Including Stepdad in Wedding

afct13 · July 2012

I have a little bit of a problem here. I have my dad and then my "stepdad", the reason I say "stepdad" is because him and my mom were never actually married and they are actually now split. But I somehow wanted to include him in the wedding. To better understand, my stepfather has been in my life the past 14+ years and although my mom and him are split now, we still have a great relationship together and still act like father/daughter. My dad was not in my life much growing up so my stepfather really did raise my brother and I and I am also his only "daughter". How is there a way I could include him in the wedding? I really do want him to walk me down the aisle along with my dad but I know my dad will not go for that at all. Any neat ideas on how I can include my stepdad??

kmmssg · July 2012

You could ask him to do a reading.

naomikb · July 2012

Ask him what he'd like... you could do a dance with him at the reception, not a spotlight dance but a nice time for the two of you alone. It's possible he doesn't want to be put on the spot to do something more than that.

A reading is also a good idea. You could also have him do a speech later if he wants to and everyone is comfortable with it.

LDubHawksFan · July 2012

I have a similar situation. They were married, but have been divorced now for 10 years, but I still call him my stepdad. Although I'm not having him walk me down the aisle, I've seen it where both men walk you down, or one is waiting half way down and he continues. I personally am having my stepdad cut in during the father daughter dance because he is my dad too (I don't want to have 2 songs). I asked my dad first and he is fully on board.