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Advice for Anniversary Dance?

Jesspie27Jesspie27 member
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My fiance and I both love the idea of celebrating other couples who have remained together with a dance for them. However, my fiance's father passed away unexpectedly a few years ago. I am afraid of creating a difficult moment for my future mother-in-law. Should I scrap this idea altogether or does anybody have advice on how to do this differently?
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Re: Advice for Anniversary Dance?

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_advice-for-anniversary-style-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:8286e4e1-400b-4dd8-9224-05629b48a901Post:f57554e2-dba5-4dfa-995e-2edae7f1936a">Advice for Anniversary Dance?</a>:
    [QUOTE]My fiance and I both love the idea of celebrating other couples who have remained together with a dance for them. However, my fiance's father passed away unexpectedly a few years ago. I am afraid of creating a difficult moment for my future mother-in-law. Should I scrap this idea altogether or does anybody have advice on how to do this differently?
    Posted by Jesspie27[/QUOTE]

    I'm not normally fond of cutesy ideas like this. But, I do think the anniversary dance concept can work in some situations.

    However, if it's even crossing your mind that FMIL might be upset with the idea or feel sad, your gut instinct is probably right. I'd scrap this idea.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    TBH, I would scrap it. It could be very sad for your FMIL to sit the dance out, when she probably wishes every day that her husband was still here to enjoy the marriage of their son.
                       
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Another vote for scrapping it.  In addition to the reasons given above, the more "special dances" you have, the longer guests who don't qualify them are forced to stay off the dance floor.  It gets boring to have to sit there for prolonged periods of time watching couples dance or whatever while you (generic) wait to join in the entertainment.
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  • Dreamergirl8812Dreamergirl8812 member
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    Nix it.



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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I know everyone is saying skip it, but what about talking to her? Of course she misses her husband every day. You don't think that just being at your wedding isn't going to bring back memories of her husband and make her miss him? Does that mean you should scrap the whole wedding? Of course not. She may enjoy seeing other couples, especially if they are relatives celebrating their love for each other with the anniversary dance. Talk to her, it's the only way to find out how she feels about the situation.
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  • Bride-hildaBride-hilda
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    YES! Scrap the idea! 

    I went to a wedding once where 99% of ALL the dances were themed dances! I just wanted to dance, but wasn't allowed to because I didn't fit in with the theme of the dance! It sucks to be single at a wedding as it is!
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