My wedding is in 5 days. I don't understand why my friend accepted the position if she had no intentions of participating. I would do everything in my power to make her day wonderful, and everything leading up to it, but she had done nothing for me. She never even threw me a Bridal Shower, or Bachelorette Party, so I never had one. She told my cousin she couldn't afford it, but she didn't need to spend anything, on anything. I just wanted to get some girlfriends together and party it up, she didn't have to pay for anything, not even me. The last Saturday, I sat alone, by myself, drank some beer by myself, because my MOH couldn't afford to throw me a party, yet she spent all Saturday night at the bar. Yet, she didn't even invite me, even though I asked what she was doing, and even said, "sounds fun." She didn't even ask what I was doing or going to do that night. She hasn't gotten together with me on anything, or any weekend, but always has someone else over, doesn't invite me, and when I ask her what she's doing, oh nothing, just gonna lay around and watch movies. Instead, she's partying it up with other people, who the next day, says they, "just showed up." But what, she can't invite me? We're suppose to be BFF's and she's suppose to be my MOH, and I just want to cry. She has offered no emotional support through this, none. She's only making me sadder through this entire process because she makes me feel like her second choice to anybody else. It's not right, and it's too late into the wedding to change anything. I don't have any other BM, it's just one person on each side. I can't believe she knew I wanted to do something, but would rather be selfish and ignore my request for fun. She knew if she didn't invite me, I'd be by myself. She doesnt' care. I am so hurt and wish I would've never asked her.
She complained the one and only time, we went and got her dress, which is the same day I was scheduled for alterations. So to pick up my gown a month later, we scheduled a Saturday that she said she would for sure have off work because it was an off week. So at the last minute, she "suddenly" has to work, so I have to find someone else, or go by myself. I have been having my cousin helping me out with everything, because my MOH, just doesn't want to do anything. She isn't even there to console me, my cousin is now doing her duties, but isn't even IN the wedding party. I feel bad. I'd rather not have my MOH in it, but it's just too late. My gown was ruined beyond repair when I went to pick it up, I had to try on four other dresses for an alternate, this was two weeks before my wedding. I was devastated. She wasn't even going to get together with me, knowing I was picking up my gown that day, until I told her it was ruined. It was then when she said, "well so and so is coming over, so you can go ahead and come over." She was too busy playing cards to listen to me what happened, so all I said was it was ruined beyond repair, I had to choose an alternate, I bawled my eyes out. Her response was, "That sucks." Back to playing cards and drinking beer she went. This is all she knows, she doesn't care about providing me with emotional support. My cousin has been, as she was there to see the devastation in my eyes. So I choose an alternate gown, it wouldn't be ready for another week, which was one week before the wedding. No, she didn't go with me this time either, she didn't go anytime except the time to pick up her dress. She never even went shopping with me for anything, or any dress, or gown. So my alternate gown was also ruined. They were going to repair it, but couldn't get it to me no sooner than 4 days, which was also 4 days before the wedding. So I said forget it, they would just make it worse, as they clearly don't know what they are doing. The hem was off about an inch, uneven. Perhaps it wouldn't have been noticeable, but they hemmed up into the embroidery on one side, and left at least an inch below the embroidery on the other side. It's very noticeable. I'm walking down the aisle like that, as I'm out of time, patience and energy to argue to get it fixed. So just as upset, where was my MOH? No where to be found. And the next day, is the Saturday she went out and I was alone, after picking up my messed up gown the day before. She hasn't seen it, has no idea what it looks like, doesn't care, and didn't care to console me after another gown ruined. Who does that? She knew how devastated I was, but couldn't hang out with me the next day at least? At least ask me to go with her at the bar, to hang with her other friends? She can't be feeling overwhelmed, she hasn't done anything. She can't be tired of hearing about the wedding, cuz she doesn't listen when she is around but yet she's not around. If I have seen her, the most is once a week to once every two weeks. We don't even talk on the phone. She even wants me to pay for her hairstylist, even though I'm not working (I recently had two surgeries in my stomach), and she makes well over $16 and hour. She says she can't afford it. I paid for the jewelery she's wearing, twice, because when my original gown was ruined and I had to choose an alternate gown, none of the jewelry matched, so I had to buy new and no, I couldn't take it back either. She didn't want to pay for her dress to be dry cleaned, she wanted me to, but I wouldn't. I did have to call around to find someone to do it, even though she was capable of doing it herself. She didn't want to get it dry cleaned if she had to pay for it, but luckily I found a place who did it for $6. If she can't afford anything, and all she has done is complained, why did she say she'd be my MOH, if she's not being the MOH? My cousin is very mad at her because she hasn't been there for me once. It makes me look pathetic. I just want to cry some more, it's so depressing. Pathetic and depressing spending Saturday night alone, drinking a beer by myself, even after picking up my ruined Bridal gown the day before, and one week before the wedding. Thanks for listening, as I don't have someone to.