Joint B-party?? Thoughts, suggestions, ideas...

wfdfire607 · August 2010

My FI and I didn't really want the traditional B-parties. We saw somewhere where there's starting to be joint B-parties, like a Pub crawl or club hopping. We liked that idea and were wondering if anyone has any ideas to make it different and fun. Games, props???

kayboo1218 · August 2010

I saw something like this on tv one day. The couple had rented out a private room in a bowling alley (don't know if you are into bowling or other activities like that) and had a big party there b/c the place did glow in the dark bowling on some nights (and private bar in the rooms you could reserve for private parties). It looked pretty cool!

FI and I were discussing this and if we decided to do it we would probably go bar hopping or get a party bus or something.

san.marie · August 2010

My FI and I are having a joint party. We're inviting all our friends to go out to eat (somewhere fun) and then go laser-tagging.

eshevenell · August 2010

I think a joint party really defeats the whole point/purpose of the evening. You may be different, but most people who say 'Fi and I aren't in to traditional B parties' are people who only envision a bachelor/bachelorette party to be a wild event with strippers, crazy behavior, and excessive drinking. The whole point of a bachelorette party, and a bachelor party, is a time for guys to be guys together and girls to be girls together. Do a spa day, or a wine tasting tour, or something fun like that with your girls. Your guy could do a boys golf day, weekend in a cabin, fishing, etc. I also trust my FI 100%. A big part of me thinks joint parties were designed by people who don't trust their fiance and/or his friends.

Good luck making your decision! I think if you're going to do a joint thing, an 'activity,' like the laser tag thing, is key. Maybe incorporate some type of girl and guy time - do dinner separately, for example, and then meet up for the night out.

trix1223 · August 2010

I think it's just fine, and doesn't at all defeat the purpose of a b-party, which is to spend time with friends before your wedding. FWIW: females having b-parties at all wasn't even done back when I was married (32 years ago), so I don't see that you're busting tradition here.

And FWIW: I think it has absolutely less than nothing to do with not trusting your FI. That's just readng way, way too much into wanting to have a party together.

Sporting event, concert, bowling, laser tag, amusement park, theatre performance, Medieval Times, Dave and Buster's, sailing, picnic, day at the beach.....

wfdfire607 · August 2010

We trust each other 100%! But being this our second marriage for both of us, we wanted something different. Plus most of our friends are married or in serious relationships anyways and we thought this would be alot more fun. We already do lots of stuff on our own. He goes on hunting trips with the guys and I have girls shopping days etc etc, so we jumped at the idea of something like this. I love the idea of laser tag. I would love Dave and Busters but unfortunately, there isn't one close to where we live. We also have an old roller rink close by still operating and I thought that might be fun too. Thanks everyone for all the great suggestions.

SuMmErKuTiE · August 2010

We had a semi-joint bachelor and bachelorette party a few weeks before our wedding. The best man and MOH rented a party bus that took us up to Mohegan Sun casino and it was a blast! Once we got to the casino, the girls separated from the guys and we went to the club while the guys hit up the other bars and game tables. Everyone kept commenting on how much fun it was to have everyone together on the party bus.

It had nothing to do with a trust issue at all, in fact DH was the one who suggested having a joint party on the party bus since friends of ours had done it the year before and we had such a great time.

There are pictures in my planning bio under the pre-wedding parties tab of our joint party.

kjdishon · August 2010

My FI and I recently had our joint bachelor/bachelorette party.
We rented a limo and treated our entire BP to a baseball game( we are both HUGE baseball fans)
It was great! The girls sat in front and the guys sat in the back and we had a blast. We trust each other 110% but we felt no need to go out and do our own thing when we have so much fun doing things together. We were apart at times and together at times, it was the right balance for us. We still did gag gifts in the limo on the way down and it was comical that we opened funny gifts in front of each other!

Teppy007 · September 2010

My sister did a half joint half seperate. We did girls stuff before ( Martinis and Makeover at a bar I reserved space at) and then met the boys on a booze cruise. It was a lot of fun. People didn't like it at first (the idea), but at the event everyone had a blast!

lezlers · October 2010

I don't see anything WRONG with it, but it makes me crazy when I hear people call a Jack and Jill pre-wedding party a "bachelor/bachelorette" party. It's not. I agree with the previous poster that the whole point of a bachelor/bachelorette party is to celebrate your last night being "single." How are you doing that if you're out partying with your FI? It's totally counterintuitive. There's no difference between partying before your wedding and partying after your wedding if you're doing it as a couple so it's really just a night out on the town, not a bachelor/bachelorette party.

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