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No gifts please

biker2011biker2011
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How do we let our guests know we do not expect or want wedding gifts-this is our second wedding and we are already living in a fully furnished house.  We are getting married in 20 days and have already sent the invites.
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Re: No gifts please

  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011
    ITA with Retreadbride. You don't tell them anything unless they ask.
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011

    You graciously accept each and every gift and marvel at how thoughtful and generous your loved ones are.  If you want to give them something that you might actually like to receive, a registry is a huge help.  I am guessing you still get birthday and holiday gifts, so there must be some things you desire. 

    Don't be hemmed in by traditional household building gifts.  Do you read?  register for books.  Do you ski, hike, camp?  register for gear.  Do you like music?  register for CDs.  Do you like to cook?  register for cooking class, gourmet spices or ingredients, or gadgets.  Do you garden?  Do you need to do home repairs?  Do you like to travel? 

    If YOU can't think of anything you need, imagine what your gift givers will come up with. ~Donna

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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    Ah yes, the wise Donna has spoken.   Register, even though you may not NEED anything.  What do you WANT? 

    So, even though I had registered, my very thoughtful sister gave me a HUGE crystal vase.  So not my style.  Of course, for my first wedding she gave me a crystal punch bowl. That I have used twice.  Once at halloween with dry ice in punch so that it had a scary, smokey, appearance, and once to put christmas ornaments on my dining room table during the holidays.  Now I used the crystal vase for the ornaments.   
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you TRULY do not want ANYTHING, then don't register, or make a really really small registry.   If people ask your family, they should respond, "Theyhave everything they need and are not expecting any gifts."
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  • Mrs0toBeMrs0toBe member
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    edited December 2011
    We are not registering either.  No point.  When people ask if we're going to I just tell them no, we have everything we need.  
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    You two are at risk of the Chili Pepper lamp.  Seriously, though, the people you say that to may very well just give you money (which is not bad) or buy you something that they think you will like.  Be prepared for 7 photo frames.  Or salad bowls.  Or serving trays.  Then you will be thanking your guests for items you intend to hide in the attic, sell at a yard sale, give to the church white elephant sale, or freecycle.  The money they wanted to be for a gift for you, and the time they put into trying to figure out what you would really really like is both wasted. 

    My humble opinion is that this is part of the "I'm not worthy" (because its a second wedding)  syndrome.  YOU ARE WORTHY.  Not everyone will choose to buy you something.  So be it.  But why not simplify it for those who want to?  If they don't plan to buy you something, they aren't going to ask.  So they won't know about your registry.  The people that ask INTEND to buy you something, so if you tell them not to, they will anyway.  Just not necessarily something you want. ~Donna
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  • 17snickersgrl17snickersgrl member
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    edited December 2011
    We put a lovely little line in our invitation after researching Miss Manners and Dear Abby-( everyone said it is rude to even mention anything about a gift in the invitation- but there are friends and relatives that will be spending too much money just to get here to celebrate with us).  So, we opted to include that line:
    "Your love is a precious gift, we request no other"
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