**SSAGE**

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• ssage member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Yes it was me!
  I'll answer your questions and then go into my experience...
  
  How many times did you meet w/ him?  probably in total like 4 or 5.  he said it was up to us...we met every so often to go through a sort of pre cana and then discuss ourselves, the wedding, etc.
  
  Was he on time for your wedding? 100% on time.
  
  And did each time when you met him did he ask you the same questions over and over again?  yes pretty much
  
  I am not sure what he writes down but he did the same thing with us...he would write stuff and each time, we would go over it.  We did go over readings and music and i made sure to go over it in email...basically, we discussed readings during one of the face to faces and i followed up via email with questions, etc.  in our last meeting, we went over the print out.  I only told him the music, he did not have any input...i dealt with the harpist for that.
  
  Honestly, we really liked him and everyone at the wedding did too.  I totlaly get where you are coming from but despite all that, we had a great experience.

  

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• MYLOVE315 member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Oh thank God ... Ok you definitely made me feel so much better...whew.
  
  Yeah we've met 3 times I had everything typed out as a preliminary of how the ceremony would go...he loved it....loved the vows we wrote I almost swore he was going to tell me to change them.. Bottom line he asked me to email my document to him...he would add what he wanted....I'm glad my FI asked at one point does he speak about us as a couple? I didn't know they did that? haha he asked me what I would like to hear....I told him one of the most important things to me was one of the last talks my mom had with me before she passed. She wanted me to settle down...she said I want you to find someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved....I told Fr Rich it meant alot to me. I told him I seriously never thought a man like this ever existed...if I was to write on paper all that I wanted in a man / partner/ husband it was my FI and that is why  I believe in a higher power and I definitely believe my mom had a hand in brnging my FI to me - my FI was my pot of gold at the end of my rainbow...so he wrote that down...here's hoping he mentions it at the wedding. haha
  
  Thank you so much for getting back to me. How funny is it...you and I are both Casablanca brides and now we also share the same officiant haha....I really appreciate your inpput.....Ok, Enough about me .....How's the baby doing? :-)

  

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• ssage member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Lee...that was beautiful!  Really...I hope he captures it perfectly at the wedding.  I lost my dad 6 years ago so I totally understand what this day will be like and mean to you. 
  
  Fr. Rich made my hubby and I write our love story.  LOL  He never quoted it..we mentioned somethings in that that we did not want mentioned at the wedding (things about my hubby's ex, etc.) and he totally respected that. 
  
  We loved him so much I have contacted him about doing a christening for our daughter.
  
  The baby is great!  She is smiling and laughing and couldn't make us happier!  We love her soooo much.  I cannot believe she will be 12 weeks next week!  Time flys by!
  
  If you have any other ?s, feel free to email also...stephlsage at aol.
  
  I wonder what other vendors we have in common LOL

  

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• MYLOVE315 member

  

  October 2010 edited December 2011

  Steph -
  You are so truly blessed to have a healthy baby girl...No doubt her smiles and giggles just sets your day on the right path. I have lots of nieces so I know the joy you're both experiencing -- there are times when my sister's swear I've must've given birth to these kids cause their more like me then they are like their mom's. I was around all of them from day one & took care of them a lot. These are the same nieces that are like my best friends and little sister's all wrapped up in one - and now they are my attendants for my wedding. It's a crazy feeling. I'm the youngest of the family & my sister's had all their kids at a young age. So the good news is I'm still considered a young aunt. The bad news is I feel old because I can't believe their in their 20's and so grown up! That's how fast time flies Steph!
  Cherish all your moments as I'm sure you will with her.
  
  As for Fr Rich I just felt a little out of my element since he hasn't known me or us for very long but I went with my instincts and you def made me feel better about him. He loved the vows we wrote I thought for sure he was going to tell me to nix them or shorten them.  Thankfully we're good to go w/ that. He just wants me to really reconsider the song I was going to have played as the 2 of us light candles in memory of my parents who are no longer here and my FI's dad. Fr Rich is afraid it may turn into a memorial svc instead of a wedding but my feeling is I can NOT just not honor them - know what I mean?. Remember I was the one w/ the issue of the song - its called The Prayer (the one I want is sung by Celtic women) and he feels its way too long. So there's where I'm at now trying to figure out what to do? Have the song? Not have the song? Try and shorten it which I'm not thrilled about. My FI is afraid I'll just break down & cry and maybe I will but there's no ignoring the fact that of all people my parents aren't there with me and I know my mom would've been thrilled so I'm having a tough time getting past it all. But I will in the end I'll figure it out & do what's right for me. We'll see where I pan out.
  
  I'll def email you @ your aol acct.  Thanks again for listening & understanding.

  

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