rude!

Alisha9544 · August 2012

So out of the blue I just got a text message from someone me & FI associate with. I wouldn't really say friends. But we rarely see her. She text me saying blah blah blah is my new address, hope to see my invitation soon. Are you kidding me! I am just floored that anyone would actually do this. She had sent me her address on FB when she seen we were engaged. If you don't get an invite you shouldn't beg for one. wow!

mmmendi · August 2012

Teeheehee - I hear you! I was baffled when FI's ex-wife asked if she was invited - TWICE. Then his MOM asked why we aren't inviting the ex!

This, he reassures me, is why he doesn't want me to meet his mother...(I've met the ex, she isn't allowed near our home again!)

So - did you respond to her at all? I would have

I would have tried to pretend the text never came through and then felt guilty and gone with 'not able to invite everyone we wanted due to budget restraints...'

goatlady12 · August 2012

I've had people do stuff like this too. I just ignore them. But it is super annoying.

Alisha9544 · August 2012

Honestly I've been passive & just ignored them. I hate to say budget reasons, but I also hate having to make stuff up, or be rude by saying we really weren't planning on inviting you(I would never say that but lol)!!

goatlady12 · August 2012

I've used our venue won't accommodate many people after family. I'm sorry our families are huge.

mlperkins12 · August 2012

I also had this happen...twice...I caved both times! In both circumstances they were family friends and rather than causing hard feeling I just sent them an invitation. It doesn't really cause an issue for us with space and I'd rather just spare their feeligns. Pathetic, I know.

pengy16 · August 2012

I had this happen when I ran into fi cousin when I went for my dress fitting earlier this year. She didn't know we were getting married and then said she better be invited. We kept the list to immediate family from grandparents down, so she isn't invited but I just kept my mouth shut. If we invited all of fi family we would be inviting over 100 just on his side. That wasnt in the budget and we wanted a small wedding. I know thanksgiving will be weird this year since we didnt invite the majority of his family.

NRod70 · August 2012

Ha! I had someone PM me on FB and say she hoped she was invited because since she moved out of state she has missed soooooo much within our circle of friends. We had a little falling out about 2 years ago, I tried to make it work but, honestly, I couldn't take anymore of her ridiculous rants on FB about politics, religion, pro-life and her objection to immunizing children. It's just way too much drama for me.

Anyway, I guess I took too long to respond to her and she deleted me from FB. Problem solved. LOL.

Simply_Caitlin · August 2012

I've had about 20 people pull the ol' "I better be invited" line on me. I usually just smile awkwardly. I did have one chick, a friend of fi's ex, and a regular at the bar I was working at, at the time tell me "I have to give you my address, you know I'll come to the wedding!" I just responded with "Oh I know you would, give it to T though cause I'll lose it.." then he told her the same thing haha. Best part is she has NEVER had a nice thing to say about me, ever. She's been nothing but rude and downright mean and even has called me a whore for "stealing" her friend's man. They were broken up when we started talking. She really thought I'd invite her to the wedding?!

LoriMc12 · September 2012

My FI know of a girl in our loose group of friends. Some people are closer friends than others and some are more peripheral. One of the more peripheral ones gave us a bottle of champagne after we got engaged which sort of guilted us into inviting her. I figured she was just one extra person (well, 2 if she brings a guest) but it spares the drama. She needs to be told that people would have more fun hanging out with her if she stopped complaining about how people don't include her and don't like her, etc.

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