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Not Invited

kfilemyrkfilemyr member
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I work for a big office that has many departments. I work in a super small department, 7 people including myself. I wanted to only invite 3 of those people to my wedding. Those 3 I am friends with, my boss is one of them. The other 3 are the problem! I do not want to invite them one is my bosses boss, one is a super old lady and the third is a VERY annoying girl who makes it VERY obvious that she does not like me. Is it ok if I only invite the 3 that I am friends with. I have been told both ways and I was thinking that as long as I do not talk about the wedding at work it should be fine. The only thing that I am worried about is that my boss is good friends with the annoying girl...they go to lunch almost everyday and are friends outside of work. I just don't have room in my guest list and only want to invite those that I am close to.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    If you are inviting only the people you hang out with outside of work, it makes sense.  But to just invite the ones you like the best would seem a little off.  

    Just send the invitation to their homes, don't talk about it at work, and maybe casually mention to those that are invited that not everyone is and to avoid discussing it.
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  • scoettoscoetto member
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    At a year and a half out, I wouldn't worry about that yet. Things change too fast.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    Yes, just send the invitations to their homes, rather than passing them out work.
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  • kfilemyrkfilemyr member
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    I booked the place a week ago and I am starting to make up the guest list. Before I even wrote the list I wanted to make sure that it was ok so I could figure out from there. I am also one of those people who have to plan things out WAY WAY in advance to protect my sanity. I become anxious when something is unfinished soooooooooo I start things early as to avoid that.
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  • scoettoscoetto member
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    Friendships come and go and things can change in a blink of an eye.

    For example, our guest list went from almost 200 (when we first booked a place) to less than 100 (by the time we got around to our second location/venue). It had nothing to do with the change of venue or location, but the change of things in life. Sure, plan for them now, but it's just way early to be worrying about a guest list, IMO.  

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  • CaptiolBrideCaptiolBride
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    are you sending your invitations a year and a half away from your wedding?
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  • kfilemyrkfilemyr member
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    There is no way that I am going to send my invitations yet, I just booked my venue last week and was coming up with an idea of who we are going to invite. Before I bring anything up at work or start picking anything out I need to have an idea of who is going to be there. I know that things will change but I was just looking into what is ok and what is not before I say anything to anyone else.
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  • wcvsb3b5wcvsb3b5
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    Just invite those that you hang out with outside of work.
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  • HisCBHisCB
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    i would wait, what if, heaven forbid!, you get laid off or one of them do? and you find that you dont stay friends with them,

    i totally get the planning in advance thing, and as long as youre not sending them out or verbally inviting people,, hash over your list as much as your sanity allows.

    save a bit of your guest count for new friends too.

    my wedding is in oct and im not even telling some of my family that theyre invited yet!
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  • kfilemyrkfilemyr member
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    Thanks! Yeah there is no way that I have told them yet.....I haven't even told family yet lol!
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