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do I change my date?

skits_1skits_1 member
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Long story short: future sis in law announces she is 8 weeks pregnant this past weekend. We are planning an august wedding which coincides with the arrival of her baby by 3 days.I know alot can happen, but she might be at the ceremony with a 3 day old, or very very unconfortbale, Im not sure I would go to a weddin with a 3 day old.We have the option, to switch dates to May 15th, which is much much earlier and we are fine with..bhut the more family members I talk to, the more conflicted I am...
If you were me, would you change teh date? I'm thinking if she just had teh baby wed want to go see her in the hospital, not dance the night away (were pretty close!)
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  • lpstllpstl
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    Good god, it's called spell check. Use it.

    Most women don't have the baby on their actual due date, but no one is going to go to a wedding with a 3 day old baby.

    Personally, if I was able to change my date I would.
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  • ScarletGemScarletGem
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    I would change it, unless I really hated my FSIL and preferred that she not be there.  ;-) 
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  • MCarmineMCarmine member
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    Since it is somone important to you and the wedding I would say move the date if you can. May isn't THAT much eariler so you shouldn't need to rush anything.
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  • kikibabykikibaby member
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    Change the date if you can, obviously.
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  • sucrets4sucrets4 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_change-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0659b3db-10fb-4d78-b31f-d5cb02212461Post:84f0e8e3-74c0-4b73-acf4-d296e6385475">Re: do I change my date?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would change it, unless I really hated my FSIL and preferred that she not be there.  ;-) 
    Posted by ScarletGem[/QUOTE]

    Bwhahaha, agreed.
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  • bbyckesbbyckes member
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    If you're fine with a May date, go with that.  No one is coming to a wedding with a 3-day old infant.
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  • janedoe1113ajanedoe1113a member
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    I would change the date.  There is no way she'd come to the wedding with a 3 day old.  And even if she had her baby a couple weeks early or even a couple weeks late, she still probably wouldn't be there.
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  • ggmaeggmae member
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    What does your FI think? How important is it to him that his sister be at the wedding?

    We changed our wedding date (moved it up 5 months) so that my brother could make it. There was no way I was getting married without him there, but not everyone feels that way. Yeah, you can't please everyone, but it was important to DH and I that our siblings be there.
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  • ThePinkSuperheroThePinkSuperhero
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_change-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0659b3db-10fb-4d78-b31f-d5cb02212461Post:6fea9346-f04c-4a0c-9c38-4924a73bcc41">do I change my date?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Long story short: future sis in law announces she is 8 weeks pregnant this past weekend. We are planning an august wedding which coincides with the arrival of her baby by 3 days.I know alot can happen, but she might be at the ceremony with a 3 day old, or very very unconfortbale, Im not sure I would go to a weddin with a 3 day old.We have the option, to switch dates to May 15th, which is much much earlier and we are fine with..bhut the more family members I talk to, the more conflicted I am... If you were me, would you change teh date? I'm thinking if she just had teh baby wed want to go see her in the hospital, not dance the night away (were pretty close!)
    Posted by skits_1[/QUOTE]

    I'd move the wedding, if I could- although, really, life happens, you're never going to be able to accomodate all the life stuff that comes up for people.  But for a SIL?  Yeah, I'd move the wedding.
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  • tenofcups4metenofcups4me member
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    Depends on how important it is to you that she's there. Since it sounds like she's important to you, I would change it.
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  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    I would move the date in a heartbeat.  In fact, if I could move ours up now I would, but just because I want to skip several of the upcoming months for stress purposes. 

    But, I'd do it in your situation, too. 
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  • CaptiolBrideCaptiolBride
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    yeah... If it was your brother getting married..I"m sure you would appreciate the accommodation. :)
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  • thesuninherheadthesuninherhead member
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    As everyone else has said, change the date if it suits you and you want her there. Even if she didn't have the baby by then, I highly doubt she'd want to go to your wedding whilst heavily pregnant and overdue. There's no way she'll attend with a 3-day-old baby in tow, if she's even out of hospital after three days.
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