When did you know?

SoontobeSawyer25 · April 2011

All of my friends have gotten engaged at different times during there relationship to there boyfriend. When is the right time and how long did it take for you guys? Just curious to hear other ladies stories on this subject matter.... Thank you!

blahblah85 · April 2011

I fell in love with my fiance the first time I saw him. We actually met off of Craigslist. I wasn't looking for a date, I was just browsing and I found his ad on there, and knew I had to meet him. We talked on the phone a few times before meeting. The first time I heard his voice all I could think about was how sexy he sounded. I can remember the first time I saw him. I met him in an Arby's parkinglot cause we both got lost, and all I could remember thinking was, "Hes so good looking! Am I pretty enough for him?"

And I don't remember a certain point of being certain he was the one. I feel like I always knew he was the one. I, like, really effing love this man.

But I went a little off-topic. We got engaged two weeks ago. We have been together since Jan. 2010, so a litttle over a year. We actually got into a big fight in Feb., which stemed from him being scared of commiting to me. I almost moved out. When I asked him what made him ask me he said it was the fight, and he said he never wanted to be that close to losing me again.

theluckiest555 · April 2011

My FI claims that he knew after the first date that he wanted to marry me.

We said 'I love you' to eachother like on the third date haha. I probaby knew about a month in that he was the guy I wanted to marry. We had already started talking about our kids lol. However,I didn't think we would actually get engaged for awhile. Little did I know that he planned to propose. He was just THAT sure.

camichael84 · April 2011

With my FI, I had a feeling before we were even dating that he was going to be "the one". I can't pinpoint when the feeling turned into knowing, but it didn't take longer than six months into our relationship.

I don't think there is any set amount of "right time" to get engaged. Each couple is different. For us, it was almost 11 months after we started dating.

jagore08 · April 2011

DH and I started dating out Junior year of high school and he proposed on our 10 year dating anniversary. We didn't want to get married right after high school because that wasn't us. He finished college and we moved across the country and we knew we'd get married but we were still young (21) so we weren't ready just yet. Time passed and about the 7 year mark I started getting a bit anxious and let him know my feelings but still, he waited 3 more years to pop the question. The timing was perfect. I was going back to school for nursing and we had our future planned out. We were also financially stable and were able to pay for our wedding with no help.

Everyone's timing is different. I'm sure many other ladies would have been stir crazy if they had to wait 10 years but it was perfect for us.

hellerc1 · April 2011

The right time is different for everyone. We went on our first date and have never been apart and never will be. For us the engagement was just after our 4 year mark. I can say that I wanted it before (dreamed about it, talked about it, knew one day it would happen) but if I am honest we were not ready till it happened. It felt just right. I would not change a thing! We are getting married one month after we hit 5 years together.

kgettingmarried · April 2011

I knew the first time I met my FI that he was the one.

We met at a social function at work - his dept had a potluck for the Super Bowl, and my dept went to eat lunch there. I just saw him for a minute that time, but was very intrigued.

Then, I found out a week later I was going to do some training. It turns out that he was coming over to my dept to train, and I was the trainer! We spent the workday together, as I was training him on how to do my job, and I thought he was amazing.

16 mos later, we are engaged!!!! He will be adopting my son as well. I knew right away.

LConquer · April 2011

I agree that there is no time limit, it is different for everyone.

My parents met on Labour day and were engaged teh following Christmas. The same short-term scenario happened with my FI's parents.

For us, we've known each other our whole lives BUT our families lost touch for many many years so we didn't know each other "grown up" We "met" again Christmas 2009. We started dating late August 2010 and we just got engaged in March - 7 months later. It's absolutely perfect and this is so different from any previous relationship.

I truely believe that when you know, you know. No matter what the time frame.

jaycee7389 · April 2011

i started to type the "how we met" story but i'm just gonna start a new thread cause it won't really answer your question!

to sum it up, the very first time i saw him i had this weird draw to him like in the movies where i just knew something down the line was going to happen. he was not my type what so ever and i found that strange. then fast forward to after we were dating..i honestly knew within a month or 2 that i wanted to marry him. we obviously never told each other or moved to fast...but now when we talk about it he tells me that he knew before we were even dating that he would marry me.

we are NEY but i have picked out my ring, we live together, and talk about getting married constantly..we are just waiting until the time is right.

asialee2 · April 2011

3 weeks into our relationship my man was in a car accident. He lost half of his left hand and was in the hospital for 10 days. I was there by his side every day and when he got out of the hospital I moved in with him... yep, hardly a month after we started dating... It was through out all of that... and meeting his family at the same time... that we knew this was it.

5 minutes after his grandma met me she said "Asia is a good girl- I like her. They are going to get married." That helped him too!

theluckiest555 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_did-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:229f76ff-8016-40ec-b6da-deb660d0573cPost:5b91f2fe-f0df-4635-b748-be055ace2adc">Re: When did you know?</a>:
[QUOTE]3 weeks into our relationship my man was in a car accident. He lost half of his left hand and was in the hospital for 10 days. I was there by his side every day and when he got out of the hospital I moved in with him... yep, hardly a month after we started dating... It was through out all of that... and meeting his family at the same time... that we knew this was it. 5 minutes after his grandma met me she said "Asia is a good girl- I like her. They are going to get married." That helped him too!
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</div><div>This brings tears to my eyess. The real test of the relationship is to see if the two peple support eachother in a time of need. I had kind of a similar experience. One night my FI was feeling sick and we went to urgent care, but they told me to take him to the ER. That was one of the scariest nights of my life, not only because I knew he wasn't feeling well, but because we waited for almosst 6 hours before we found out what was wrong. Turns out he had diabetes (he has a family history of it) and his blood sugar level was 400! If that doesnt mean anything to you. than think about it this way- it's supposed to be about 80. So ya, it was bad. I stayed with him until they made me go home (he spent one night inthe hospital) and that was one of the hardest nights ever. The worst part was that I blamed myself because he had been complaining of not feeling well for weeks, but I would always ignore it and get mad at him for not doing anything around the house (because he was so tired) because I was in the process of quitting a job I HATED and I was always stressed and in a bad mood because my schedue was crazy those last 2 weeks.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-frown.gif" border="0" alt="Frown" title="Frown" /> I think the experience brought us closer because I realized how lucky we both were, something much worse could have happened that night.</div>

asialee2 · April 2011

Theluckiest555- I am giving you a big e-hug right now.

It's crazy how something so insane, so traumatizing can really test a relationship and prove how powerful and strong it is, hey?

I blamed my self as well. The night of the accident was my family's Easter dinner and I didn't bring him because he was still new and I didn't want to scare him, (big European family.) If I would have just brought him, he never would have gotten into the car accident, but we may not be here now.

I'm glad you were there for him, and that you got him to the hospital when you did! You guys are very lucky to have each other!

xx

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