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NWR: just had to get this off my chest!

motochick25motochick25
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I had my 2nd vaginal ultrasound the day before we left for our wedding because I have a uterine fibroid. When we arrived in Vegas I turned my phone on and I had a voicemail from my doc and they wanted to see me right away. Ahhh i'm like that's not possible so I made the app. for june.

I went to the gyno the other day and she wanted to talk to me about it. It grew to over 4 centimeters but they are not going to remove it because I want to have kids. Which she suggested I do sooner then later for fear that it will get bigger. And if they have to remove it and something goes wrong they would have to remove my uterus which means no babies. She's also not 100% sure with the complications I could have with trying to get pregnant and during pregnancy :-(

I explained all this to my husband but well he just don't get it! So I hope you girls don't mind but I just had to tell somebody and vent. There's nothing I want more in this life but to have a baby so I would be devastated.
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  • NatrashaNatrasha
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    edited December 2011
    Oh no!!!! I can't imagine getting that kind of news so close to my wedding, let alone EVER.

    I'm not going to even try to give any advice, because I have no knowledge base, but try to make your husband understand! I would hate to be rushed into kids, but if that's your only option, you're going to need him for some serious moral support. I'm sorry you have to go through this. That really sucks. I would get a second opinion too, so you can get a better idea of what the complications could be. I would want to be well informed regarding this decision.

    Best of luck to you and your H and your uterus!
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  • kara811kara811 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry you are going through this right now even in the midst of wedding planning. Keep us updated.
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  • QueenoftheHillQueenoftheHill member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh wow... (((HUGS)))) oh sorry you're going through this. I had a friend that went through a similar situation and did end up succesfully carrying her daughter. She was terrified the whole time from conception to birth. I hope that you'll be able to still have a baby. :(
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  • kateynjoekateynjoe member
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    edited December 2011
    I can't begin to imagine what you're going through right now, but I wish for you the best possible outcome in the situation! Sorry your Hubby doesn't get it, but I think us girls know how much having a baby will mean to us even before conseption, whereas many men don't understand how much it will mean to them until they see their baby. I also second Nat's suggestion of a second opinion, especially to find out more about what you may be facing in pregnancy as far as complications.

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  • smokeybaileysmokeybailey member
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    edited December 2011
    My thoughts are with you and I hate to say this, but get a second opinion, just in case.  Maybe there are other solutions for you.

    My mom had 2 healthy kids with her uterine fibroids so there is plenty of room!!!!

    Good luck!
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  • motochick25motochick25
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks u girls r the best. U know I never even thought of a second opinion that was an awesome idea. We were planning on trying soon, it looks like it might just have to be sooner then originally planned. We've been together 13yrs and are both in our 30's so I think it's time anyways.
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  • nycherylnycheryl
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry you're going through this - I'm sure it's incredibly stressful.  I agree with PP - please keep us posted.

    I'm sending you lots of good, happy baby thoughts!!
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  • j_jayej_jaye
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    edited December 2011
    Im so sorry you are going through this my thoughts are with you.

    I speak from experience on get a second opinion. The first time I had breast cancer I was 17 and it took 3 doctors beore I got the right diagnosis because they just dismissed it as cysts and hormones (I was a late bloomer).

    I also against medical advice had my eggs harvested at 17 (just in case) and I am so glad that I did because unfortunately my cancer kept coming back and all that lovely chemo and radiation would have for sure fried those suckers. I always say get a second opinion, research your options and ultimately do what is best for you.

    Take care and remember that with todays technology and the advances being made everyday you have options there that will result is a gorgeous bundle of trouble (I mean baby).
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  • Lwinter829Lwinter829
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    edited December 2011
    I am so sorry you are going through this! Def. get a second opinion... You are in my thoughts and prayers!
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  • ebonyivory10ebonyivory10
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_nwr-just-this-off-chest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:621cb1fd-2ba5-4830-bd10-d5746daa4331Post:4b9fc69a-cb03-40b5-97ed-c677af5ebac4">Re: NWR: just had to get this off my chest!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Take care and remember that with todays technology and the advances being made everyday you have options there that will result is a gorgeous bundle of trouble (I mean baby).
    Posted by j_jaye[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this! Medical advancements are evolving every day!

    I'm sorry, this is a tough situation to deal with.
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  • joanna730joanna730
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    edited December 2011
    Hi - I don't post often but I wanted to comment in hopes that I could help.  I was told I had a large fibroid about a month after we got engaged.  I went for several ultrasounds and they found that it was over 10 centimeters.  Since they aren't harmful and you can get pregnant (we were also about to try right after our October wedding) my doctor just wanted to monitor with ultrasounds.  Fast forward to January and I couldn't stand it any longer.  I went back to the doctor and it had grown so we decided to remove it.  There are definitely procedures that can be done that won't affect getting pregnant.  I ended up having an abdominal myomectomy.  I was out of work for 6 weeks - actually just went back last week.  But depending on the size, there are other options that wouldn't put you out of work as long.  

    Sorry this is so long!  I just did SO much research so I thought I'd share.  Oh and I also know someone else who had the same surgery that I had and has a healthy boy:)  Definitely get a second opinion!
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  • motochick25motochick25
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    edited December 2011
    @Joanna, thanks so much for your info. I was hoping if I posted this that someone would be or know someone with the same kind of situation. I just want to say thanks again to everyone, las Vegas knotties really are the BEST!! I went back and forth on posting this on the Bump forum but I couldn't figure out where to write it.
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  • impslaveimpslave
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    edited December 2011
    I was diagnosed with uterine fibroids back in 2003.  I woke up in excruciating pain one morning and went to urgent care.  After drinking barium (YUK!) and getting scanned, x-rayed and finally, ultrasound, they found the bugger.  The gyno didn't say how big it was, but said it that several had merged together into a big mass.

    I was given two options - (1) laser surgery or (2) hysterectomy.  As it was explained to me, the laser would burn away the fibroid and keep the uterus intact in case I wanted to have kids.  However, the gyno told me there was a 60% chance that they would grow back within three years.  I signed up for option (2).  When I came out of surgery, the gyno said that my uterus was as distended as a fifth-month pregnancy and the fibroid mass weighed just over 1.5 pounds.  I'm sure he has it in a jar on his shelf and I became a case history in gyno journals!

    Anyway, I'm sure that the technology has gotten much better in the last few years and you'll be fine!  Good luck!
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  • mizutamababymizutamababy member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't have any personal encouragement stories to offer, but am sending prayers your way!  I hope some of the other experiences posted offer a good solution without having to sacrifice anything.
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