fall after we get married. The plan is to have it done by the time he starts TBS so I can spend that time attending writing conferences, trying to find an editor and publisher. And ideally doing graphic design on the side.

I've finally realized that any job without a creative outlet is not going to be fulfilling. I applied for a graphic designing/advertising/marketing/PR job yesterday and am hoping I get it. It would be a good launching point to do something more creative!

AmandaSC1988 · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-922?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:04b956be-ca0a-4228-abc9-0d7455287f0aPost:8dfa522b-3e8e-410d-b6e2-c3e8c4436c1a">Re: QOTD 9/22</a>:
[QUOTE]FI is really on my nerves, he has a horrible memory - get that - but really? really? your going to wait until midnight to text me saying its a late work night (he works portside/starboard - one night off at 6pm and the next night off between 10pm-2am) after I waited up. Ughhhh. And then I get the whole 'well you know I have a bad memory' - there is a difference between a bad memory and taking advantage of it. Whatever - worse yet - he waited till last night to ask anyone to fee the rabbit on saturday while we are OOT. My mom is driving me insane - she thinks this whole visit home this weekend is to simply see her - umm.. love you mom but I don't want to leave my home to just sit at your home. My boss - who is also my mom's neighbor - is driving me up a WALL. She is so nosey and blames me for her mistakes - and I'm talking in one case a $80k mistake I had to find/figure out/ and fix.Then she is like 'oh when are you leaving' i get that you need to know some things about my trip and times for work reasons - but BACK OFF! FI's sisters make me so mad and they really did hurt me much more than what I wanted to let on to - so it pisses/aggrivates me when I see 'I can't wait for you to get married - you looked so beautiful in your dress Saturday!' on her FB wall from the youngest sister. End of my rants. As for Thursday - I think we should wing it. :) Some weeks call for thoughtfulness and other weeks call for ranting. <strong>We could maybe do an on going thread where we share recipes?</strong> Either way I think you all are doing a great job!
Posted by amh04[/QUOTE]

YES! I am always looking for something yummy to cook that doesn't take all day to prepare. Pasta and sauce gets a little old after a while

firsttimersluck · September 2011

School.
I hate school this morning. Mainly because I got up at 4 this morning with Fi (early flight for him) and have been up cleaning and doing last minute things (mainly a timeline of the weekend for the WP so they feel in the loop). Now I have to leave for dumb school,three days before the wedding, when I could be doing more productive things

) Whyyyy couldn't it have started just ONE week later.. />_<

AmandaSC1988 · September 2011

You school just started this week?? At least you aren't trying to get married during the middle of the semester, that is a positive...
I am going strong at 5 weeks. Exams next couple of weeks. ...

Wait... who am I kidding, I am taking two classes and they have 2 exams ove the next two weeks...One next week and one the week after that....both aren't going to be hard. Oh, I love being a super senior.

amh04 · September 2011

Cate - Oh man.. well you missed some honkin' drama. I'll spare the long winded drawn out story and just stop at the 'good' parts. FSIL (middle one) got engaged in April - easter to be exact. FI and I got engaged in July - on the 4th. So in the midst of my excitment I realize that his sister didn't sound 'thrilled' when she called to tell us Congrats. So I send her a brief email - saying I don't want to take anything away from you, your day is really important to Erik and I - yada yada yada. Well.. she emails me back and says its fine - and starts questioning me about dates - I threw out (no joke) 8 different months. She picks March ot get upset about - her wedding is the end of April (then - it changed to mid may because of the church - we waited to pick a date).. anyways. The oldest FSIL calls me telling me that the middle FSIL is crying and upset over it. And then asks me if I'm pregnant and that's why we want to get married so fast. So.. I cried from about 10am - erik got home at 4pm. Not kidding - it was just a bunch of things said. So erik calls them all pissed and his mom and then his dad calls us asking us to postpone our wedding or push it back. No one could understand he has 2 years left of shore duty before another deployment. They didn't get it at all. So.. .long story short it was huge fall out for the first month I cried whenever I did anything wedding wise. So.. I haven't heard from them since. Not a 'hey hows planning going' or 'loved the dress you emailed our mom' or nothing. So.. I'm pretty hurt by it all - I was ganged up on and I don't think it was fair. So.. thanksgiving is going to be interesting and is going to be a ton of wine needed to tolerate it all. I didn't even get a flipping apology over it.

Good IL drama huh?! Lol. I can laugh about it sometimes - but other times it really upsets me.

Amanda - What type of pasta reciepe are you looking for - any certain sauce?

AmandaSC1988 · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-922?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:04b956be-ca0a-4228-abc9-0d7455287f0aPost:d7bcf7ec-90c1-4366-ba14-e460960ebf9e">Re: QOTD 9/22</a>:
[QUOTE] <strong>Amanda - What type of pasta reciepe are you looking for - any certain sauce?
</strong>Posted by amh04[/QUOTE]

Haha I meant that that is what I make 75% of the time. Make some pasta...put alfredo or tomato sauce on it..at some sort of protien.

amh04 · September 2011

Oh! Gotcha. Haha. Mind fart. Was there anything in particular your looking for? I love cooking. I've been in a big chicken mood lately - i love chicken,.

calindi · September 2011

Pet peeve - those stupid Facebook status updates that are meant to "bring awareness" to an issue, or "post this so that Make-a-Wish Foundation will donate $7 towards a girl's cancer treatment costs". Telling people that you're "I'm X weeks and craving Z" and somehow have it be a code that indicates your birthday does not make anyone aware of breast cancer - it makes you look like you're pretending to be pregnant. Or "I like it on the counter" for where you put your bag makes you look like a slut. And no one needs to know what color your bra is.

People are already aware that breast cancer/autism/bullying exists. Posting a status does... nothing! Well, it makes the person who posted it look like a lemming, but whatever.

And the Make-a-Wish Foundation does not donate - it is itself a charitable organization, so it accepts donations. Its purpose is to pay for non-medical related wishes, so kids who want to meet their favorite actor, or go to Disney World, or swim with dolphins.

I keep writing on each of those statuses that I see that since they obviously care so much, they should go to the charity's website and donate themselves (be it for Susan B Komen for breast cancer research, or an autism research foundation, or the Ronald McDonald House, or the Make-a-Wish foundation). That might actually do something - to donate, post that you donated, and ask your friends to match it.

Several of these people who are so big on making their Facebook friends "aware" of different issues are the first ones who turned me down when I asked for donations for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society when I ran a half marathon to raise money in memory of a friend. I ran 13.1 miles during the race, over 100 miles in training, and raised $2000 dollars. Now THAT's what it means to make people aware and support a cause!

amh04 · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-922?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:04b956be-ca0a-4228-abc9-0d7455287f0aPost:024d22e5-efc9-4719-bd4d-39e5e760e178">Re: QOTD 9/22</a>:
[QUOTE]Pet peeve - those stupid Facebook status updates that are meant to "bring awareness" to an issue, or "post this so that Make-a-Wish Foundation will donate $7 towards a girl's cancer treatment costs". Telling people that you're "I'm X weeks and craving Z" and somehow have it be a code that indicates your birthday does not make anyone aware of breast cancer - it makes you look like you're pretending to be pregnant. Or "I like it on the counter" for where you put your bag makes you look like a slut. And no one needs to know what color your bra is. People are already aware that breast cancer/autism/bullying exists. Posting a status does... nothing! Well, it makes the person who posted it look like a lemming, but whatever. And the Make-a-Wish Foundation does not donate - it is itself a charitable organization, so it accepts donations. Its purpose is to pay for non-medical related wishes, so kids who want to meet their favorite actor, or go to Disney World, or swim with dolphins. I keep writing on each of those statuses that I see that since they obviously care so much, they should go to the charity's website and donate themselves (be it for Susan B Komen for breast cancer research, or an autism research foundation, or the Ronald McDonald House, or the Make-a-Wish foundation). That might actually do something - to donate, post that you donated, and ask your friends to match it. Several of these people who are so big on making their Facebook friends "aware" of different issues are the first ones who turned me down when I asked for donations for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society when I ran a half marathon to raise money in memory of a friend. I ran 13.1 miles during the race, over 100 miles in training, and raised $2000 dollars. Now THAT's what it means to make people aware and support a cause!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Couldn't agree more. I hate those chain statuses and they have them for everythinggggg.

YoungDuo · September 2011

I am getting so unbelievably frustrated with FI. He and I had that fight or whatever you want to call it last week. And I thought things were better but he's being distant. It was over a trust thing but we're working past it because it was pretty minor. Apparently I must have made a smarta$$ comment to him this morning and he got really annoyed with me and now isn't talking to me. I know he's at work and busy, but I'm trying to be sweet and send texts asking how his day is etc. and I'm getting nothing in return. I'm usually the one that can't let things go and I feel like I'm really doing everything I can but he's not responding. Plus, he's making me feel like it's my fault even though I know we're both to blame. Ughh...I wish he would just man up and tell him how he feels and what's really bothering him. I'm hoping when he comes home tomorrow we'll be able to talk it out. Because with things being this way, I'm completely unmovitated to do wedding things even though I know they need to get done. Ok..end vent

calindi · September 2011

YoungDuo - give him some space to mope for a bit. Sometimes things look better after a bit of space. I know I was being a total baby this weekend - FI beat me at a board game, and I got really frustrated and snapped at him and was totally overreacting. I knew I was being ridiculous, but I needed some space before I could go back and apologize and deal with it like a grown up. Trying to force being back to normal right away might cause more problems, like you making a smartass comment this morning which set him off. Just take a breath and know that this kind of stuff happens.

crownsuperstar · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-922?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:04b956be-ca0a-4228-abc9-0d7455287f0aPost:024d22e5-efc9-4719-bd4d-39e5e760e178">Re: QOTD 9/22</a>:
[QUOTE]Pet peeve - those stupid Facebook status updates that are meant to "bring awareness" to an issue, or "post this so that Make-a-Wish Foundation will donate $7 towards a girl's cancer treatment costs". Telling people that you're "I'm X weeks and craving Z" and somehow have it be a code that indicates your birthday does not make anyone aware of breast cancer - it makes you look like you're pretending to be pregnant. Or "I like it on the counter" for where you put your bag makes you look like a slut. And no one needs to know what color your bra is. People are already aware that breast cancer/autism/bullying exists. Posting a status does... nothing! Well, it makes the person who posted it look like a lemming, but whatever. And the Make-a-Wish Foundation does not donate - it is itself a charitable organization, so it accepts donations. Its purpose is to pay for non-medical related wishes, so kids who want to meet their favorite actor, or go to Disney World, or swim with dolphins. I keep writing on each of those statuses that I see that since they obviously care so much, they should go to the charity's website and donate themselves (be it for Susan B Komen for breast cancer research, or an autism research foundation, or the Ronald McDonald House, or the Make-a-Wish foundation). That might actually do something - to donate, post that you donated, and ask your friends to match it. Several of these people who are so big on making their Facebook friends "aware" of different issues are the first ones who turned me down when I asked for donations for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society when I ran a half marathon to raise money in memory of a friend. I ran 13.1 miles during the race, over 100 miles in training, and raised $2000 dollars. Now THAT's what it means to make people aware and support a cause!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Oh my gosh me too!!!! This one girl did the whole 10 weeks and eating candy thing. I don't know what that was about but then she got really mad because everyone was sending her congrats on her being preg. She then ranted about how she is not and that people need to stop gossiping about her. ARRG!!!

Ok here is mine...I need the sun!!! It has been cloudy, rainy and foggy here for the past week. I am a sand in my shoe and sun on my face type of girl. I want...no I NEED the sun to come back.

Oh yeah and when did "skank" become a fashion trend?

amh04 · September 2011

The newest FB 'fad' that's bothering me - Listing Army, Navy, Marine, Air Force Wife as a Job. It isn't a job last time I checked. I know it might touch a few strings - but it's just a personal pet peeve I have.

Rethany · September 2011

I have a vent/realization:

A few things are changing for FI's unit. They are combining two units nearby (his included) into one unit, and if he remains where he is he will never be promoted. He would mind that fact, but he really doesn't love his job right now. It was better than previous jobs, but he isn't thrilled about staying on a few more years with it. A guy from another unit approached him about a month ago asking FI if he would apply for a fulltime position in their unit (about an hour and forty-five minutes away from where we live) doing exactly what he did in the 82nd. There are many positives to taking this job. The only things really changing are that he will drive down there and stay for about 4 days out of the week then come home for the rest of the week and he'll be on a deployable status.

I told my best friend and a few of my closest coworkers about this potential job situation. They understand why the job would be a better choice, but they ask me how I feel about him being in a deployable status. When I tell them I don't necessarily want him to be deployed, but if it happens, it is his job and it is something he needs to do. They don't seem to understand that mentality. I know this happens a lot, but this is the first "ah ha" moment I've had. Where I realize this is how my life is and not everyone is going to understand it.

YoungDuo · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-922?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:04b956be-ca0a-4228-abc9-0d7455287f0aPost:28cefb34-0283-403d-a3e4-902639e175af">Re: QOTD 9/22</a>:
[QUOTE]YoungDuo - give him some space to mope for a bit. Sometimes things look better after a bit of space. I know I was being a total baby this weekend - FI beat me at a board game, and I got really frustrated and snapped at him and was totally overreacting. I knew I was being ridiculous, but I needed some space before I could go back and apologize and deal with it like a grown up. Trying to force being back to normal right away might cause more problems, like you making a smartass comment this morning which set him off. Just take a breath and know that this kind of stuff happens.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
Sorry I haven't been able to respond til now, work has been a nightmare..auditors suck! Anyway, I agree with you Cal, I need to give him space. I'm the one that wants to talk it out and I sometimes get impatient waiting for him to sort it out on his own. So I haven't been really talking to him today to give him space and because I wasn't able to which hopefully will help :) He's coming to town tomorrow night so hopefully we'll be able to get this sorted out, if not, then I'll just try to be as patient as possible!

CAB1217 · September 2011

I have a vent, but it's the same ol "I'm scared to move in with FI's mom cause she's overbearing" one... It's tired. I will spare you. But, for reals guys... I don't want to do ittttttt! Ha ha ha! Hope everyone is having a nice night!

divinemsbee · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-922?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:04b956be-ca0a-4228-abc9-0d7455287f0aPost:bf106274-4ff4-40bf-a322-dc73c36d6b0f">Re: QOTD 9/22</a>:
[QUOTE]The newest FB 'fad' that's bothering me - Listing Army, Navy, Marine, Air Force Wife as a Job. It isn't a job last time I checked. I know it might touch a few strings - but it's just a personal pet peeve I have.
Posted by amh04[/QUOTE]

Oh, this. SO much this. It makes me twitch a little.

I'm having the same vent/sitch that I'll have til the end of the year; I'm just trying to think positive. In thought-provoking week news, FI (who didn't have a permanent job/position before today) has been helping out one of his fellow 2nd Lt's this week with death duties. Basically this guy's job is to call the family and beneficiaries after they've been informed of the airman's death and set straight the money and belongings. It's so weird. I don't get to know a lot of what's going on, but FI's spent his days cataloging this guy's life-things like "one tube toothpaste: used, 4 pencils, 50 envelopes. They also have to read the guy's letters from his family and S/O. It's made for some interesting conversations. I can't imagine what that feels like, but it's been really emotionally taxing for him and the other guy.

SamiJoeB · September 2011

I know it's Friday now, but, this happened in the middle of the night...

I've mentioned before that I open at the gym every Thursday. We open at 5:30. I get there at 5, and in order to be a nice, fully functioning person I get up at 3am. H and I were conversing about our "future" (ie.. Me moving early, or not at all.. more on that later) until like 11:30 Wednesday night, so I didn't get as much sleep as I like to get. For whatever reason last night, I was wired. Like seriously, I was up until midnight (So I was awake for almost 24 hours), I finally go to sleep, and then I wake up at 3:30am (because in my head I was hearing The Eagles cd from work, and the "Change Stations Now" Lady), I was trying to reposition myself and I knocked my cell phone into my glass of water... ANNDD didn't realize it for like 3 minutes. I took it apart and it's sitting in a bag of rice, but I'm pretty sure that it will never work again. There's water floating around on the screen. I'm mostly upset about it because that's the only way H and I talk. He can call our house phone, but I can't call him. With the time difference, it's just way more convenient with the cell phone because sometimes he calls at like 4 am. Plus I'm worried he'll be really mad at me.. He hates to spend money unnecessarily. I'm really hard on cell phones.. this was like my 3rd one since 2009. I emailed him and told him to call the house, and my mom is letting me take her cell when I go to school and work... Ugggghhhh. Add to that the pouring rain and I'm seriously unmotivated to get out of bed this morning...

CAB-What is this about moving in with your FMIL?!

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