Engagement Party

tesskerr · May 2011

CN engagement party - fancy place that 50% of guests will LOVE but may make 50% uncomfortable because of "fanciness" or casual sports bar place that is more used for 18th/21st parties, but perfectly fine for an engagement party, and no one will be uncomfortable?

My sis and I are organising my (and FI) engagement party (It's not seen to be rude in New Zealand to throw your own parties, I have never been to an engagement party NOT thrown by the bride and groom, so please just ignore that part)

There are 2 options we are looking at, one is a fusion Thai restaurant, the food is amazing, they have a very cool bar we can hire privately for the night, incredible cocktails, award winning chef, and I can pay some Bartercard (an international barter system that I also take in my business) so it will cost us less actual cash.

The other is a popular sports bar and restaurant. The food is nice, we go there every sunday to watch rugby league, they have a private room we can hire, has a pool table.

I think my family and friends would love the fancy thai place. I would prefer that. I think my FI family and friends would prefer casual place, as they don't really enjoy getting dressed up.

I know it's about making the guests comfortable, and no one will mind going to the more casual place, but I kinda think of engagement parties as being a bit more special than an 18th/21st party (this is what the casual place is mainly used for)

I know the answer will probably be the casual place, I can always just have a girls night at fancy place, but what would you do?

tesskerr · May 2011

Thanks! My FI prefers the casual place, he knows his family won't get dressed up, I get the feeling he might be embaressed if they turn up too casual? I don't care what people wear, and I know the place isn't going to care what people wear, and I know the family would be oblivious to the fact that they are a little on the casual side, so it really shouldn't matter right?

TheCranberry · May 2011

I say go with the Thai place. It's more special than the place you go to all the time. Will you have a separate room at the Thai place? Maybe that will make FI's family feel more comfortable. Or can you spread word of mouth that people don't have to get too dressed up?

jsleik · May 2011

Go for the Thai place!! it is the one you want and it is a special occasion. If you're in a private area, it doesn't matter about how everyone looks. That way you get the party you want, your friends and family there, and really yummy food and drink. :-)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_engagement-party-17?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:61692765-f1d9-48bc-8a01-efe869334921Post:77c1118d-71f3-40bb-a5f8-c7da7494f410">Re: Engagement Party</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks! My FI prefers the casual place, he knows his family won't get dressed up, I get the feeling he might be embaressed if they turn up too casual? I don't care what people wear, and I know the place isn't going to care what people wear, and I know the family would be oblivious to the fact that they are a little on the casual side, so it really shouldn't matter right?
Posted by tesskerr[/QUOTE]

Exactly. :-) It sounds like the Thai place might not even end up being too much more expensive?

Out of curiosity, what rugby team do you follow? My husband lived in NZ for a little over a year and my SIL went to graduate school there.

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