Trash the Dress

OpalineTowers · June 2010

What do you guys think about doing trash your dress photos? I love the pictures and really have no interest in saving my dress, so this is a great alternative. I thought about selling my dress, but I think I would look back and kick myself for not doing this. Anybody done them before?

frogurt814 · June 2010

Well if you don't care about keeping your dress, then go for it.

I personally hate getting dirty so I can't see myself rolling around in the mud, especially not in my expensive wedding dress.

I know I will most likely do nothing with my dress besides look at it every now and then, but I would like to save it in case I have a daughter or someone who might want to wear it in the future. You never know.

OpalineTowers · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Well if you don't care about keeping your dress, then go for it. I personally hate getting dirty so I can't see myself rolling around in the mud, especially not in my expensive wedding dress. I know I will most likely do nothing with my dress besides look at it every now and then, but I would like to save it in case I have a daughter or someone who might want to wear it in the future. You never know. :)
Posted by frogurt814[/QUOTE]

Yeah, but when you get them preserved they get folded up and put in a container. You can't take it out if you want it to stay "preserved".

frogurt814 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Trash the Dress : Yeah, but when you get them preserved they get folded up and put in a container. You can't take it out if you want it to stay "preserved".
Posted by OpalineTowers[/QUOTE]
Right, but they usually put it in a box with a window so you can at least look at the top part of the dress, and the top part of my dress is really pretty so I wouldn't mind looking at it every now and then. :)

waltzingmatilda13 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Trash the Dress : Yeah, but when you get them preserved they get folded up and put in a container. You can't take it out if you want it to stay "preserved".
Posted by OpalineTowers[/QUOTE]

But if your daughter wants to wear it, it will be preserved until the day you take it out of the box. Then it should be in pristine condition until that day.

bexx246 · June 2010

Another alternative to trashing the dress would be to donate it to Brides Against Breastcancer. They take donations of used dresses and re-sale them at a bargain to other brides. The proceeds go to the Brides Against Breastcancer foundation which grants wishes to patients with stage 4 breastcancer who are terminally ill (kind of like the Make-A-Wish Foundation). This is my plan for my dress.

GreenPepperBurger · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Another alternative to trashing the dress would be to donate it to Brides Against Breastcancer. They take donations of used dresses and re-sale them at a bargain to other brides. The proceeds go to the Brides Against Breastcancer foundation which grants wishes to patients with stage 4 breastcancer who are terminally ill (kind of like the Make-A-Wish Foundation). This is my plan for my dress. :)
Posted by bexx246[/QUOTE]

This. Personally, I don't think it's worth it to preserve it, since a lot of daughters want their own dress, and I couldn' "trash" it after paying so much money for it. I definitely plan on donating my dress.

APW2010 · June 2010

I'm doing a trash the dress session (FYI, they don't always wreck the dress - depending on what you do it is often possible to have it cleaned and preserved still afterwards). I actually traded out the e-pics for a trash the dress session in my wedding photography package. I've seen such amazing photos from them I really wanted to do it.

526SadieSadie · June 2010

Just a suggestion: you get a tax write-off for donating a wedding dress.

CourtAndDoug · June 2010

I've seen pictures and I don't really care for them or the "symbolism" behind them (promising your FI/DH that you'll never use it for another wedding, seriously?). I plan on having my dress made into a quilt/duvet cover so I'm "trashing" it but still having it be useable in the near future.

OpalineTowers · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I've seen pictures and I don't really care for them or the "symbolism" behind them (promising your FI/DH that you'll never use it for another wedding, seriously?). I plan on having my dress made into a quilt/duvet cover so I'm "trashing" it but still having it be useable in the near future.
Posted by CourtAndDoug[/QUOTE]

I agree, the symbolism is kind of stupid, but some of the pictures come out gorgeous. Like the ones in a field. The ones that include the husband are so cute!

RachNRich · June 2010

I did a TTD shoot a week after my wedding. I didn't, however, "trash" my dress...On of my favorite pictures from my TTD is in my sig; the rest are in my married bio.

It was one of the best decisions I made--I'd do it all over again!

cwm11985 · June 2010

I don't know; I think its weird. Some of the pictures do turn out neat looking. I just think it'd be SO disrespectful towards your parents if they bought your dress. My mom would be horrified to think I did that after she spent so much money on it. I'm not necessarily interested in preserving it either, I just think trash the dress is weird. But hey, some people are weird!

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

I've considered doing a TTD shoot, but I wouldn't actually damage the dress, because I intend to donate it. They're not mutually exclusive.

laurenpearl01 · June 2010

another idea is to keep it and if you have children someday or grandchildren you could always have pieces of the dress made in to a christening dress

nnoble4 · June 2010

I have thought about doing the TTD shoot. I never thought I could do it, but then I saw a high school friend of mine's photos, and I fell in love. They were so fun and carefree, and honestly looked like they came from a magazine!

As I did more research on them, almost everything you do to it can be cleaned up by a good dress cleaner! So, if you want to preserve it for your children or donate it, you can still do it. It all depends on how far you go. If you do want to save it or donate it, you could talk to your dress cleaner about what can and can't be cleaned off of a wedding dress. I think its the best of all worlds....as long as I can convince my FI to want to do it (or at least agree to do it)

Andria

steph43987 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't know; I think its weird. Some of the pictures do turn out neat looking. I just think it'd be SO disrespectful towards your parents if they bought your dress. My mom would be horrified to think I did that after she spent so much money on it. I'm not necessarily interested in preserving it either, I just think trash the dress is weird. But hey, some people are weird!
Posted by cwm11985[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I hear that! My mom bought mine for me, she said it would mean a lot to her if she did. </div><div>FI would be a widower very quickly if I trashed it in anyway, but then again, my mom works with and makes bridal gowns for a living and has a deep appreciation for the 'art' involved. </div><div>
</div><div>I haven't thought of what to do with my gown after the wedding but there are a lot of good ideas on here. I just know trashing it won't be for me. I doubt I'll have to worry about it- If I end up not wanting to keep it, my mom will probably take it.

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NathanandJordan · June 2010

i like the idea of an unihibited photo shoot with my dress, but I don't wanna ruin it! Another idea would be to buy a cheaper dress to do the photos in

AmethystLdy28 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I did a TTD shoot a week after my wedding. I didn't, however, "trash" my dress...On of my favorite pictures from my TTD is in my sig; the rest are in my married bio. It was one of the best decisions I made--I'd do it all over again!
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

ABSOLUTELY love that pic! I agree, I wouldn't feel comfortable actually destroying the dress or rolling around in mud or paint, but I have seen some beautiful pics using water. Some were even UNDER water, totally awesome. And yeah, it would be more fun and all if the groom was included. I want to do a beach wedding this time around (my 2nd marriage) so I plan on doing a TTD shoot there.

Diana :)

AmethystLdy28 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]another idea is to keep it and if you have children someday or grandchildren you could always have pieces of the dress made in to a christening dress :)
Posted by laurenpearl01[/QUOTE]

That's true, a lot of brides have a style that's so much different from their moms, I think just being able to use the dress in other ways make it just as special. You could make the ring bearing pillow out of it, the garter, the wraps that go around the flower bouquet, etc. Preserving it is a waster of money IMO. I never perserved my dress from my first marriage, just put it in a box. I took it out about a year ago because I was moving, it's still in perfect condition (but would need ironed, ll) No discoloration or anything.

Diana :)

mrstfuture · June 2010

I think making it into a quilt is a beautiful idea. I don't know if I want to just look at my dress through a plastic pane in a box. I don't know how my mother would feel about the idea though. She is very sentimental and also purchased my gown. I really don't want to trash the dress as it will always have sentimental value to me but I don't think keeping cooped up in a box is the right idea either.

HisCB · June 2010

i was pretty sure i would do a "carefull to not TTD" photo session but im going to be pregnant and showing by then, so idk. i like the ideas of using parts of the dress for elements in a future wedding but not the dress itself. i dont know if i will have a daughter and i dont know if she would fit in my dress or even like it.

and i never heard about the symbolism, i agree thats pretty silly. i just thought brides want more pics of a crazy beautiful dress and dont always get enough on wedding day.

donating it is a great idea.

wmnengr · June 2010

I have seen some really great TTD photos. I however could never do that to my gown. What I plan on doing is taking my gown to a seamstress and having christening gowns out of my dress. This way my future children will get to wear my gown which is every mothers dream.

nona49 · June 2010

Definitely not! Everytime I look at my dress, it makes me smile. I am so in love with her

) I'm planning on having it cleaned and preserved...even if I never re-use it, I just love having it around....It reminds me of the beautiful day I married my Honey.

lrowe70 · June 2010

Save for your daughter? Please. How many of us are wearing our mother's wedding dress.

We're still deciding but are options are:
1) trash the dress and end up in some lake
2) cut up the dress to make pillows, blankets, and clothes for our future infant

shananleigh · June 2010

I just booked my photographer for our TTD shoot!! I couldn't be more excited for it! Were going to Hawaii for our honeymoon so we got a photographer in hawaii. Were not going to literally trash it, but go in the ocean, in the pool, sand..ect. My friend did it and said the salt water shrunk her dress a little but after one cleaning its good as new

I knew my daughters would never wear it and it would sit in storage so Id rather have the amazing pictures that come the TTD, but everyone has their own opinion!

christieep · June 2010

Like many have said above...most TTD sessions rarely ruin your dress. They are a great way to get some more casual and fun pictures in what is probably the most expensive piece of clothing you will ever own. And chances are you can still preserve your dress after the session.

aummer1987 · June 2010

My mom offered to make my dress *which is awesome I am so in love with the pattern the design she is putting on it and the fabric* anyways her condition was that under no circumstance could i do a TTD if i wanted to do that she would be more than happy to go shopping for a dress at a store

it wasn't a problem for me because I wanted to keep mine anyways. while the PP picture of her shoot was awesome i have seen some that were just plain odd. wedding dress in a dump OOOKAY

but in the end it is a personal decision which ever way you choose good luck

soontobeschooley · June 2010

I definitely want to trash the dress, but without all the "trash." I want do do the shoot but I don't want my dress to be ruined!

vegasgroom · June 2010

My FI will be wearing her mom's preserved vail, not the dress, she wanted her own as I'm sure 99% of daughters do. How about trash the dress and preserve the vail? LOL

Piru · June 2010

My dress was relatively inexpensive and is informal enough for me to wear again. I plan on wearing it and then maybe once it's dirty or out of style I'll trash it

I would like to do a photoshoot wearing it with the horses. I'm an equestrian and I would've liked to have involved horses in my wedding but it wasn't feasible. This would be one way to amend that. Dress may or may not survive; it would almost definitely get dirty even if the horses get bathed.

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