honest opinion. Please help.

Maryd68 · June 2011

I just found out my dad has cancer and honestly, I don't know anything about cancer.

I am planning my wedding but I feel like I should take a plane and go see him and forget about everything else.... what should I do??

I feel stupid because I can't help, he is in Venezuela and Im here and to make things even worst, my mother says "everything will be ok" but nothing else.

sorry i posted this here but i do not know what to do.

SuMmErKuTiE · June 2011

I'm so sorry to hear this... DH's mom was diagnosed with cancer as well while we were planning our wedding but thankfully they caught it really early and she went through chemo and radiation. You'd never know she was wearing a wig at our wedding, she looked fantastic!

Do you know what stage of cancer he is in or what treatment they're planning on? Was he planning on traveling to the upcoming wedding? If it's in your budget and you can take the time off from work, I think it's a great idea to go see him. It'll help both of you to be more at peace to see each other. Sometimes the best medicine is to be surrounded by loved ones when receiving a diagnosis like that. Don't feel stupid that you can't "help", like I said before the best thing you can do is be there for them emotionally whether it's sending cards, calling all the time, or being able to be there with them physically. Let the doctors and nurses take care of him and do what's best for him in terms of treatment and hopefully they can put a stop to it before it gets bad.

Lots of thoughts and prayers going your way for your dad's health and for peace and comfort for your family through this tough time.

Mona8 · June 2011

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[QUOTE]I'm so sorry to hear this... DH's mom was diagnosed with cancer as well while we were planning our wedding but thankfully they caught it really early and she went through chemo and radiation. You'd never know she was wearing a wig at our wedding, she looked fantastic! Do you know what stage of cancer he is in or what treatment they're planning on? Was he planning on traveling to the upcoming wedding?<strong> If it's in your budget and you can take the time off from work, I think it's a great idea to go see him. It'll help both of you to be more at peace to see each other. Sometimes the best medicine is to be surrounded by loved ones when receiving a diagnosis like that. Don't feel stupid that you can't "help", like I said before the best thing you can do is be there for them emotionally whether it's sending cards, calling all the time, or being able to be there with them physically. Let the doctors and nurses take care of him and do what's best for him in terms of treatment and hopefully they can put a stop to it before it gets bad.</strong> Lots of thoughts and prayers going your way for your dad's health and for peace and comfort for your family through this tough time.
Posted by SuMmErKuTiE[/QUOTE]

...I agree. I would definitely go see him if you're able. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your dad, and family.

Carebear62584 · June 2011

Definitely agree with the other pps. I would talk to your mom and ask her how serious it is because most of it is curable. Both of my parents have had cancer along with many other relatives. My mom had breast cancer almost 10 years ago and she caught it in time and luckily only had to go through radiation and not chemo. She didn't have to take any time off of work and many people didn't even know she had cancer and she still doesn't speak of it much bc it's not something she wants to remember and relive in her memory. It's not even something she like to talk about to my brother and I. We found out most of our information from my dad and my aunt. My dad had skin cancer and had it removed and didn't need any chemo or radiation, just other medicines and frequent checkups. He's had many moles removed (mind you he's Irish so he's got a ton of freckles and moles) and a few face peels. Those are miserable for him but he's staying on top of everything to ensure he catches everything. I'm very lucky that both of my parents have beaten it and continue to keep up with doctor visits, unfortunately it's not always the case but just have hope!

mwitter80 · June 2011

I am a cancer survivor. You're the really only one that can make this decision for yourself. If you ever need to chat about what's happening, please PM me. I know what a struggle this can be for both sides.

akulaji · June 2011

I agree with summerkutie and others. If you're in a position to go see him and want to do that, go. Even if it's early stage, it's always a scary diagnosis. I'm sure your dad would appreciate your love and support. Hopefully your mom can give you some more in depth information so that you can really gauge the situation and make your decision. Stay strong.

Maryd68 · June 2011

thank you and specially to you Mwitter!

Vanessa630 · June 2011

Just wanted to say sorry to hear the news and my thoughts are with you

pprendi · June 2011

Mary:
I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I will keep him in my prayers. You should go see him if you can.

-Patti

Maryd68 · June 2011

thanks again. I will let you know if I decide to go. i can't thank you enough

KarenArnoldMaine · June 2011

You have to also think, your Mom may already think you have a lot on your plate and is trying to keep you at bay. after all, that is what Mom's do. My Mom did the same thing when she was in the hospital with a very serious diagnosis. She told me to stay home and days later had a lung removed...I told her I was upset and would have liked to have been there for it.

herb0622 · June 2011

Mary- I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I hope everything turns out well for him! Like the PP said, I would deifnitely go see him if you are able to.

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