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not LV related: wedding invitation from hell

trexcrossingtrexcrossing
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OK so some of you may remember a month or so ago when I was on here complaining that I got slighted by an old friend, and was part of the "reception only" crowd at her upcoming wedding, across the country back in my hometown.  Well, her invitation came in the mail the other day. 

a) I don't get a +1. Good thing we didn't buy fi a plane ticket yet.   This is very surprising considreing she kept saying she can't wait to meet my fi. And considering she keeps saying how excited she and her husband-to-be are to be coming to MY wedding in LV. This also cancels out my idea (provided by a fellow knottie) of bringing my sister and soaking up the booze to compensate being excluded from the ceremony. 

b) Speaking of booze...there will be none.  invitation says cash bar will be avaliable.

c) The invitation came with a registry card.  Her shower invitation came about two weeks ago, and it didn't come with a registry card.  Why they would choose to go this route, I don't know.

I am trying to be understanding, becuase I know she and her fi are most likely paying for the whole wedding themselves and they just bought a house last year, but damn.  
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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    edited December 2011
    At this point I would have to say I would plead financial hardship in traveling that far for a wedding that I was only invited to the reception and not given a +1. BUT. I would also double check on the +1 because I made the mistake when writing out invites late at night and had forgot my cousins FI. :::hangs head in shame::: but when the mistake was brought to my attention I quickly fixed that ASAP.
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    edited December 2011
    I'd just decline; problem solved lol.

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  • bneillWed135887bneillWed135887
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    edited December 2011
    That's a bit off that she continued to say she can't wait to see your FI but aren't allowed a +1. Seems rude.

    Sadly, I'm doing a cash bar as well. Most of my guests just turned 21 and not willing to pay for their drinks plus my family has dealt with brooze abuse which is going to be my grandma with kidney failure coming as a prime example even my step mom with liver failure as a hard drinker example.  If you want to get drunk which believe me all of them do, they can pay for it. But unlimited coffee and soda.

    But I don't like the reception or ceremony only thing. Its all or none to me. I considered it at one point but saw how rude it will be for people to wait til the reception to come. And I experienced the ceremony only plus late invite being B-listed which was completely rude. I doubt I would even go.
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  • trexcrossingtrexcrossing
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    edited December 2011
    bneill, we are all well past 21 lol.  And the fact she is having a cash bar doesn't bother me, it's just a little weird that it is the last line of her invitation.  "cash bar is available for your enjoyment"
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  • vegasgroomvegasgroom mod
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    edited December 2011
    Some people on TK have a thing against cash bars; I'd prefer the option to pay for a liquor drink if that's the only way to have one versus just drinking water all night. :-)

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_not-lv-related-wedding-invitation-hell?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:b3024b1c-3d0f-41e3-bae2-93aae1ec616dPost:5252df3c-b01b-4786-b51f-f2d695a391c9">Re: not LV related: wedding invitation from hell</a>:
    [QUOTE]Some people on TK have a thing against cash bars; I'd prefer the option to pay for a liquor drink if that's the only way to have one versus just drinking water all night. :-)
    Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]

    I second this. I can actually say that I think I have only been to one wedding with an open bar so for me it is more the norm to hear cash bar. I have been to only one DRY wedding and let's just say that most people still found away to bring in drinks.lol.
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  • bneillWed135887bneillWed135887
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know about putting in on my invitation about the bar. If people ask I would tell them but I wouldn't put it on there nor the registry. Just more focused on stating their invited, how many people from them are invited so no extra add ons, and reply. She added too much to me.
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  • wiwicatywiwicaty
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    edited December 2011
    wow, that is one nasty invitation. I would never attend, but that's just me.
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  • empeguesempegues member
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    edited December 2011
    She would be fresh out of luck.... and the way she's handled it makes it seem like she doesn't really care if you come or not. 
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  • mikkiwin8mikkiwin8 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PPs, I don't think I'd be going. It wouldn't be worth it.
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  • ebonyivory10ebonyivory10
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_not-lv-related-wedding-invitation-hell?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:b3024b1c-3d0f-41e3-bae2-93aae1ec616dPost:47a2f823-93b9-406d-8627-e54fe441086a">not LV related: wedding invitation from hell</a>:
    [QUOTE]OK so some of you may remember a month or so ago when I was on here complaining that I got slighted by an old friend, and was part of the "reception only" crowd at her upcoming wedding, across the country back in my hometown.  Well, her invitation came in the mail the other day.  a) I don't get a +1. Good thing we didn't buy fi a plane ticket yet.   This is very surprising considreing she kept saying she can't wait to meet my fi. And considering she keeps saying how excited she and her husband-to-be are to be coming to MY wedding in LV. This also cancels out my idea (provided by a fellow knottie) of bringing my sister and soaking up the booze to compensate being excluded from the ceremony.  b) Speaking of booze...there will be none.  invitation says cash bar will be avaliable. c) The invitation came with a registry card.  Her shower invitation came about two weeks ago, and it didn't come with a registry card.  Why they would choose to go this route, I don't know. I am trying to be understanding, becuase I know she and her fi are <strong>most likely paying for the whole wedding themselves and they just bought a house </strong>last year, but damn.  
    Posted by trexcrossing[/QUOTE]

    Unfortunately that's no exuse or reason to be rude. Although, maybe they don't realize the error of their ways?  I would for sure check on the plus one though.
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  • mizutamababymizutamababy member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd probably decline, especially if there's no plus one.  It's majorly rude for her to only invite you to the reception, knowing that you have to travel all that way and that she's not giving you a plus one.  Honestly sounds like a gift grab to me.  I think the kicker is that they both seem to be banking on being at your wedding for the whole shebang, too.

    I could easily forgive the registry card in the envelope; I've had a lot of friends do that.  But combined with everything else..?  Yeah... no.
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  • nycherylnycheryl
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    edited December 2011
    Ugh, that's insane.  I don't think I'd go, either :)

    My fun invite story:

    My cousin was getting married when I still lived with my parents (so more than a few years ago, but I was over 21).  She sent an invite to my parents, and one separately to me, addressed to the same house.  My invite said "private family dinner to follow".  My parents' invite said "you're welcome to join us for our family dinner at blahblahblah".  Apparently, I wasn't family enough for the private family dinner, even though I would clearly see my parents' invite :)
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_not-lv-related-wedding-invitation-hell?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:b3024b1c-3d0f-41e3-bae2-93aae1ec616dPost:29de809b-964f-4103-a243-08450deb6dda">Re: not LV related: wedding invitation from hell</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ugh, that's insane.  I don't think I'd go, either :) My fun invite story: My cousin was getting married when I still lived with my parents (so more than a few years ago, but I was over 21).  She sent an invite to my parents, and one separately to me, addressed to the same house.  My invite said "private family dinner to follow".  My parents' invite said "you're welcome to join us for our family dinner at blahblahblah".  Apparently, I wasn't family enough for the private family dinner, even though I would clearly see my parents' invite :)
    Posted by nycheryl[/QUOTE]

    Now this is funny!!!! OP I wouldn't attend but it seems that you've already bought your tix. Maybe you could call her up and clarify the +1. Maybe she stuffed yout invite suite with the wrong rsvp card? maybe?
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