Is this tacky?

theholograms · February 2012

I's deposit a gift tacky? You register at regular stores like Macy's for example but guests can also go onto this site and make a gift this way. It works for couples that live together, like us, and put pictures of what they are paying for. You can also add in things for the honeymoon, like plane tickets, etc... I have seen some couples that simply put a website for their honeymoon but the deposit a gift doesn't seem as bad. Thoughts?

Avion22 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_is-this-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:dca9f892-d7e6-4946-b7d6-f71c6bb9064aPost:8ad16148-48b5-4043-b24d-acc782ec15b1">Re: Is this tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]It's tacky. If guests want to give you cash, they don't need to do use a website to do it. And wouldn't you rather just have the money in hand after the wedding than wait to receive a check from this company (which likely is taking a chunk of that money for themselves)? Everyone knows that cash gifts are an option and those that want to give you cash will do so without the help of a tacky website.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto. You can also use word of mouth through your wedding party and family members that you are saving up for __________ (honeymoon, home renovation, whatever). </div>

Summer2011Bride · February 2012

Tacky. Skip the site. Guests will give you cash if they want to regardless.

HobokensFury · February 2012

Yes it's tacky. End of story.

MNVegas · February 2012

Yes it is tacky! It is a cash registry and asking for cash is inappropriate.

JaxInBlue · February 2012

Tacky. Like PPs have said, you can spread the word via word of mouth that you are saving for X item, vacation or experience. You can also have a very small traditional registry for those individuals who are inclined to give physical gifts, or skip the registry all together. Both are also signals that you would like cash.

MyNameIsNot · February 2012

Tacky is not the word. It is flat out rude.

jessilee1019 · February 2012

If you have to ask, the answer is probably yes.

theholograms · February 2012

It wasn't something we are doing, I just saw someone do it and was wondering what thoughts are. I definitely don't want our guests to think we just want money out of them. The money would not be going towards the wedding - we are only having a wedding that fits into our budget, nothing more. You can break the registry down into various things like home for example and give an amt that you want to spend on landscaping and people can contribute towards that, some also include honeymoon expenses. It by no means would have anything to do with the wedding costs. But I see what people are saying and thank you for your opinions

Ali092011 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_is-this-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:dca9f892-d7e6-4946-b7d6-f71c6bb9064aPost:912ee77f-e356-4a7f-a77a-da37802466ed">Re: Is this tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]It wasn't something we are doing, I just saw someone do it and was wondering what thoughts are. I definitely don't want our guests to think we just want money out of them. <strong>The money would not be going towards the wedding </strong>- we are only having a wedding that fits into our budget, nothing more. You can break the registry down into various things like home for example and <strong>give an amt that you want to spend on landscaping and people can contribute towards that</strong>, some also include honeymoon expenses. It by no means would have anything to do with the wedding costs. But I see what people are saying and thank you for your opinions :)
Posted by 27Sunrise[/QUOTE]

We know what they're for and how they work. They're still asking for cash, no matter what the money will be used for.

People will give you money and assume that it will be well spent. You don't need to ask them to pay for your landscaping.

I think the main thing that bothers people about these types of registries is that you're asking for money towards things that people wouldn't buy for themselves. I would love to drop $5k on landscaping for my new home, but I don't have that money. I'm not going to defer that expense to my guests. FI and I will decide what to do with any money we receive for our wedding when the time comes. We are moving in a couple of weeks, and of course we will want new furniture and electronics, but we will save for those things. If in the process of saving for things we want, someone asked us for money towards their own furniture/electronics/landscaping/whatever, I would be a litle miffed.

The fact that guests don't HAVE to purchase from this registry if they don't want to doesn't mean it's not rude to even suggest it.

JessHotMess · February 2012

mmmm SUPER tacky. If someone wants to give you cash--let them. If you don't want a lot of physical gifts---simply don't register for a ton of things. Register for big ticket items that most people will likely bypass and give you cash for.

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