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What should I tell my MOH sister (dress issue, AGAIN!)?

I know I have posted about this issue before but now I'm getting passed upset to just plain angry. 

My sister is my only bridesmaid so you think it would be easy to deal with just her dress.  I was also making it easier for my by buying the dress myself.  I started with a $50 budget hoping to find a deal (which I found plenty).  The ones I showed her she hated.  I upped the budget to $150 to accomodate the expense of longer dresses which she wanted.   I even changed my wedding colors from green and pink to green and lavender because she'd prefer to wear a lavender dress.  I love lavender too, so it's not a big deal.

So I thought I found the perfect dress, I was excited about it because it's pretty and isn't overly formal, had everything she wanted (long, straps, lavender) Eden Bridals dress style 7312.  Her reply was that it was only "okay" and that she was worried about getting cold in it. 

I don't know what to do.  I have probably spent 10 plus hours looking online for dresses.  The one dress she had shown me once before wouldn't keep her any warmer than this one and It was well over budget.  She has not shown me any other dresses.  Even if I order now it wouldn't arrive until the end of April giving me just enough time to get alterations done without worring about cutting it close time wise.

I'm not spending another minute looking at bridesmaid dresses.  I didn't even spend that much time finding my dress.  I am thinking of telling her she has a week to come up with something else otherwise take it or leave it and bring a sweater.  Is that too bitchy?

Re: What should I tell my MOH sister (dress issue, AGAIN!)?

  • If you've decided $150 is all you want to spend (which I think is more than generous, BTW) and she has a different dress she likes, I'd tell her that $150 is your budget and if she has a different dress she likes more she is welcome to order it and pay the difference. I mean, if the other dress is something you like and are okay with it's perfectly reasonable for her to pay the difference. 
  • Your sister should be comfortable in her dress but if you are paying for it I don't think she has to LOVE it.  If she's going to be indoors most of the time and if she's going to be dancing she shouldn't get too cold, you can suggest that she bring a neutral color cardigan or wrap that she already owns.  You have been MORE than accommodating and I wouldn't spend any more time looking at dresses.  Especially if you are fine the dress that she liked aside from the price, do as pp suggested and say she's welcome to go with the one she liked if she doesn't mind covering the difference over $150, or else you will be glad to order the dress you picked for her, but in either case her dress needs to be ordered by X date.  Good luck!

    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
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