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RSVP reminder

volleygurl0306volleygurl0306 member
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in September 2012 Weddings
We are doing online RSVPs so I can factor out the mail lag when it comes to being past the due date.  We still have 2 weeks so I'm not aggravated yet (just impatient).  We don't actually need our first headcount until September 17.  FMIL had made it sound like her family was a little slow to respond and since that's 1/3 of our guest list, I went with an earlier date (ironically, they are the majority of people who have replied beause FMIL has been hounding them and my side is MIA). 

However, we are doing our final meeting with our venue exactly on our RSVP deadline.  At this meeting she is going to give me a room layout for our ceremony and reception based on our estimated headcount so I'd like to have a pretty good idea.  Would it be inappropriate to send a friendly reminder text to my friends who havent replied (which as of right now is ALL of them except one BM who was an obvious yes anyways) the day before that it is due the next day?  The RSVP is on our website that is mobile-friendly and I could include the link in our text.  It may be a little pushy but I am the first of my friends to get married and I feel like they just don't get it.  They all have to travel so I know it takes some time to coordinate but they all got STDs and knew this was coming. 
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  • smartlyprettysmartlypretty member
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    I would wait the two weeks until your deadline to send a reminder. 
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  • volleygurl0306volleygurl0306 member
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    Sorry if I didn;t make sense.  I meant send the text on Aug 31.  I am just forseeing a problem with my friends not being prompt.  It could turn out to not be an issue but I'm just anxious.
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  • vbjoannavbjoanna member
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    I think it's fine to give a reminder. And remember that email isn't perfect -- the evite could have gone to their junk folder, even if personal emails from you get through. We sent out paper invitations (we didn't include the RSVP deadline on them in case we needed to send out some later -- the deadline was on our website, which we could update), and one of my close friends here in town didn't get hers. I checked with her each day for a few days, and then just wrote out another one -- but it made me very nervous about my farflung guests. So when we hadn't heard from them for a few weeks (and still about a week to go to the deadline), I emailed or texted to make sure they'd gotten their invitation. I think that's just as legitimate a concern with electronic invitations.

    And even for older guests, I'm sure they'd rather you double check that they received their invitation than think they weren't invited!
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  • we2012we2012 member
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    I used TK website RSVP page along with a Google Voice number, so we didn't have mailed response cards either.  As part of the website functionality, we could send emails to our guests about website updates.  I did a couple of times to remind people to respond on the deadline and a week later.
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