A couple of things....

Re: A couple of things....

• Simply Fated member

  

  February 2013

  "First off, I posted something a couple of weeks ago about having a receiving line or not. I don't really want to so we were leaning towards going table to table but I also want to make sure we get to eat as well. Then, I heard about the Bamp;G dismissing guests from their seats after the ceremony. Thoughts on this??" I've seen this work and look really cute. But if you have a lot of guests, it's less cute and more time consuming. "Secondly, my FI parents are divorced and although his dad is remarried, he is still VERY bitter about the divorce. I am kind of worried that he will be immature atnbsp;our wedding, like he was at my FI cousin's wedding last July.nbsp;We would likenbsp;a fewnbsp;pictures of just his mom and dad with us but we are worried he will not go along with it. His mom is perfectly fine with whatever. I am hoping he can put aside his differences for his son's sake but I don't know if he will :" I don't know if ge will, either. If your fianc wants this picture, tell him to talk to his dad. "Dad, we would like a picture of you and mom on our wedding day. Are you cool with that?" And see what he says. Honestly though, it might not be worth it. Maybe if stepmom was in the picture, too, his dad might not react like a 5 year old?

  
  

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• TT Bride 13 member

  

  February 2013

  We do have quite a few guests. Over 200 are invited.
  
  We are definitely gonna get some picture of his dad and stepmom with us, but he wants a few pictures of just his mom and dad too, which I totally understand. I will suggest he ask his dad that though. Thank you!

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• MrsGandthebeag member

  

  February 2013

  I've never heard of dismissing guests.  I don't really get it.  Like they leave their table and come over to you?

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  February 2013

  For your first question: I don't like it, especially for 200 guests. I'm assuming this is where everyone has to stay seated after the ceremony and then you guys come back in and dismiss row by row?
  
  I have seen this done multiple times, and as a guest, I hate it. For one, it takes forever. For two, it seems awkward and rushed. While you are gretting the B&G, everyone else is watching you and you really only have time to say congrats and keep it moving.

  
  
  
  
  

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• GoodLuckBear14 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_a-couple-of-things?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:07cf817b-1709-4ebc-914f-7cc82409e584Post:62bc3545-14a6-49d6-bfec-632a8d0287ee">Re: A couple of things....</a>:
  [QUOTE]I've never heard of dismissing guests.  I don't really get it.  Like they leave their table and come over to you?
  Posted by MrsGandthebeag[/QUOTE]
  
  Dismissing guests is when the B&G stop at each pew or row of chairs and that row is then permitted to leave as the B&G thank each person for coming.  Personally, I hate this.  It treats the guests like they are in grade school when the teacher would dismiss the class row by row after mass.  (I went to Catholic school).

  Proud to be an old married hag!!

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• AddieCake member

  

  February 2013

  I definitely don't like the dismissing row by row thing, and I agree with Harry about questioning why he would even want pics of his divorced parents together. 

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• MrsGandthebeag member

  

  February 2013

  Ahh, GLB, thank you for cleaning that up.  I was really confused.  Yup, doesn't sound like a great idea to me.  

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• libby2483 member

  

  February 2013

  1) As a guest, I don't like the "dismissing" thing, especially with 200 guests.  It just seems to drag on.

  
  

  2) I disagree with the posters who questioned why OP's FI would want a picture with his divorced parents.  They are his parents.  It is not unreasonable to want one or two pictures with just his parents, regardless of if they are remarried.  At our wedding, we got some pictures with FI's mom and stepdad.  We got some with his dad. We got some with all three.  As long as FI's stepmom isn't entirely excluded from photos, I don't think there is anything wrong with having one or two photos with just FI's biological parents.

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• Sassenach1743 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_a-couple-of-things?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:07cf817b-1709-4ebc-914f-7cc82409e584Post:81c39f92-8038-4841-81ef-924bf9e98906">Re: A couple of things....</a>:
  [QUOTE]As a child of divorced parents, why does your FI want a picture of his divorced parents together? It would be easier on everyone to do separate family photos. His mom and dad have created new families with other partners and I think that should be respected.
  Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This! Why would you even think to ask your divorced parents (one of which you know is still emotional about the break up) to be photographed together? There is no reason for this. Please take separate pictures with them. </div>

  
  

  

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• TT Bride 13 member

  

  February 2013

  We are not going to do the receiving line because neither one of us have like standing in line to say "Hi". I was thinking about the dismissing from the seat thing because it is similar to the receiving line but they can at least sit down. But, after reading what you guys have said about feeling like a kid in school, I kind of agree with that. I had never been to a wedding where that was done, just heard about it. We are probably just going to go around at the reception.
  

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