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Mom at bachelorette party?

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My cousin is my MOH, and planning a dinner and dancing bachelorette party for me very soon. Her mother, my godmother, was talking to me about it today and mentioned my mom and her coming along. I must not have been able to hide my surprise at this notion, because she said, "oh, did you not want your mother there?" and I carefully replied it might be weird...and then she asked if I wanted her there, and I just had to say she's my cool aunt (which I do believe). I'm just not sure I want them there, though I love them both.

I was thinking maybe have them at dinner but not dancing...but I'm still not sure that's what I want. I'm not sure how to handle it without hurting her feelings. Any advice?
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  • winechic25winechic25 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom got her feelings a little hurt that I didn't think it was appropriate for her to be there, but mine was out of town, and as much as I would have loved her to be at the dinner, it didn't make sense for her to make the trip when dinner was the only part she was participating in!
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  • musicxstoremusicxstore
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    edited December 2011
    I went to a bachelorette party last year where the bride's aunt, mother, FMIL, and grandmother were in attendance - at the bar (not just at dinner). I thought it would have been weird, but it turned out to be fine - you might be surprised.
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  • laurenkronenberglaurenkronenberg member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to bachelorette parties where the mom was there, as well as aunts and a grandmother. (one was even a sex toy party!). It depends on the relationship with your mom/aunts. If you think you can handle seeing them watch you blow out the candles on a penis shaped cake, then by all means, include them on your invite list. I know my mom, an aunt and my mom's best friend will be in attendance at mine, and no one has given me a side-eye about it or commented it was weird. Just depends on your relationship!
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  • heatherreinekeheatherreineke member
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    edited December 2011
    I invited my mom and a couple of her friends. She had been talking about it for a long time but it ended up that they weren't able to come. So we're having a smaller in town party for everyone and a combined bachelor/bachelorette party and my parents will be there for sure.
    Like everyone else has been saying it's really based on the relationship you have with them! 
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  • LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    edited December 2011

    I organized the Bach Party for my best friend when she got married, and she wanted her Mom there. We also invited her FMIL and a few other older friends for just the dinner party, before we went out. They were all totally understanding, and thrilled to be included at all.

    She's now my MOH and when she asked me if i wanted the same i said Absolutely YES! 

    but like PPs said; it really depends on the relationship =) i happen to be very close with my mom, my aunt, and a couple other older ladies that i would love to see there. if you're not, then you can just use the excuse of, taht's not how it's normally done!

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  • shopgrl3177shopgrl3177
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    edited December 2011
    My mom, aunt and FMIL plan on coming to the dinner part of my shower.  They will probably leave when we go out dancing but they wanted to be there for dinner. 
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