Besides the WP who stands at the altar with bride and groom?

Nati05 · May 2012

So here's what we have figured out so far. FI has his BM. My MOH is still up in the air but if necessary my sister will probably want to step in for her (she's totally okay with this and hasn't thought anything about it) Best man and my sister can walk in together. FI's daughter is JBM and has voiced that she wants to walk alone. Which is fine but FI says if she ends up needing to be paired with someone he can speak wth her. No big either way.

FI wants 3 important men to join him at the altar, his uncle, his bio dad and his stepfather. Though the stepfather issue is touchy with bio dad AND now his mom too because they're going through a divorce. That's a whole other story though haha. Anyway I'm not sure what to do with these men and neither does FI. Do they become GMs and walk alone? I mean they're grown men, I feel like it would be kinda strange or funny looking. Should they just enter the chapel normally and later when FI stands at the altar, they can stand up to join him? I just don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or out alone in the spotlight.

What do you think would be best? And usually is it ONLY BMs and GMs at the altar with the couple? TIA!!

mzad22 · May 2012

If it is important to your FI for them to be standing up with him, could they just be seated in the front row, and then stand with him without actually walking down the aisle? That might make it less conspicuous, but still allow them to be up there.

littlemoments324 · May 2012

What if they walk out the same time FI does together, leaving a space for the BM...or just have them sit in the front row?? Or have one of them do a reading or something if you're having any?

AllyG303 · May 2012

Can they walk in with FI? My FI an his GMs walk in from the side. My BMs are walking down the aisle by themselves.

MeaganR12 · May 2012

The groom and the GM usually walk in from the side unless they're acting as ushers.

Customarily, only the WP are standing there with the bride and groom. But if it's really important to your FI, it's not a big deal to have them stand up there with him.

BmoreBride311 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_besides-the-wp-who-stands-at-the-altar-with-bride-and-groom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a832b68f-9d7a-4c97-b337-eec4082ae298Post:e2a6f3ed-5feb-400a-a6ab-1c91b0f8cac7">Re: Besides the WP who stands at the altar with bride and groom?</a>:
[QUOTE]Can they walk in with FI? My FI an his GMs walk in from the side. My BMs are walking down the aisle by themselves.
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]

This is what I thought / what we're doing as well.

xobride · May 2012

Like PPs said, traditionally, the men don't walk down the aisle at all. They will escort the BMs back down the aisle just like the groom does the bride once the ceremony is over, but they usually come from the side by the alter and the women walk down the aisle. It may be slightly lopsided with 4 on his side and 2 on yours, but I've seen weddings that were like that and it didn't bother me. You are the ones getting married and you should be the ones who decide who is up there with you when it happens.

When it's going to stand out a little more is on the exit so perhaps the BM and MOH can walk out together, then have his uncle escort his daughter and then have his fathers walk together. If it were me, it would be symbolic of their shared status in his life, but I don't know the whole story so just my opinion as someone who was adopted.

Nati05 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_besides-the-wp-who-stands-at-the-altar-with-bride-and-groom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:a832b68f-9d7a-4c97-b337-eec4082ae298Post:8366c173-935c-4ac4-bd6b-757a1a84a1b0">Re: Besides the WP who stands at the altar with bride and groom?</a>:
[QUOTE] When it's going to stand out a little more is on the exit so perhaps the BM and MOH can walk out together, then have his uncle escort his daughter and then have his fathers walk together. If it were me, it would be symbolic of their shared status in his life, but I don't know the whole story so just my opinion as someone who was adopted.
Posted by xobride[/QUOTE]

This is what I was concernedd about too. But that exit sounds like a good plan.

I'm not sure our chapel has a side entrance... I'm almost positive it doesn't. So entering by the side isn't an option.Besides FMIL has her heart set on him escorting her down the aisle to her seat and FSIL thinks this is very sweet and wants to also walk down with FI. Also that's funny everyone says that about the GM side entrance, many weddings I've been to BMs and GMs walk down the aisle together and then seperate when they get to altar to stand on the bride's or groom's side.

Anyway I think I like the idea where they sit in the front row and join FI at the altar when he stands there. I'll talk to FI and see what we can work out. Thanks everyone!! :)

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