Invite Wording

MadTownBride2B · March 2010

Sorry if this has been asked before. I have been searching online and am having trouble finding an answer to this question.

For married couples, I really want to include the wife's first name, but I also would like to include Mr. and Mrs. However, everything I've been reading either addresses married couples as Mr. and Mrs. John Doe or John and Jane Doe (without titles).

If I want to include titles, should I address my invites as Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe or Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe?

Thanks in advance.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

Don't separate the man's first name from his last name. Put the woman first. Those are the rules of invitation etiquette that should help you figure out most things!

So:

Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith

or

Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith

The "and" indicates they are married. If not, put them on separate lines.

HTH!

MadTownBride2B · March 2010

Thank you!

squirrly · March 2010

The appropriate options are:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

or

Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe

However - the latter is proper only if the wife has a title (other than Mrs.) that requires her to be split from her husband:

Captain Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe
Reverend Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe
Doctor Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe

Otherwise, very strict etiquette requires Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. That said - I think Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe is fine. Some of your older guests may not appreciate it, though.

[Deleted User] · March 2010

verseit.com will help you tremendously!

tenofcups4me · March 2010

This is one case where traditional etiquette has not caught up with modern mores. I would do:

Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe.

(Since no one can tell me WHY a man's first name can't be separated from his last name, that's not a rule I care about following.)

squirrly · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invite-wording-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:763fa36d-d120-47fe-b77a-868ea3c02546Post:ac376e99-691f-4d17-9fdc-8164519cdb6e">Re: Invite Wording</a>:
[QUOTE]This is one case where traditional etiquette has not caught up with modern mores. I would do: Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe. (Since no one can tell me WHY a man's first name can't be separated from his last name, that's not a rule I care about following.)
Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

I believe it's because it's HIS name. His wife has taken her husband's name, but it is not her own.

tenofcups4me · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invite-wording-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:763fa36d-d120-47fe-b77a-868ea3c02546Post:22350c38-f1f0-4e15-bbf4-396b77e9cd10">Re: Invite Wording</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invite Wording : I believe it's because it's HIS name. His wife has taken her husband's name, but it is not her own.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry, but that makes absolutely no sense. If a woman has taken her husband's name, it does become her name as well and is now her own.

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