August 2012 Weddings

I've just about had it...

There have already been a few posts about people RSVPing, so I'll keep my RSVP rant short; we STILL have 100 out of 230 people unaccounted for with an RSVP date of 7/7.  Those people include my dad & stepmom and FI's mom, all of whom apparently think I just like to waste stamps--YES I know they're going to be there, but why would I send them a SASE?  And I still need to know what they want to eat!

Anyway, today is the deadline to book a hotel room in our block (and I provided this info on our invitations).  I called today to see how many had been booked...the grand total is 3--my mom, FMIL & FGMIL!  4 if you count ours.  We had 20 rooms held.  We're not on the hook for the remaining ones (thank God), but I'm beyond irritated that no one else has booked it.  There are at least 10 out of town couples who have already RSVPed yes and will need a hotel, but none of them have booked.

The reason we booked this hotel was that it was an awesome deal--$80/night.  The rooms are pretty basic, but the hotel is new, clean, and you can't beat the price.  The regular rates for the rooms at that hotel are $109.  There are other slightly more upscale hotels across the street that offered us a reduced rate of $109, with their regular rates being $119.  We went with the cheaper hotel to save everyone some money, but had I known that no one was going to take advantage of the reduced rate, we would've just gone with one of the nicer hotels across the street! 

I've also bought stuff for 20 OOT bags that I can't use now--if people aren't in our block, the hotel has no way of knowing who to give them to at check in.  And we had reserved a banquet room at the hotel for everyone to eat breakfast in, but now I'm wondering if I should just cancel it, as we won't have any good way of figuring out how many of our guests are there if they aren't in our block.  Not to mention, we have a shuttle to/from the reception through the hotel. If our hotel ends up fully booked and they have to use another hotel, these people will also be without transportation to/from the reception. 

I know people use travel points etc and aren't required to stay at the one we reserved....but the majority of these people are FIs friends, and we've all been at the same hotel together and had afterparties for other weddings, so I find it really unlikely that they'd go elsewhere (especially considering the shuttle)--it's just a matter of everyone dragging their feet.  It's just so irritating that we spent a day looking at hotels, reserved a banquet room, and bought OOT bag stuff for nothing. 
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  • I feel your pain. Our RSVP date was July 1st and we're still waiting on quite a few RSVPs. The number of people RSVPing "no" is also a big bummer. I don't want to do any followup calls either, because I don't want to face the rejection. I know i'm taking this all much more personally than I should, though.
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  • I know this sounds juvenille but I thought of calling people and pretending to be my MOH. I've only met people in fiances side of the family ONCE so I know that they won't know my voice. and I feel like its MORE embrassing for the people to know that the Maid of honor for the wedding has to call than to tgink its just the bride being a bridezilla being liek "TELL ME IF YOU ARE COMING"
    this might sound insane, but i actually ASKED my MOH if i could pretend to be her. lol


    ON the other hand I feel you on teh hotels. I am so annoyed. I booked 10 rooms at one hotel. The hotel DOES have 9 rooms booked- but then there is another hotel with people that booked there because it was 5$ cheaper off hte RACK rate. But hello, I did a hotel block, so the hotel we are staying at is actually going to be $25 dollars cheaper than the one they booked. NOw I have to pay extra to have the shuttle get these other people!!!
     there are also people that didn't book in the block because they didint know "how" thye said so i had to CALL and rebook them into the block. It was SOOOO annoying...
    i was liek "well if you don't want to save money than fine"

    We have about 15 out of town rooms, and they are scattered at all these different hotels in the area- for God knows WHAT reason....
    iso i am going to drive all over to drop off OOT bags, and i am sure someone will be missed!
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  • I feel your pain. I finally just wrote off the last of the non-responders. Every non-responder that responded at the last minute said no, and i'm tired of chasing people. Tomorrow makes a week from the RSVP deadline, so I'm just forgetting about those people. They aren't flying 3,000 miles at the last minute.

    I didn't do hotel blocks. They were over $200 per night, would only block out 10 rooms total, and I would have to guarantee (pay for) 90% of the rooms. That was not happening.

    Good thing I didn't. We have a 76% decline rate.

    So not worth it.
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  • awwww man dont worry it will work out.

    As for pretending to be your MOH I would sooooo do that
  • I feel the pain. People are inconsiderate jerks and that's all there is to it. I don't understand what's so difficult about mailing in a damn card. Neither of our parents or his grandparents, or his siblings have sent in cards but then again they're only part of the problems so whatever. My MOH knowing how stressed this makes me has graciously offered to recruit another bridesmaid and make the calls for me. Thank god for good friends.

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  • Hotel blocks have been kind of annoying. So I get what you're saying... We sent an information card that said HOTEL INFORMATION in huge yellow letters with the website where to book, name of the hotel and the phone number incase someone wasnt internet savvy! WTH I still have had a bunch of people facebook me or call asking what the hotel info is!!! seriously!!!! uggggghhhh
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    I feel your pain, My RSVP date is thursday and I am still waiting for answers from 39 people. His mother and father haven't replied and neither have an of his groomsmen, and sadly these aren't people I am sure will come so I actually need the responses.
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  • Our hotel block booking deadline isn't for a couple weeks, but I've been trying to mention reserving rooms to friends that I see. We need to have a certain number of rooms booked to get a free shuttle. I know that we will have no problem meeting that number, but I'm worried that people won't book on time. The last wedding we went to, most of our friends waited until the last minute to book a room. By then, the block had been released and they were all booked up. Some people had to stay at a different hotel, and they weren't happy about it. So hopefully they learned their lesson and will actually book a hotel on time for our wedding.
  • I'm sorry, that all seems really frustrating.

    My fiance and I divided up the responsibilities for hunting down guest rsvps, and that's made it a lot easier for us.

    Basically, my mom and his mom are both retired, and they've both been great about asking the people we needed asked about their rsvps. So they, my fiance and I split up the guest list and just knocked it out. The line we took with asking was we wanted to make sure they would be able to book a room at the hotel if they needed it. They all seemed grateful for the attention, and it luckily hasn't been awkward. We only have 2 unknowns on the list now, with 7 weeks to go, so I'm feeling relieved. 
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