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XP - Remarried Uncle...

AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
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So, My uncle remarried a few years ago. His wife brought several kids into the marriage, some older and in college and some still living at home with them. I don't REALLY know them at all. Met them once at a family get together and at their parents wedding. The ones that I actually did talk to are in college and don't live at home. I don't even know the names of her kids that live at home, they don't come to my extended family gatherings...and I KNOW they wouldn't come to the wedding,  they are 15-17 year old boys I think.

Some of my younger actual cousins still live with my Uncle and I would like them to come to the wedding, but I don't know how to approach this without stepping on any toes. (I have been ignoring it for a while if you couldn't tell)

Do I invite just the family memebers I want.... My Uncle, "Step" Aunt and my actual cousins?

Or do I invite everyone in the household?

None of my cousins (step cousins) are young... more like Middle School/High School
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  • LOLwaysLOLways
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    If you know they aren't coming, then I guess invite them. It's kind of rude to invite some, but not all, of the kids living in the same household. I think you can rationalize just inviting the parents and not kids, but some but not all kids is kind of rude.
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  • calindicalindi member
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    I'd invite them all.  If there isn't a solid reason NOT to invite them, it's not worth potentially hurting the family's feelings and alienating his new wife.  I mean, if they were felons or something, I'd skip it.  But honestly, two more kids to be invited who probably won't come anyway most likely isn't worth the potential hurt of not inviting them.

    My aunt has been living with a guy for 2 years now.  He has 2 sons from a previous marriage, but I have yet to meet them.  I'm not planning to invite them, but if she asks, I'll let her bring them.  It isn't worth hurting her feelings to me.

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  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
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    See I was thinking of just inviting them, simple..done.. But I just remembered as I was sitting here, one of her kids is over 18 and goes to a local college and lives at home....

    Clearly I do not know or talk to this onee, does he get a seperate invite when I have never had a conversation with him in my life? I don't want him (his mon) to get upset because his  younger siblings who I can count the conversations I've had with them on one hand got invited but not older child that lives at home...


     Ahh.. I'm calling my parents when I get off work..Such a weird situation.
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  • calindicalindi member
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    Ya know... I know kids over 18 get their own invite even if they're living at home, but really... in that case, I'd just address it to the whole family "Mr. & Mrs. Steven Johnson / James, Henry, Stephanie, Julia, & Nancy"

    I have one family who has 2 grown sons living at home and 1 fifteen year old son.  None of them are getting dates, even if they're older, so I'm going to write one joint invitation.  Etiquette be damned, none of them will care!

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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    Amanda, I think in this situation you're fine to list the 18 year old on there with all of them. It's sort of an odd situation as it is, so I wouldn't worry about it too much!
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  • LOLwaysLOLways
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    Yeah I guess I'm kind of a jerk, but I listed 18 year olds living at home on the same invite. Nobody cared, and trust me, people had no qualms *****ing to my mom and I about things that "offended" them.

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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    I must have been a totally b!tch because unless they lived totally on their own (not in an apt or dorm room at college) they did not get their own invite. 
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