Can I get married in a catholic church?

Re: Can I get married in a catholic church?

• Amanda1443994 member

  

  January 2012

  I was unable to get married in the Catholic Church. I am Catholic and attend services every Sunday, but my FI is not. My priest said he would have married us anyway, accept for the fact that my FI was not baptized. If you've been baptized they may let you. It may also depend on the individual church.

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• MoonlightSilver member

  

  January 2012

  I've heard that, as long as one person is Catholic, you can get married in the church, but I really do think it depends on the individual priest. Your best bet, if you have one particular church in mind, is to contact the priest and ask if you can get married there.

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• skarupak

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  I don't think there are "local rules" persay, but some priests are a bit more strict than others. I believe the general rule is that as long as one person is Catholic, and you both agree to raise your children Catholic, you can be married in the Catholic Church. Additionally you will have to attend pre-cana. One thing to note: you mention that you like the look of the church, but please remember that a marriage in a Catholic church is a sacrament. If it is just the look you are going for and not the spiritual aspect, I would consider looking into a chapel or non-denominational church in your area. I would think very carefully about whether a Catholic ceremony is right for you and your marriage, especially what that means for you as a non-Catholic.

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• pokey730 member

  

  January 2012

  I think it depends on the priest. FI was married in a Catholic church for his first wedding, and he had to go through all these classes and counseling sessions about his "decision" to convert(quotation marks because it was more decided for him by ex wife and her crazy family).
  
  Then a friend of mine who is not Catholic was married in a Catholic church with little to no red tape, so I'd just talk with the priest, he may be more laid back than others. Good Luck!

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• [Deleted User]

  

  January 2012

  I agree and honestly I can get married anywhere but since it is the church he grew up in it would mean a lot to him more than anything i just happen to think that church is beautiful not that it's the only reason i want to get married there. I will look into it further and see what the priest says. Thanks

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• christikao

  

  January 2012

  You can get married in a Catholic church even if one of you is not baptized as long as the Bishop approves (I'm not even Christian but DH is Catholic). As far as I know the Bishop for Bridegport Dioce doesn't have an issue with it as long as one of you is a confirmed Catholic and you promise to raise your kid Catholic. You also have to go through Pre Cana and couple meetings with the Priest. If your FI is not confirmed he will have to go through 6 classes in order to get confirmed and I know in Bridgeport Dioce they only do confirmation during certain months.

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• kls114 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_can-married-catholic-church?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:65Discussion:2eb1d398-a7a2-4f93-9016-51673cf66641Post:84dc5b93-fed5-4093-87bf-26857e490c46">Re: Can I get married in a catholic church?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I don't think there are "local rules" persay, but some priests are a bit more strict than others. I believe the general rule is that as long as one person is Catholic, and you both agree to raise your children Catholic, you can be married in the Catholic Church. Additionally you will have to attend pre-cana. One thing to note: you mention that you like the look of the church, but please remember that a marriage in a Catholic church is a sacrament. If it is just the look you are going for and not the spiritual aspect, I would consider looking into a chapel or non-denominational church in your area. I would think very carefully about whether a Catholic ceremony is right for you and your marriage, especially what that means for you as a non-Catholic.
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  Ditto. As long as one of you is Catholic than you should be ok. As others have stated, I would talk with FI to see what your views are in raising a family, etc. Getting married is a sacrament, and is a big deal in the Catholic Church.
  
  Talk with your FI's priest in his local church. Take if from there.
  
  You will have to attend Pre Cana and meet with the priest before the wedding.
  
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• stefpet22

  

  January 2012

  I am getting married in a catholic church and I am not catholic. My FI is catholic and they are allowing us to get married in the church because I was baptist in the name of the father, son and holy spirit. I was not baptised catholic, but since I was baptisted by those three things, they will do it. I had to call a ton of churchs to fine one that didn't make us join and required him to be a member. We are getting married at Our Lady of Mount Carmel in Hamden. From just talking to the priest, he is really nice. Hope this helps. 

  

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• [Deleted User]

  

  January 2012

  Thank you all for your replys and again i did'nt mean i want to get married in a catholic church because their pretty I just like the idea of it because it would mean a lot to him if we would be able to.And if that's what he wants i will be willing to do whatever it take s thanks a lot!

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• Abeja1226

  

  January 2012

  In order to get married in a catholic church in CT, one person MUST be catholic and they must be CONFIRMED catholic.  The other person MUST be Christian of some sort and they must be CONFIRMED in their christian religion (Protestant for example).  If either of you are divorced, you also may need special permission from the Arch Bishop in CT.  I know this only because I am catholic and made my confirmation 2 years ago in order to get married in the Catholic Church,  My Fiance is not catholic, but is Protestant and is confirmed in his church and we have no problem.
  There are RICA classes through the Hartford Diecise (spelling) that the non-catholic person can take and that would mean they would be converting to Catholicism and be confirmed as well and thus able to get married in a Catholid church, however, this is not required if they are confirmed Christian to begin with.

  

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