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Any Catholic Military Brides?
Hello Militay Brides!
I don't post on this board as I am not a military bride. However, I was wondering if there were any Catholic military brides? Becaue my fiance is overseas and I am Catholic and really wanting to have a Catholic wedding in my church. However, the fiance visa through the U.S requires that once he arrives we must marry within 90 days and there is 6 month marriage preparation period for the Catholic church. Obviously, we can not do that. I am wondering have any of you tried to get married or know of anybody that may have been trying to get married within the Catholic church before deployment or other military circumstances? I have heard that people in the military have gotten exceptiosn to the Catholic marriage prep in certain situations. I am just trying to see what you all did.
Thanks so much for the help!
I don't post on this board as I am not a military bride. However, I was wondering if there were any Catholic military brides? Becaue my fiance is overseas and I am Catholic and really wanting to have a Catholic wedding in my church. However, the fiance visa through the U.S requires that once he arrives we must marry within 90 days and there is 6 month marriage preparation period for the Catholic church. Obviously, we can not do that. I am wondering have any of you tried to get married or know of anybody that may have been trying to get married within the Catholic church before deployment or other military circumstances? I have heard that people in the military have gotten exceptiosn to the Catholic marriage prep in certain situations. I am just trying to see what you all did.
Thanks so much for the help!
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Re: Any Catholic Military Brides?
If you look to your left under "Cultural Wedding Boards" there is a Catholic Weddings board... If you have no help here, that may be a great place to check as well.
[QUOTE]We got married in a Catholic church. Our church required 2 meetings with the priest and 1 day long pre-cana class. It wasn't a pain at all and we actually enjoyed it. Talk to your church and priest about your options. It might come down to you finding a different church. Some priests are great and will do classes and meetings via skype, so just call around.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Yup, we had three meetings but we loved it too.
[QUOTE]<strong>We got married in a Catholic church. Our church required 2 meetings with the priest and 1 day long pre-cana class. It wasn't a pain at all and we actually enjoyed it</strong>. Talk to your church and priest about your options. It might come down to you finding a different church. Some priests are great and will do classes and meetings via skype, so just call around.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Same for us. :)
They went to her church here in the US and spoke to them about it, and they allowed them to do the Pre-Cana classes via Skype while he was in the UK (because they're not allowed to come over until they're granted the visa, right? Stupid immigration laws). They finished up well before the fiance visa was granted, and then once he got the "go", they called the church and booked a day 80 days away. Sure, it's REALLY short notice, and it will be a challenge to plan a wedding in that time frame, but what she did is this:
She interviewed all the vendors of her choosing and had a "top 5" list for each category that was in their budget (photographer, videographer, florist, DJ, and caterer). She had already bought the bridesmaids dresses and attire for bride/groom and had the groomsmen already get their sizes in at Men's Warehouse so all she had to do was call in the date of the rental as soon as she knew. Once they got the fiance visa, they booked the church, then immediately called the vendors in their preferred order to see if any were still available for that day. They got at least one of their top 5 choices in each category.
They printed the invitations at home and had everything else all assembled (including the envelopes addressed) so all they had to do was click "print" and then they could mail them out. Everyone had gotten a "save the date" type email that explained that they couldn't set a date but to be prepared for a last minute invitation.
My Cousin and his wife were allowed to just fill out a booklet (given to them by the same Priest as us).
Calindi gave a great example, but I just wanted to let you know that some Priest are very flexible.
I would check out the Catholic board, and Good Luck!
[QUOTE]Wow, didn't realize there were so many Catholic or married-to-a-Catholic girls on this board! Basically, you need to talk to your priest. As Cal said, some are more willing to work with you than others. Especially if it's a parish you've been with a while and a priest you know pretty well, they tend to work with you. Right now I'm planning to be married in my home church in my hometown, but live about 4 hours away (and could be much farther away by the time of the wedding). <strong>We're doing most of our pre-Cana through my (FI isn't Catholic) church here, but also meeting with the priest who will perform the ceremony at least one weekend. Do I think a lot of their willingness to work with us stems from FI's job? Probably. </strong> But then you have instances like Kara where the priest won't budge, so I'd go ahead and start talking to people. I would check out the Catholic board, and Good Luck!
Posted by divinemsbee[/QUOTE]
I'm not disagreeing with you, but it's pretty common to get married out of state--so we did all pre-cana through my parish here, and got married in my church back home in CT. We just contacted the CT church to book everything and they just needed our certificate from the MD church; they didnt even know H was military. I just wanted to get married at home.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Any Catholic Military Brides? : I'm not disagreeing with you, but it's pretty common to get married out of state--so we did all pre-cana through my parish here, and got married in my church back home in CT. We just contacted the CT church to book everything and they just needed our certificate from the MD church; they didnt even know H was military. I just wanted to get married at home.
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]
We also did this. We did our Pre-Cana in Oklahoma but got married in Minnesota. I just contacted the OK Arch Diocese, our priest just needed a copy of the certificate and the class discription.