Who Do I put on for the Return Address on the Response Card Envelope?

mjl1002 · April 2011

If my parents are paying for a good chunk of the wedding, do I have to have their address on the return address on the response card envelope or can I put mine? My fiance and I are paying for the wedding as well. I kind of think it would be fun to get the cards sent to me, but I don't know what is proper etiquette. On the invitations I am saying that both my parents and my fiance's parents are inviting the guests to attend. However, my fiance's parents are only paying for the rehearsal dinner. I just don't want to offend anyone so I am mentioning both parents in the invitation. I just want to be consistent with the approach I am taking. Please help! I really don't know what to do.

Hellokatie0517 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]If my parents are paying for a good chunk of the wedding, do I have to have their address on the return address on the response card envelope or can I put mine? My fiance and I are paying for the wedding as well. I kind of think it would be fun to get the cards sent to me, but I don't know what is proper etiquette. <strong> On the invitations I am saying that both my parents and my fiance's parents are inviting the guests to attend. However, my fiance's parents are only paying for the rehearsal dinner. I just don't want to offend anyone so I am mentioning both parents in the invitation.</strong> I just want to be consistent with the approach I am taking. Please help! I really don't know what to do.
Posted by mjl1002[/QUOTE]

There's nothing offensive about leaving the parents of the groom off the wedding invitations since they are not contributing to the actual wedding ceremony and reception. They can hog all the glory for the RD when they send out the invitations for the RD.

Typically, you use the address of whomever is hosting the wedding. Since it's a combined effort between you, FI, and your parents, I say you could put your address. Since you're looking for consistency, your parents' namse are on the invitation, so you would probably want to put their address as the return address.

shortee426 · April 2011

Who is keeping track of the RSVPs/guest list? That is where they should go.

mjl1002 · April 2011

To tell you the truth, I never really even thought about sending the response cards to my parents until my mother brought it up. I am having all the gifts from the registry go to my parenst since I live in a condo and don't trust packages being delivered here. I have never had a problem with regular mail though. I probably should be consistent and have everything mailed to the same location. I guess I could ask my parents to put the envlopes off to the side in a special box for me so then I can share in the experience and help my mom keep track of the RSVP list.

colstj1 · April 2011

I plan on addressing it to my parents since they will be keeping track of the RSVP's and they are paying for the wedding.

caseyandlizzie · April 2011

Whoever is keeping track of the responses is who should be listed on the return address.

hlq2011 · April 2011

My FILs are our RSVP address, as they are the location our gifts are meant to be shipped to. I figure we'll pick them up once a week or so and keep track ourselves.

hz80408 · April 2011

We had the RSVPs come to DH and I's apt since I didn't trust the parents to keep track of them (plus I was making escort cards at the responses came in).

For our gifts, we had the address listed on the registry as my parents since that's where we opened gifts (we lived in a complex which sounds similar to you and I didn't trust having gifts shipped there either)

Kristin789 · April 2011

Whoever's names are on the top line of your invitation are the people who are inviting the guests to attend.

And that's who gets the RSVPs back from the guests they've invited.

In your case, your parents are issuing the invitations to the guests, and the guests will respond to the people who have issued the invitations: your parents.

So it's your parents' address that goes on the response card envelope.

JCM10 · April 2011

PP is techinically correct, but do whatever makes most logical sense. Obviously if you're the one tracking invites, they should go to you, not your parents. That just adds an unnecessary step if you have to call your parents constantly for numbers!

futuremrsburrow · April 2011

I agree with JCM10. I used my parents' address on the outer envelope in case any invites needed to be returned to sender, and as the "hosts", they were technically the sender of the invites. But I used my address on the RSVP envelope because I will be the one keeping track of the guest list and making the escort cards.

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