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Mother wear black?

pattheisepattheise
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Having a difficult time finding a dress.  Fell in love with a very expensive designer gown, delicately trimmed in Swarovski crystals...but dress is black.  Is it OK for mother of the bride to wear black if she looks amazing? ;)
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes. 
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
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    Yes, if she looks/feels beautiful then go for it.
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    Absolutely.

    The MOB can wear whatever color she wants. More than likely, my own mother would wear something black to my wedding because that's a color she feels comfortable in.
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  • orangecrush32orangecrush32 member
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    Black is perfectly acceptable. :)
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  • mgietler76mgietler76 member
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    Yes, my mother plans to wear black to my wedding. She doesn't normally wear much other colors and it's what she's comfortable in. Go for it!
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    Wear whatever makes you comfortable.  IMO, all colors are acceptable as long as you're not wearing white.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Ditto pp's. Black is fine. Once she has her corsage, she will have a pop or two of color with her dress.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's just fine.  As long as it doesn't look like you're showing up to mourn, you're ducky.  It doesn't come with a matching black veil right?
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-wear-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:064ff398-d599-4447-aa17-efadb7870734Post:ce90c6c9-0eda-4030-baf5-dc61d5a9afbb">Mother wear black?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Having a difficult time finding a dress.  Fell in love with a very expensive designer gown, delicately trimmed in Swarovski crystals...but dress is black.  Is it OK for mother of the bride to wear black if she looks amazing? ;)
    Posted by pattheise[/QUOTE]
    Why wouldn't it be?  This is 2011, not 1911, and black is considered not only suitable but preferable for formal events.
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    As a soon-to-be MOB, I will not only most probably wear black, but there is a strong potential for pants as well.  Bride is perfectly fine with it. 
     


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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
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    My mom is wearing black and I'm totally fine with it. I think that it looks elegant and it is such a flattering color for most people. I always advocate touching it with a little color, but in the end it is totally up to you. 
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  • vicki0508vicki0508 member
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    My mom is wearing black.  She's pumped to get a new little black dress.  She'll accessorize with wedding colors.

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  • squeakyducksqueakyduck member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd check with the bride. I'm old fashioned and don't think people should wear black dresses to weddings. But I know that not everyone feels this way. It's really up to you. 
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-wear-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:064ff398-d599-4447-aa17-efadb7870734Post:aa88bfe0-fee0-43ef-8265-80a437279ef1">Re: Mother wear black?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd check with the bride. I'm old fashioned and don't think people should wear black dresses to weddings. But I know that not everyone feels this way. It's really up to you. 
    Posted by rentaduckie[/QUOTE]
    She's a grown woman, she doesn't need the bride's permission to wear black.  My own mother wore black--she looked fantastic.  It wasn't a statement, it was a flattering outfit.
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  • colstjcolstj
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    edited December 2011
    Absolutely! It is even popular for bridesmaid dresses to be black. So nothing wrong with your mother wearing black! :)
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  • shadowkat08shadowkat08 member
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    edited December 2011
    Absolutely.

    The crystals will add colour to the dress as light hits it. And colourful accessories will help brighten up the black as well. So will the corsage. 
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  • NOLAbridealmostNOLAbridealmost member
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    edited December 2011
    Etiquette wise I'd say wear whatever you want. 

    Fashion wise, I wouldn't do the black dress thing unless it's an evening wedding or an (any time of day) winter wedding just because it might look a touch out of place. 
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  • squeakyducksqueakyduck member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-wear-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:064ff398-d599-4447-aa17-efadb7870734Post:c6712ef9-afd5-45c5-a6b0-844b18c02888">Re: Mother wear black?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mother wear black? : She's a grown woman, she doesn't need the bride's permission to wear black.  My own mother wore black--she looked fantastic.  It wasn't a statement, it was a flattering outfit.
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    <div>My mom has asked me if I'd be ok with her wearing black. I said I really wouldn't be thrilled. But that's just me. I realize that I can't dictate what every single person will wear, and I'm ok with that. But my mom asked for my opinion and I was honest. </div><div>
    </div><div>I'm not saying she should ask permission, but if she's really concerned, she needs to talk to her daughter. Her daughter is the only person who will know how she would feel if her mom wore black. </div>
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    The correct answer was: "Whatever you feel comfortable in, Mom."  Your answer was a little AWish.  What do you care what someone else wears to your wedding?  Why would black have been so bad? 
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so happy you found a dress you feel amazing in!  I don't think there's anything wrong with black these days.
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  • tldhtldh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-wear-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:064ff398-d599-4447-aa17-efadb7870734Post:39b65cc6-fc07-4724-a0e6-c30bea22e79f">Re: Mother wear black?</a>:
    [QUOTE]The correct answer was: "Whatever you feel comfortable in, Mom."  Your answer was a little AWish.  What do you care what someone else wears to your wedding?  Why would black have been so bad? 
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    In general, not directed at OP
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    I know this is hard for a lot of people to understand but I cannot express how much I <em>hate</em> any woman wearing black to a wedding.  Believe it or not, when I started down the aisle, the first thing I noticed was how many women were wearing black and it actually did set my teeth on edge for about two seconds.

    It has nothing to do with symbolism, I just cannot stand black dresses.  Yeah, you look fantastic in front of the mirror and then you look like every other woman in the room when you arrive.  I told my mom to get whatever dress she wanted but thankfully she feels the same way so I didn't have to deal with this issue.
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    @OP - If you are really concerned, I agree that you should ask your daughter for her opinion.  If she's like most women today, she is going to be fine with the black dress.
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-wear-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:064ff398-d599-4447-aa17-efadb7870734Post:d5adf9f6-6226-442a-bf54-08ce0c400192">Re: Mother wear black?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mother wear black? : In general, not directed at OP **** I know this is hard for a lot of people to understand but I cannot express how much I hate any woman wearing black to a wedding.  Believe it or not, when I started down the aisle, the first thing I noticed was how many women were wearing black and it actually did set my teeth on edge for about two seconds. It has nothing to do with symbolism, I just cannot stand black dresses.  Yeah, you look fantastic in front of the mirror and then you look like every other woman in the room when you arrive.  I told my mom to get whatever dress she wanted but thankfully she feels the same way so I didn't have to deal with this issue. ***** @OP - If you are really concerned, I agree that you should ask your daughter for her opinion.  If she's like most women today, she is going to be fine with the black dress.
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    Tricia, if you hate black then you'd love my wardrobe. :)
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  • squeakyducksqueakyduck member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-wear-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:064ff398-d599-4447-aa17-efadb7870734Post:39b65cc6-fc07-4724-a0e6-c30bea22e79f">Re: Mother wear black?</a>:
    [QUOTE]The correct answer was: "Whatever you feel comfortable in, Mom."  Your answer was a little AWish.  What do you care what someone else wears to your wedding?  Why would black have been so bad? 
    Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]

    <div>Well, it's an afternoon wedding in May...Not really a time when I would wear black to most formal events. </div><div>
    </div><div>And if she really wanted to wear it, I'd get over it. But she asked how I felt and I was honest. Because she's my mom. If it were my great aunt, I'd tell her it didn't matter. I guess it really depends on your relationship with your mom.</div>
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  • bigday111111bigday111111
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    edited December 2011
    YaY I am so happy to read that most think that black is acceptable!! I just think that black looks so clean cut I really would like my mom to wear black :)
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