how to deal...

bullishbuckeye1 · September 2010

with the issue of a kid-free wedding.

any suggestions on wording/spreading the information?

and how do you handle it if you have a limit of 13 and up, but a family has a 13yr old and a 6 yr old? i mean, you can't really invite one and not the other, right?

thanks for the advice.

Bre2Be · September 2010

We decided long before we even got engaged that we were having a kid-free wedding. We wanted adults to be able to enjoy a nice evening out without worrying about running around after kids. And on top of that it also helped to keep our costs and head count down. We simply put "Adult Reception to Follow" on our invitation, put it on our website, and then had BP spread the word.

In terms of the age limit, we decided all or nothing, but I don't think there's anything wrong with drawing the line and saying 13 and up. Maybe the parents will just make the 13 year old stay home to babysit...? Just remember, you can't please everyone. HTH!

TTnoles · September 2010

I say all or nothing. I fyou let the 6 yr old come but not others you will inevitable feel the backlash. But i would find a nice way to word it onthe save the dates and invites, have bp and family also spread info and if you have a website. HTH!

funderbride · September 2010

I just got an invitation in the mail that said "We have reserved 2 seats in your honor", then it continued like a normal response card - name, yes/no, how many people. I thought this was a pretty good idea because it doesn't specifically exclude children, but you'd pretty much assume if 2 are invited it's just husband & wife.

I don't have kids though, so I'm not sure if I did whether or not I'd be offended. Personally, we're doing an adults only reception except for immediate family. Like Bre2Be, we want our guests to be able to have a carefree night without having to chase their kids around.

HTH!

babybchbum · September 2010

I put we have reserved _seats in your honor. Some people did assume if their s/o didn't show and they had a child the child could come in the others place. but there weren't too many people who didn't get the NO KIDS rule.

D654321 · September 2010

Just say no kids on the invites. I have been to a lot of weddings where kids where not allowed to come and they where great. It really depends on what kind of activities are happening at the wedding. If there is goanna be a lot of drinking it’s really not safe to have a bunch of children running around. Plus they cry during the ceremony. It’s no good.

I hate when people bring there kids places they should not be and in all honesty most weddings are really just big house parties.

I have gotten invitations before that said adult only reception after the ceremony. I think that is the way to go. I really don’t think there is anything to get offended bye. People know there kids are not perfect.

sweetie1184 · September 2010

I have a 5 year old son, so I obviously want him to be at my wedding, plus he is giving me away. The kids will be at the reception to eat, and then I am going to have my dance with my son (after the first dance with my FI). After that, I have a babysitter who is taking all the kids into a separate room for the remainder of the evening. I think my guests will appreciate the free babysitting service and the kids will still feel included.

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