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Are uneven sides ok?

I have always wanted a traditional wedding. I want the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. I have a maid of honor and two bridesmaids. But my soon to be husband who i love so much in which im very frustrated with right now only has a bestman and no groomsmen. He said he doesnt have anyone to be his groomsmens because his brothers who live out of state and one that is over seas are unable to make it. Im just really worried that my photos are going to look funny becuase the numbers are uneven. the wedding is May 11 so its just over a month away and im not sure if i should push him in talking to his friends about being groomsmen or just let it go and hope everything looks ok. What should i do?

Re: Are uneven sides ok?

  • Yes, uneven sides are perfectly fine.  Your photos will look fine.  You should not push your FI to add more people just for the sake of your photographs.



  • There is nothing wrong with uneven sides. When you look at your wedding pictures you will see the faces of your nearest and dearest next to you, not the number of people. We had 6 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen, and our pictures were lovely. You should let this go.
  • Why would you want your pictures filled with people that you're not all that close to, just so they can be symmetrical?

    People are more important than pictures.
  • Uneven sides are not only ok, they show that you value relationships over symmetry.  
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_are-uneven-sides-ok?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9df17274-f4e2-4286-99fd-c45bc4f80fbcPost:e75ea115-3e6d-47b8-8bfe-2f5a21c448d3">Re: Are uneven sides ok?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Uneven sides are not only ok, they show that you value relationships over symmetry.  
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    This.
  • Behold my uneven sides:
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  • Your wedding is not going to be ruined if you have uneven sides.  Please apologize to your husband for getting frustrated with him over this. 
  • I had the opposite problem - I have two BM and a MOH, and FI only had a Best Man.  I told him that it was fine for him to just have the Best Man, but he wanted groomsmen so he asked two of his friends who are also his roommates.  He is close to lots of people and chose two of his close friends, but he capped it at two.  Whatever - it's his wedding as well. 

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    edited March 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_are-uneven-sides-ok?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:9df17274-f4e2-4286-99fd-c45bc4f80fbcPost:c74dabfa-d4ae-4b4e-b53d-f8ae24132478">Are uneven sides ok?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have always wanted a traditional wedding. I want the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. I have a maid of honor and two bridesmaids. But my soon to be husband who i love so much in which im very frustrated with right now only has a bestman and no groomsmen. He said he doesnt have anyone to be his groomsmens because his brothers who live out of state and one that is over seas are unable to make it. <strong>Im just really worried that my photos are going to look funny becuase the numbers are uneven.</strong> the wedding is May 11 so its just over a month away and im not sure if i should push him in talking to his friends about being groomsmen or just let it go and hope everything looks ok. What should i do?
    Posted by Bossygirl1986[/QUOTE]
    Please don't try to get him to add groomsmen because you're afraid of what your photographs will look like. That is not the reason for even bridal parties or even where the tradition is rooted in.
    I totally get that you're a traditional bride, but not all traditions are good. Is your family sending his family a dowry? Probably not. Are you going to be showing people your bloody bedroom sheets? Probably not. A lot of traditions have died out and for good reason.
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  • Uneven sides are totally okay.  The important thing is that the people standing with you are people you really care about and who really care about you-not how many there are, what sexes they are, or what they look like.
  • We had uneven numbers ONLY for the pictures! We each had two standing with us for the ceremony, but afterward the photographer mistakenly thought DH's nephew was also a groomsman. So we just went with it, and our pics are awesome. I'd totally post one to show off if I wasn't on my phone.
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