Confessions/Vents

emarston1 · December 2011

Let's hear 'em ladies!

Thumper1148 · December 2011

Vent!!!! I have a sore throat!! Really?!? A week and a half before Christmas and I start to come down with something!!

S o upset. My work Christmas party (which rocks!), is this Friday. Then we head to see FI's family over the weekend in Cleveland. I. Can. Not. Get. Sick.

So lots of vitamins and sleep till Friday and hope I can nip this cold quickly!!

acaponi87 · December 2011

I confess that i am about to throw up in front of 30 5th graders. FI and i went bowling last night and i had 4 beers over the course of 3 hours (reg can of beer). For some reason this got me hammered. I don't know why..,thats like nothing for me. So i'm hungover and it is BAD.

TheFutureMrsB81 · December 2011

I confess and vent that I seriously want to punch my FI in his face lately. We had a huge fight Saturday over nothing and I told him how I felt about a lot of things. We haven't had sex in over a month. He shows no affection hardly and shows me no attention. I told him and he said he would work on it. Well, 4 days later and nothing has changed. I don't know why I bother trying to tell him how I feel when he doesn't care. I understand a week or 2 of the month was because of my surgery, but holy cow... let me take a vicodin and have sex with me. I'll be alright!

MMRoberts11 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:00d81b73-3945-42dc-8c73-513e67adf84d">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : Does she still not know you are engaged?!
Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

I was wondering this too.

entropicbeauty · December 2011

I confess, I'm annoyed that my FI invited our friends over for dinner last night and then proceeded to insist on watching a 2 hour documentary which kept me up super late.

matuofm · December 2011

Super-Flameworthy Confession, I know:

Sometimes I judge the relationships of people on this board based on what they post. Like, if it was my friend telling me such-and-such a story, I'd be like "Honey, this crap is wrong in a serious way and if he's treating you like this now, I think you should seriously reconsider marrying him." Or "Wow, if you really feel that way about him, I don't know why you're marrying him. I can't imagine a circumstance where I would EVER talk about DH that way."

But I don't feel like we're actually that close, so I don't make those comments. But I think them, because we share things here that I wouldn't share with someone IRL unless we were that close. If that makes any sense.

So I'm kind of having an attack of the guilts here. Erm...sorry.

PhoneCardLady · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:00d81b73-3945-42dc-8c73-513e67adf84d">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : Does she still not know you are engaged?!
Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

Sadly, no and I don't know what his reasoning is....however, I may have to take a stand and tell him I will tell her and his stepdad if he can't.

I mean, how can I start planning a wedding??

larzhope · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:7735bc5e-05d3-4a7c-a568-811b337d4e3d">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]Super-Flameworthy Confession, I know: Sometimes I judge the relationships of people on this board based on what they post. Like, if it was my friend telling me such-and-such a story, I'd be like "Honey, this crap is wrong in a serious way and if he's treating you like this now, I think you should seriously reconsider marrying him." Or "Wow, if you really feel that way about him, I don't know why you're marrying him. I can't imagine a circumstance where I would EVER talk about DH that way." But I don't feel like we're actually that close, so I don't make those comments. But I think them, because we share things here that I wouldn't share with someone IRL unless we were that close. If that makes any sense. So I'm kind of having an attack of the guilts here. Erm...sorry.
Posted by matuofm[/QUOTE]

this.... every single word of this. <3

PhoneCardLady · December 2011

Vent 1: I wish people would stop knocking my decisions on Christmas gifts!

Vent 2: I wish FI would talk to him mom about us, and Christmas as well.

MMRoberts11 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:7735bc5e-05d3-4a7c-a568-811b337d4e3d">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]Super-Flameworthy Confession, I know: Sometimes I judge the relationships of people on this board based on what they post. Like, if it was my friend telling me such-and-such a story, I'd be like "Honey, this crap is wrong in a serious way and if he's treating you like this now, I think you should seriously reconsider marrying him." Or "Wow, if you really feel that way about him, I don't know why you're marrying him. I can't imagine a circumstance where I would EVER talk about DH that way." But I don't feel like we're actually that close, so I don't make those comments. But I think them, because we share things here that I wouldn't share with someone IRL unless we were that close. If that makes any sense. So I'm kind of having an attack of the guilts here. Erm...sorry.
Posted by matuofm[/QUOTE]

I'll admit, I do this too sometimes.

emarston1 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:d7229eed-d7c1-48b0-86e2-ebda4c7ad47e">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]Vent 1: I wish people would stop knocking my decisions on Christmas gifts! <strong>Vent 2: I wish FI would talk to him mom about us, and Christmas as well.
</strong>Posted by PhoneCardLady[/QUOTE]

Does she still not know you are engaged?!

rcj2rcd · December 2011

Oh TK why are you posting out of order?!? This whole thread was very confusing until I figured that out. Confession #1: I'm a Judgy McJudgerson. But the advice I give (or think in my head) I rarely take myself. Confession #2: not anything against the board (because it's great) and definitely not searching for pity, but I don't feel connected anymore, yet, TN doesn't do it for me either. Not sure where I fit in

emarston1 · December 2011

Yes, the posting issues are very annoying. TK peeps keep telling us mods that they are "working on it" but it's been like this for over a week and it's just ridiculous.

Aww Rachael - I feel the same way sometimes. I think a lot of it is because I have a hard time participating in some of the wedding threads - especially AW Thursdays. Plus I didn't grow up around here and I didn't get married in Detroit so I'm not helpful (like at all) on the vendor suggestion threads.

Hopefully we can liven this place up so we can participate more and have it be a more community feel. And I am the first to admit, I'm partially to blame as the mod. I could definitely start more discussions but I don't

. My resolution as mod is to get this place hoppin' again!

Meegles4 · December 2011

I confess I have zero motivation to do anything WR, and it's basically been that way for the last month or so and I don't see it changing anytime soon. I thought I'd be all about this wedding planning thing and in reality? It's a big ol' pile of MEH.

Also, my vent is that TK is all wonky. It makes it really hard to follow any drama over on E :-)

Mel -- Co-sign.
RJ -- Maybe after the holidays you'll feel more connected? I feel somewhat disconnected, but I think partly it's because there hasn't been a ton of activity the last couple weeks.

rcj2rcd · December 2011

Liz - I'm sorry, didn't mean to insinuate you aren't a good mod (cause you're great). I'm just lamenting on my boringness since the wedding. PS - just finished The Dovekeepers. Really good if you like historical-inspired fiction. Going to start Sarah's Key tonight.

zulamay · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:ba0eac06-cdad-4179-a8b7-65bf4faf0395">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh TK why are you posting out of order?!? This whole thread was very confusing until I figured that out. Confession #1: I'm a Judgy McJudgerson. But the advice I give (or think in my head) I rarely take myself. <strong>Confession #2: not anything against the board (because it's great) and definitely not searching for pity, but I don't feel connected anymore, yet, TN doesn't do it for me either. Not sure where I fit in :(</strong>
Posted by rcj2rcd[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I agree! I'm not ready for babies so I'm like, where do I fit in? But I like these people! :)</div><div>
</div><div>

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emarston1 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:a2203cfc-8f15-4743-9252-4aa5bebe0cd9">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : Sadly, no and I don't know what his reasoning is....however, I may have to take a stand and tell him I will tell her and his stepdad if he can't. I mean, how can I start planning a wedding??
Posted by PhoneCardLady[/QUOTE]

PCL - from one woman to another, I would not stick around if my DH did this. There is absolutely no excuse for him to not have told his parents yet. Wasn't the "deadline" you gave him the end of September?

And I don't know how to say this without coming across as judgey or condescending or anything and I truly don't mean it in this manner but I worry about your relationship based on many of your posts. It seems like you and Dan have major communication issues and I urge you to get these worked out. No marriage can survive if the couple doesn't know how to communicate. I would strongly encourage you to go to marriage counseling/couples counseling.

It seems like you mention a lot how you guys had an argument recently or he doesn't pick up your calls or he's ignoring you. These are huge red flags which again, goes back to the communication issue. Obviously every couple argues (and I would be worried about a couple that didn't) but it doesn't seem like your arguments are constructive and his behavior is quite immature IMO.

I realize that no one knows exactly what goes on in a relationship except for the two people in it but based on what you've shared on this board, it really doesn't seem like you and Dan are on the same page. Again, I'm not being judgey this comes from a place of genuine concern for you.

If you need anyone to talk to or anything like, feel free to PM me.

emarston1 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:a2853398-7e9d-4a75-b128-99b41266eb90">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Liz - I'm sorry, didn't mean to insinuate you aren't a good mod (cause you're great). I'm just lamenting on my boringness since the wedding</strong>. PS - just finished The Dovekeepers. Really good if you like historical-inspired fiction. Going to start Sarah's Key tonight.
Posted by rcj2rcd[/QUOTE]

Oh no I didn't think that at all! I was lamenting that I also feel the same way as you that I don't feel as connected since the wedding.

But I also know I could do a better job of starting NWR threads/general chit chat and have been bad about this for awhile. Nothing that you said prompted it, just my own I need to do better. Plus if I put it in a post, I'll hold myself to it since it's now public record :)

drewmw · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:7735bc5e-05d3-4a7c-a568-811b337d4e3d">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]Super-Flameworthy Confession, I know: Sometimes I judge the relationships of people on this board based on what they post. Like, if it was my friend telling me such-and-such a story, I'd be like "Honey, this crap is wrong in a serious way and if he's treating you like this now, I think you should seriously reconsider marrying him." Or "Wow, if you really feel that way about him, I don't know why you're marrying him. I can't imagine a circumstance where I would EVER talk about DH that way." But I don't feel like we're actually that close, so I don't make those comments. But I think them, because we share things here that I wouldn't share with someone IRL unless we were that close. If that makes any sense. So I'm kind of having an attack of the guilts here. Erm...sorry.
Posted by matuofm[/QUOTE]

YES.

There have been some posts on my month board in the past where girls post something about a fight they had with their FI... and seriously, with some of the things they say their FI does or says... Even when I fight with my FI, which is very rarely, he never ever calls me names, yells at me, belittles me, makes me feel stupid, ignores me, etc. And honestly, I wouldn't be with a man who did. But it seems like some people have to put up with that on a regular basis. It really makes me wonder, but I never say anything because like you said, matuofm, I don't really know them so I feel like I can't make comments like that. Hmm.

drewmw · December 2011

Oh, also, my vent:

I am soooo glad I have this new, amazing job! Buuut I have orientation 7-4 all this week and next week. One of my really good friends (and BMs) moved to Utah in May, and she is back in A2 for this week only. We've been planning this for a couple months, and she's staying at my apartment. She's getting married in August, and her older sister is getting married in October. They are going dress shopping together tomorrow and asked me to go with them awhile ago! I was so excited! But, of course, I have orientation all day and can't go. Pooo

theleos · December 2011

work is BORING because of the holidays! I'm in sales, so i'm doing the most I can do and alot of research on "who to sell to", but it's truly painful

matuofm · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:ba0eac06-cdad-4179-a8b7-65bf4faf0395">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE] Confession #2: not anything against the board (because it's great) and definitely not searching for pity, but I don't feel connected anymore, yet, TN doesn't do it for me either. Not sure where I fit in :(
Posted by rcj2rcd[/QUOTE]

I totally feel you. I've thought about checking out BNOTB on TN, but haven't yet. I love how nice this board is, and I love that I feel like I (as much as one can online) know the people here. But I'm just not interested in wedding stuff anymore. Because of the high level of diaster surrounding our wedding planning and the fact that we didn't use basically ANY traditional vendors. I feel like I can't help others much. Plus, I was just never really into the traditional wedding scene anyway and am thrilled to be done with it - so I sort of feel like if I ever see another bouquet in my life it will be too soon, and that kind of includes everyone else's (sorry, ladies!) Maybe we just need to chit-chat more, like Liz says - assuming people are up for it.
I'd love to see you keep posting. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

acaponi87 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-69?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:3722548b-2e41-4f1e-ac5e-5397ffdae3e9Post:a2853398-7e9d-4a75-b128-99b41266eb90">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]Liz - I'm sorry, didn't mean to insinuate you aren't a good mod (cause you're great). I'm just lamenting on my boringness since the wedding. PS - just finished The Dovekeepers. Really good if you like historical-inspired fiction. <strong>Going to start Sarah's Key tonight.</strong>
Posted by rcj2rcd[/QUOTE]

I read this a few months ago. I'm curious what you think about it. Let me know when you get done! I'll probably check out the Dovekeepers! Thanks for the rec I like historical-inspired fiction!

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