Bridal Shower Question-

rebeccaa12 · January 2012

I wasn't going to accept a bridal shower- bc I tend to think games are wack, and kind of wanted one less thing to deal with, but unfortunately, my sisters/best friends/neighbor/and FSILs wont NOT let me have one. Not to the point where I'm 'just doing it for them', but I just didn't want anyone to have an extra expense or worries or anything like that.

So, I'm having one. A little late judging by the timeframe y'all have had yours, but looks like I'm having one. I got asked for a guest list and am having trouble navigating with who should be invited...

Question: How many people were invited to your Bridal Shower?

ETA: Wording

jml1981 · January 2012

My bridal shower isn't until Feb 5th (invites went out last week) and I've invited about 30 women that live fairly close to us (We invited about 120 total people to the wedding)

cu97tiger · January 2012

Hometown shower is Jan. 21 - about 35 people invited (almost all aunts/female cousins).

Local shower is Jan. 28 - about 15 people invited

Just let your friends/family do all the planning and enjoy yourself

[Deleted User] · January 2012

I gave my MOH a guestlist of about 25

adrienne0925 · January 2012

My list was about 50. I doubt all will come though and mine in 1/21/12! I am excited. I look at it as a good time to see everyone and spend the afternoon with the ladies!

rebeccaa12 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:9dc1b2b8-4521-4bfa-8afc-94ab6f781147Post:3e133350-428c-4f3b-97f9-3c0106f44848">Re: Bridal Shower Question-</a>:
[QUOTE]My bridal shower isn't until Feb 5th (invites went out last week) and I've invited about 30 women that live fairly close to us (We invited about 120 total people to the wedding)
Posted by jml1981[/QUOTE]

Oh okay, good. I am getting asked for a guest list and didn't know what was the norm. I obviously didn't want every female that is invited to the wedding invited, but, including my bridal party and immediate family, I'm looking about about 38, where my guest list is around 265 for wedding. Is that over doing it?

My sister told me not to worry bc she knows which aunts/cousins probably wont come. FI's family is really close to us and he has like a billion aunts, which drove the list right up!! Lol

rebeccaa12 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:9dc1b2b8-4521-4bfa-8afc-94ab6f781147Post:48f257c1-e516-41ae-b5e0-b65b4d7e04a4">Re: Bridal Shower Question-</a>:
[QUOTE]Hometown shower is Jan. 21 - about 35 people invited (almost all aunts/female cousins). Local shower is Jan. 28 - about 15 people invited <strong>Just let your friends/family do all the planning and enjoy yourself :)
</strong>Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

Good advice :)

73jewels · January 2012

My total invited to the wedding is 180 and I gave my MOH a list of 32. That is immediate family, wedding party, and close friends. I think 38 for 265 is TOTALLY not overdoing it!

KH 2012 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:9dc1b2b8-4521-4bfa-8afc-94ab6f781147Post:b0f37a48-535d-434b-82fc-fc160373a70b">Bridal Shower Question-</a>:
[QUOTE]I<strong> wasn't going to accept a bridal shower- bc I tend to think games are wack, and kind of wanted one less thing to deal with, but unfortunately, my sisters/best friends/neighbor/and FSILs wont NOT let me have one. N</strong>ot to the point where I'm 'just doing it for them', but I just didn't want anyone to have an extra expense or worries or anything like that. So, I'm having one. A little late judging by the timeframe y'all have had yours, but looks like I'm having one. I got asked for a guest list and am having trouble navigating with who should be invited... Question: How many people were invited to your Bridal Shower? ETA: Wording :)
Posted by rebeccaa12[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>u just had this same arugument this weekend with our families as we were all sitting down for a favor making sweatshop. my family and his family ambushed me. i really dont want a shower i have lived on my own since after college and fiance and i live together for two years. Then my sister throws in well people are going to think you didnt invite them blah bah-cant we just say i didnt want one! ahhh so compromise was that they can do a small one just the aunts and cousins from both families so they can all get together and meet each other prior to the wedding. i made a list of 26 but 5 are out of state and prob wont come. so their invites are literally going out today (my mom is hosting) and we registered for about 40 items total online with bed bath beyond and macys (we were ging to do this anyways for guests who dont want to give cash at the wedding). the shower i think is feb 12. i definitely didnt want the added stress right before the wedding but hopefully its just a nice lunch get together and our families can get some more time together</div>

jbrook12 · January 2012

My shower is Jan 28 and there are about 30 people invited. Invitations went out last week.

elidellio · January 2012

Mine is on Saturday! I invited about 25 people but only expect about 18 to attend. I did all my local family members, close friends, and a few family friends. Nothing too big. I agree with PP, too, send your guest list and then forget about it. They can do all the planning and stressing, lol.

Dlreiter · January 2012

mine is on Sunday-30 people are coming

jml1981 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:9dc1b2b8-4521-4bfa-8afc-94ab6f781147Post:abb6ee9b-b1c3-4d5d-bf3a-b91ef35fff3f">Re: Bridal Shower Question-</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower Question- : Oh okay, good. I am getting asked for a guest list and didn't know what was the norm. I obviously didn't want every female that is invited to the wedding invited, but, including my bridal party and immediate family, I'm looking about about 38, where my guest list is around 265 for wedding. <strong>Is that over doing it?</strong> My sister told me not to worry bc she knows which aunts/cousins probably wont come. FI's family is really close to us and he has like a billion aunts, which drove the list right up!! Lol
Posted by rebeccaa12[/QUOTE]

Not at all!! I think that's a good number and you have to know that not everyone will come. Plus it gives people an option to give you a gift in person instead of mailing it or bringing it to the wedding.

mary1217 · January 2012

My shower is Jan. 29th and we are inviting all aunt and female cousins and friends that are inviting to the wedding, minus a few, but all of his aunts are out of town, including a few friends that are invited, so I know they won't be coming but I didn't want them to feel left out. There will probably only be about 18 people actually coming.

rebeccaa12 · January 2012

Whew- thanks y'all!! I totally didn't want to come off as rude ESPECIALLY given that I didn't want one in the first place. I pretty much kept it immediate family, bridal party/aunts/cousins.

@KH2012, yea, I really wanted to keep the registries rather small for the same reasons. We've lived together 3 years and in our own home for a year now. I am a little conflicted bc I've been DYING to buy stuff for my house that has been on hold due to the wedding, but I also again, didn't want the extra 'to do' on my list. Lol- Oh well, I should do like cu said and just sit back and enjoy it!

Carykay · January 2012

I havent had a shower yet. But My Aunt is throwing me one in feb and FMIL is throwing me one and the church is throwing me one. They are all in Feb. So I will have busy time.. Im not sure who all they are inviting. I gave them my list and they are taking care of everything.

southerncharm24 · January 2012

My hometown shower was in November. I would say 25 invited, 15 came, It was a holiday weekend, and for a few weeks after we got cards and gifts in the mail, or people sent gifts with others to the shower if they could not attend.

My shower here is Feb 4th, I put 35 on the guestlist, but that included FI's family who are out of town, and will not come, I didnt want it to get back to FMIL that I invited FFIL's girlfriend, but not FMIL even though she lives in texas. Drama ya know? I expect about 15-20 at that shower.

LoverBean27 · January 2012

my shower is the 21st. invited 41 and i think about 20 are coming. we have a lot of oot guests so i knew a lot wouldnt make it and invited them out of respect,

HobokensFury · January 2012

My shower is Sunday. My mom invited 70 people! (about 30 too many IMO) In my family everyone woman invited to the wedding gets a shower invite. Mom and I had an argument because I wanted to know why she would invite people from FI's side who have never even met me. I'm hoping only about 40 people come.

brittandjp · January 2012

I don't think you're behind in not having your shower yet. Every shower I've ever been to is 4-8 weeks before the wedding. Mine is almost exactly 4 weeks before; it's on February 4th.

There are 203 guests invited to the wedding. I gave my MOH a list of almost 60 I believe. Quite a few of those invites are out of respect to some distant family members (grandma that lives in Colorado, good friend that lives in Virginia, etc.) . I invited all of JP's aunts and cousins that live here. I'm not super close to most, but I felt guilty not inviting them. My guess is there will be about 30-35 guests that actually show up. My MOH is getting all of the RSVP's, so I'm not sure where she's at on the guest count at this point.

amberr110 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:9dc1b2b8-4521-4bfa-8afc-94ab6f781147Post:c5368d7e-a1d4-4466-9c47-038002b9e9f1">Re: Bridal Shower Question-</a>:
[QUOTE]My shower is Sunday. My mom invited 70 people! (about 30 too many IMO) In my family everyone woman invited to the wedding gets a shower invite. Mom and I had an argument because I wanted to know why she would invite people from FI's side who have never even met me. I'm hoping only about 40 people come.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

<div>This sounds like me. I think my sister and cousin invited about 70 people to my shower, which will be 1/29. In my defense, that is both my side and FI's. Wedding guest list is approaching 225.</div>

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