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Rehearsal Dinner question

japmaterjapmater
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I'm the MOG for my son's May wedding. His father and I divorced when my son was a toddler and hadn't really spoken in years until the engagement. I raised my son essentially without his help, interest or money. I had assumed I'd host the rehearsal dinner but lo and behold he wants to. He hasn't approached me about cohosting with him and I'm not going to bring it up. My son is very uncomfortable when we're all together and I want to minimize that if I can. But I would like to make a toast at the RD. Do you think it would be okay for me to ask?
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  • LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
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    Absolutely. Your ex-husband should be an adult and realize this is his son's wedding and drama has no place at it. If you ask and he turns you down, don't push it. I'd be surprised if he does turn you down.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
    Eighth Anniversary 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    Absolutely!  It is your son too and I think you have every right to say a small toast if you wish...it isn't like you are going to stand up and take credit for the entire dinner!

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  • nlindsay17nlindsay17 member
    Fourth Anniversary 100 Comments
    I don't see why you shouldn't be able to give a toast at the RD. If his father also wants to give one as the host he can too.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    It would be fine for you to give a toast at the RD. Toasts are not limited to the host.
                       
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  • jus2769jus2769 member
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    because my father in law will pay for the rehearsal does he get to decide when it is
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  • HilraythebrideHilraythebride member
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    Yes, I think you have a right to do a toast.  If he doesn't let you that is sad and childish.  I would just do the toast at the wedding reception if your not allowed to at the RD.

    I can understand what you and your son are going through.  My father has never been there for me but always swoops in when I accomplish something great and takes credit for it.  He is walking me down the aisle and I feel bad that my mom isn't but we are so traditional.  My mom has always raised me and we have talked about it and she is okay with it.  The memories we have together will far overshadown my dads few seconds of walking me down the aisle.
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