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Wedding Etiquette Forum
Aislinn84
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Family wanting to stay over
The wedding is in 6 weeks so not sure if I'm stressed and over reacting or even what is the proper way to handle it.
My uncle has asked to stay at our house the night of the wedding. He also wants to bring his dog over before the wedding, leave it here all day and have it say over night with him. He has had my grandma ask me all this.
A few background bits. My grandma loves this dog, it can do no wrong. Yet it constantly has accidents on the floor. They think its amusing/no big deal as its a small dog.
My cat hates dogs and will attack this one if my uncle doesn't keep it away which he likely won't as he'll think thats funny too til his dog gets hurt. I love my uncle but hes the type of person that he'd take my indoor only rabbit outside in the grass as rabbits like to be outside...ie he doesnt think things through.
A few things are stressing me out:
The thought of the cat attacking his dog and them complaining it has a scratch or a hurt eye or something.
Coordinating with my uncle a time for him to come over and drop off the dog before the wedding and give him a key. All of the girls are getting ready here and having a dog underfoot with girls in heels isnt a good idea nor waiting on him if hes late etc to get here.
The thought of the damage the dog will do to the carpets etc
I feel like an awful family member telling him no, but am I wrong to do so? Should I suck it up and let him stay? Or tell him that the days so busy and etc, I dont want to try to work in a time to meet up, that with the dog Im afarid someone will step on it or the cat will hurt it etc so perhaps the hotel everyone else is staying at best and if he cant afford it maybe I could split it with him so he can make it to the wedding?
The hotel allows dogs its just 50 dollars extra. Or see if the dog can stay in my grandma's hotel room and my uncle stays here alone? That being said I could see him taking it back here with him and just not telling me.
*sigh*
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Re: Family wanting to stay over
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Married 9/15/11
*This is Not Legal Advice*
Let him know you're sorry, but you won't be able to accomodate any house guests during the week of the wedding.
On a similar note, SIL asked to borrow my car the day before the wedding (since her and her H were coming in from out of town.) We were already short cars as it was, let alone I had tons of business to take care of the day before the wedding. I just generally think it's kind of appalling to ask those kinds of favors of the bride/groom.
"I am so sorry I cannot accomodate you this time. Here is a list of places that accept pets"
Remember, you are dealing with adults who are perfectly capable of handling their own arronagements
With that said... there is no way I'd allow anyone to bring a dog that isn't house trained. And, if they do bring a dog to my house, they need to bring a crate/kennel with them. I wouldn't want to be responsible for someone's dog getting injured or have the dog pee and poo in my house. Ask grandma to find another family member for uncle & dog to stay with. All but two Motel6s in the country accept pets. If he needs a cheap place to stay, he should look for a local Motel6. But, even the motel6 requires that pets be contained in a kennel when left unattended in the room.
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http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
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P.S. Will you be at your house on the wedding night? Who on earth would ever think it was ok to stay with a newly married couple on their wedding night?!?!?!??!?!?!