Parents roles before ceremony

Re: Parents roles before ceremony

• Simply Fated member

  

  July 2012

  I've seen and heard different things.
  
  Most common? They mingle and greet the guests. Sometimes they'll pop in to be with the bride, too, if the bride is in a seperate area waiting. Then, a few minutes before you're ready to walk down the aisle, they join you and the rest of the bridal party for the procession.
  
  Other common stuff, I've seen them be with the grandparents in a seperate area and they're part of the procession, too.
  
  I've also seen the bride's parents just hang out with the bride and her girls until it's time to walk. That's usually less common because usually the bride doesn't want to be surrounded with so many people for so long. If you have a large bridal party, I definitely don't suggest doing this, either. It's just a lot of people fussing around and waiting.
  

  
  

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• Kate61487 member

  

  July 2012

  My parents were with me all day up to walking down the aisle.  We got ready at my house, so they were with me and my girls (though dad stayed off on his own until much closer to leaving).  We were only at the church for maybe 15 min before we walked; they each stepped out for a minute to check how things were going, but for the most part stayed by me.  Perhaps I was an odd bride but I was very calm the morning of my wedding and I enjoyed having all my girls and my parents with me, they didn't stress me out at all.
  
  MIL started the morning at the salon with me and the girls, then went to do before photos with the boys and I imagine stayed with H until they walked (he escorted her in). 
  
  But any of the options PP gave would be fine; they could greet guests and mingle if you don't want them by you.

  

   
  

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• pisha82 member

  

  July 2012

  Depends on what you want to do. My mom and fmil will be with me at my house getting ready, my dad will be at my fi parents house with fi dad. My mom will walk down the aisle with my uncle and fi parents will walk down together first before my mom and wedding party. Most dads stay with there daughter though. We are doing pictures before the ceremony, this way we avoid, the gap and can go to our cocktail hour. So my parents will be with me for pictures, and fi will be with his, and we can all do pics together. You do what you want. If you want your mil with you, that works, if not she can be with your fi. I think its common practice to have parents walk down the aisle though. You and your fi deside what you want, there is no right or wrong to it.
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  July 2012

  Well the girls (my Mom, my BMs, my MIL) got ready at my house before we left for the venue.  My Dad, BIL and niece left for the hotel we were all staying in later in the morning and got dressed there.
  
  Once at the venue, my Mom, BMs and I hung out for a little bit before we all got dressed.  My Dad came into our bridal suite about 30 minutes before the ceremony for a few pics and to see me.  My MIL came up as well, which to me was a bit odd that she would rather hang out up in the bridal suite then with her own son, but I guess that was her choice.  I am guessing my FIL stayed downstairs with the guys right before the ceremony started.
  
  Anyhoo, your parents and his parents can be wherever you want them to be.  If you would rather have a quiet morning with just your Mom and BMs then that is fine.  If you don't care about being surrounded by people all day then just don't worry about where everyone is hanging out before hand.
  

  
  

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  My mom was with me all day, helping me get ready, etc. My dad got to the church a little later and was nice enough to bring all the girls snacks! Then he sort of mingled with people in the Church and greeted guests. Both my parents walked me down the aisle, so they were both with me until right before we went in. You can do it however you would like though.
  
  At my MOH's wedding, her mom popped upstairs to say hi while we were getting ready and then went back down to greet guests and wasn't around us before the wedding. It really is a personal preference of you and your parents.
  
  ETA: I noticed you mentioned FMIL. My ILs were not around me before the wedding. I didn't tell them to stay away; there just wasn't really a huge need for them to be there as early as I was. I think MIL came back in where I was getting ready briefly, but that was about it, and FIL hung out with H and the guys.

  
  
  
  
  

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• albionbrits member

  

  July 2012

  Thank you for sharing your experiences! Nice to know I can tell them to go where they feel most comfortable and there isn't a certain role they should be fulfilling!

  

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