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colleenm18colleenm18 member
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So I told you all about two weeks ago that my one BM has gone MIA.  Well she is still not responding to anything. 

I have called, I have texted, emailed, fb messaged everything but leave an actual VM (her inbox is full) and I still have heard nothing.  I am at a loss for what to do next.  I know she is around she has posted on FB a bunch of time over the last few weeks, she just has not responded to any of my messages.  Her BM dress is here in Philadelphia and she lives in Pittsburgh so I need to know if she is going to come out and try it on or if she would rather I just mail her the dress and yet still nothing!

I just really needed to vent about this!  I am worried but also starting to get really annoyed especially when i saw she was posting on FB!
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  • ceglare4ceglare4
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    That's really crappy of her. I get that BM's don't want to hear about wedding stuff 24/7, but this is the one thing that she actually has to take care of. I hope for your sake she decides to grow up and call you back.
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  • lvisserslvissers
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    I'm sorry, that's really sh*tty of your bridesmaid to ignore your attempts to reach her. Do you have any mutual friends that you can ask what's up with her? If I were you, I would just mail the dress to her house, so at least she has it and it's in her hands and her responsibility to get alterations done, etc.
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  • michelle11988michelle11988 member
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    That's pretty crappy of her to not respond at all. I hate when people do that! I agree with pp to just mail it to her and let her know it's coming. Then it's her problem to get alterations.

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  • colleenm18colleenm18 member
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    Part of the problem is also that the dress has not been paid for in full yet!  Or i would have already mailed it to her!
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  • k8888k8888
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    Colleen - Road trip???  :)
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  • Melissa.hyltonMelissa.hylton
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    ROAD TRIP!! LOL I know its a distance but if I concerned and NO messages I would drive to her damn house! Maybe call her out on a post on her wall.. that should get her attention???
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  • MeaganR12MeaganR12
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    Gosh I'm sorry, that really sucks. I would just keep calling, I don't know what else you can do. Road trip like k8888 mentioned, might be a good idea too. 
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  • ceglare4ceglare4
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:176a4ce2-7a2a-4e87-8afc-4b4ff026ce1ePost:1524c35d-10ad-49c0-88df-0682edaa1419">Re: bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]Part of the problem is also that the dress has not been paid for in full yet!  Or i would have already mailed it to her!
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    I don't know if you want to because she sounds like a flaky but could you pay off the balance and have her pay you back? I have a BM that lives in WY and she put down half via the phone when she ordered it and I paid the balance and had them ship it to her because I was at the salon anyway for a fitting. It just seemed easier, and then she just mailed me a check.
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  • colleenm18colleenm18 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:176a4ce2-7a2a-4e87-8afc-4b4ff026ce1ePost:324d626d-47c2-463f-9931-d7e25602ab53">Re: bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid : I don't know if you want to because she sounds like a flaky but could you pay off the balance and have her pay you back? I have a BM that lives in WY and she put down half via the phone when she ordered it and I paid the balance and had them ship it to her because I was at the salon anyway for a fitting. It just seemed easier, and then she just mailed me a check.
    Posted by ceglare4[/QUOTE]

    I am going to give her another week and if I still dont hear anything from her I am just going to do this!

    If I wasnt so damn busy believe me I would be taking a road trip!
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  • Nancy00714Nancy00714 member
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    Do you think it's you?  Do you have any friends in common that you can get to talk to her and ask her what's going on?  D you think she's ignoring your messages?

    I think I would see if she talks to someone else.  This is really unfair to you and If I were you I'd i want to know ASAP. 
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  • TChiumiTChiumi member
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    It totally sucks you are having to go through this.  Like you don't have a million other things you are having to deal with right now.  I know how you are feeling.  I had to hunt down FSIL through FMIL to get her to order her damn dress to begin with because she lives in CA.  FI talked to her and now she seems to at least respond when I text or call her.  

    It is really weird that she is not returning texts or calls.  It doesn't sound like it's you if her voice mailbox is full.  I don't know that I would pay remaining balance on her dress.  I mean what if she never gets back in contact with you?
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  • littlemoments324littlemoments324 member
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    wow!!  I'd be taking it as she doesn't want to be a part of the wedding anymore...I'd hate for you to pay for the remaining balance & she decide not to partake in the festivities...

    I'm really sorry you have to go through this =)  FI's best man was really flakey for a while and it ended up being because he couldn't afford to be in the wedding and his wife is pretty sick with Crohn's (they've tried everything I guess and there is nothing else they can do...=( 

    I just wish your friend would grow some balls & get back with you...no matter what she decides or whatever the reason...you have a right to know....

    DO you have any mutual friends you can talk to?? I know this sounds bad, but maybe they can set up a 'trip' to go see them & you tag along with the dress & get some explanations! 
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