Father and Step Father issues!

Re: Father and Step Father issues!

• cadamus member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  I also have a step dad. He hasn't been in my life as long as yours has but we are still really close. When they get announced its going to be Now announcing the morther of the bride and step father of the bride.....

  
  

  I thought about doing the half way thing but i would start with my stepdad and then transfer to my dad. but i am still on the fence with that. I might just have my step dad walk my mom down the isle

  

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• cebrady89 member

  

  January 2012

  I think that plan of walking down the aisle is fine! It won't be chaotic at all.

  
  

  For the announcements, could you just say "Now announcing the parents of the bride: Jane and John Smith, and Mike Doe". Then everyone is listed as a parent.

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• Kobeski2be

  

  January 2012

  Hey cebrady89 and harringtone1!
  
  Thank you both!
  
  @ cebrady 89: Thats actually a great idea for the announcement bc my dad is not bringing a date and I guess I could just have him follow...
   
  I also have a brother who is not in the bridal party and I was considering having him walk in with my dad too. I have never heard of anyone doing that before. My brother is 25 and his fiance and our 2 sisters are all in the wedding but my brother is not (*kinda by his own choice*) and I want to acknowledge the big jerk (*sorry but he is*lol*) whether he likes it or not. Is that a little unusual or should I just say ok be a big baby and sit at the table and moop? Both of your ladies input would be appreciated!
  
  @ harringtone1: I had the same issue with my Dad. I was actually doing a Facetime chat with him on my iPhone and when I asked him about it he got really nasty and quiet and didnt hear from him for weeks either. He conceded but that he would walk me halfway and then my step dad walk the other half. I dont know which order I should do that in but I also want both of them to give me away. My dad said that he would hand me off and just follow the rest of the way down. Is that going to look odd?
  
  Thank you ladies again!!!!

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• aragx6 member

  

  January 2012

  You could also just not announce anyone other than the B&G at the reception. Frankly people either know who they are or don't care.

  

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• Kobeski2be

  

  January 2012

  Hey aragx6
  
  Ya thats true. lol. We are having an open bar at our reception so i dont think ppl are going to be too coherent after a while anyway lol.

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• harringtone1

  

  January 2012

  My computer just froze while I was trying to post a reply, so I apologize in advance if I end up double posting

  
  

  As far as having your brother walk you down too, I think thats sweet and not weird or unusual at all! I think its nice to want to get him involved. If it were me, my only concern though would be any confusion (for the bridal party/you and for the guests) of having 3 people walk you down. It could get a bit chaotic. But you could certainly make it work if it was important to you. Maybe your brother walks you all the way, and each dad only half...? Otherwise, if you wanted to get your brother involved you could have him do a reading if its a religious ceremony, or have him play an instrument if he's musical (my fiance played the piano as his sister walked down the aisle), or something like that. Get creative

  
  

  In regard to your dad, thats awesome that he's come around a bit - but I still say, if its important to you to have them both walk you the whole way and give you away then make that known and stand your ground. Your dad has come this far, I'm sure he'd be able to come around a little more! But if you do decide you want/have to do half way for each, I think that (at least in my opinion) it may be important to your dad to let him go first. I'm doing this for the father-daughter dances. I'm doing one with each (my father doesn't actually know that yet - it'll be a fun wedding day surprise! haha), but because he is my biological father, I'm giving him the first one.

  

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• Sydney91 member

  

  January 2012

  I like the idea of both of them walking you all the way. Would they be okay with this? I havn't seen this done outside Hearland (TV show), but I thought it might be an option.

  

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