Both me and my husband to be are going our second wedding. We both have children from previous marriages. Our children are going to be in the wedding. My husband to be has a terrific relationship with his ex wife and she has been so good to me. I perform in the arts and she has supported me by attending my performances and brings her mom and sisters. She invites me to her family gatherings and her family -mom, sisters have been so kind. My husband to be and his ex have a dual type of relationship in raising their son who is now 16 years. The have been divorced since the child was 3 years old. I have always been welcomed in the ex's home and she has included me in the care of my soon to be stepson. She has a daughter from a previous relationship that is now an adult. I was invited to all her function's as well -high school, college, you name it. I would like to invite the ex to the wedding but I do not know if this is appropriate. I wonder if it would be offensive to her. But I wonder if I don't invite her will she be offended because of the current relationship we have. We are all involved with the children and I think she should be there, but I am afraid to talk to her because i don't want her to take it in a wrong light and I would want her and her family to be comfortable . Would it be ok if my husband to be talks to her to feel her out? Should I not invite her? Will she understand if I don't? She is a nice person as well as her family. But this is sensitive like a Pandora box. Any suggestions?