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Bridal Shower

trishaselbytrishaselby
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They (i'm not sure how many are involved) are planning my bridal shower which I believe is going to be sometime during the weekend before the wedding (because of my sis/moh coming in from OOT). So call me a control freak but I have no idea what is going on! Everyone is telling me random things like don't worry about it. I guess I have a hard time stepping out and counting on several people to be on the same page. My sister is 20 and doesn't have any wedding related experience and lives in Cali, my mom is MIA (most of the time), and my FMILand most of FI family lives over 3 hours away.

So initally they wanted me to get involved and try to find the best time to do the bridal shower and the bachelorette party. I think we have to do them both the weekend before the wedding. And now I guess I am cut off. I am just trying to involve FMIL and make sure that she knows that her people can come up to this shower or we could do a couple's shower/gather down by them because I understand that it is a long way. So I have no idea whether we are doing 1 or 2 showers but I guess I just have to wait and be told to show up. Just don't want to leave anyone out.

Anyone have similar experiences? Are you helping plan? Is it all a big suprise?
Thanks for listening- that kinda turned into a rant.
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  • BrandyL10BrandyL10
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    edited December 2011
    I'm completely cut out of my showers. My cousin, a BM is throwing one and my mom and sis/MOH are throwing another.
    At first there was some drama cause my sis wanted to butt in on my cousin's shower, but never attempted to contact her and help.
    So finally they worked it out, after I tried to get involved and now everything is good.
    I totally understand you on the whole control thing. I'm not a controlling person, but when it comes to big events like these, I tend to want to know timelines, did the invites get sent out on time, do all the guests have the right info, so I feel ya.
    And I too at first didn't have faith in my sis with the bridal shower, but she is coming up aces with it!
    So just try and sit back, give suggestions of what you would like at your showers. I gave my girls guest lists, so if you don't want anyone left out, put your foot down and give them a list.
    But enjoy it!
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  • saracksarack
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    edited December 2011
    I put in my input. I told them i wanted it pretty close off I5 so it would be close for a lot of people. i wanted it to be kitchen theme becasue i'm pretty sure my family won't buy me anything.. which is sad but FI and I have been waiting a long time for our wedding and haven't bought anything for our place... and i told them it is generally like 4-6 weeks before the wedding. So, they picked a saturday in June and picked a friends house and that is all I know.
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  • briandbry2010briandbry2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have had a bot of say in my family shower because my SIL and Mom are throwing it and my SIL is about to pop out her second kid. So I have been giving a little more input than normal. However I have been totaly shut out of the Friends shower that my Bridesmaids are throwing. they are even having a super secret meeting tonight about everything and I am not allowed to come or even know where it is! Iam a huge control freak too so this has been really hard. I have dreams that no one shows up
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  • hsunijhsunij
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    edited December 2011
    i TOTALLY understand what you're saying.

    Im a bit of a control freak though, and my friends and family know that. :)

    But, my wedding is in October and my FMIL's friends (who I havent met before) have decided to throw me a shower this weekend! Which is early, but I dont know them and just think it was nice of them to throw it. So I am going along with it. The only things they asked for was a guestlist from my side of the family and friends, and if I wanted it to be a couple's shower. They made the final decisions though and I will be going with the flow. I live in Seattle, they live in California, so im flying down and both mine and my FI live in Ca,

    Anyways, my MOH is throwing me one up here in August and asked my opinion. I told her that whatever she wants to do and if we can keep it more on the casual personal side, and not fancy, cause I know its expensive to host a shower. So I think we'll do it at her house and have desserts and thats it.

    anyways, I would let what happens happen. which is really hard, I understand, but at the end of the day, its thrown for you and not something for you to stress over. Just let whoever is leading the planning to know that you want the certain people to be involved if they want? Good Luck! Hope it helps!!!
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  • tvgal1971tvgal1971
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    edited December 2011
    Trisha - I can totally relate and have been stressing over it, too.

    My MOH/sister lives in FL and my 2 bridesmaids are in NJ.  I have no family in Seattle, so I knew I wouldn't get to have a shower with any of them.  My sister did arrange for my bridesmaids to fly to FL in Feb when I was visiting so we could have some girls bonding time.  It was great!!

    I've had 2 friends in Seattle offer to throw showers for me.  The first is a work colleague and it might be more of a work thing.  My other friend has offered 3 times and wants to do it at our house.  The last time she asked me about it was in the fall and I gave her my sister's email and suggested that she coordinate things with her.  I haven't heard anything and my friend tends to be a bit flaky.  She has good intentions, but I could just see 4th of July coming and then she'd be inspired to plan something!  Anyway, I asked my sister if she'd heard anything and she said no, but she had been wanting to check into it since I told her I thought something would be planned.

    I have a list of addresses, but no idea who to give it to.  It feels really awkward, but I guess I just need to trust everyone that they'll take care of things.
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  • jennyann28jennyann28
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know a lot.  I told my MOH any dates that didn't work for me, then turned it over to her to figure out with my other BMs and my mom.  So she sent me an email with the date they'd picked, and asked how I felt about a "cocktails and appetizers" shower at my mom's house (which is great because she has the cutest house, and a lot of my guests are family, since most of my girlfriends are OOT).  And that's it!  That's all I know.  I wouldn't worry too much about it though.  Gifts + food = good time.
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  • karebear219karebear219
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    edited December 2011
    I had minor imput, Just in suggesting the dates and vetoing any possible themes, but that was it. I am usually a control freak, but getting close to the wedding I was happy to have something I didn't have to plan or cordinate.
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  • angstocker22angstocker22
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    edited December 2011
    I, as some other PP, a control freak. But I also LOVE surprises! :D

    My MOH is planning 1 of my showers and my FMIL is planning the other.
    I trust my MOH very much. I know she can throw an awesome party (and showers, she has hosted a few in the past). Everything is a secret. I know the date and that's it. I know she has spoken to the BM's for advise & such. But no one has shared any details with me. And I am okay with that.
    My FMIL is planning the "family" shower. I'm sure I will be in the loop more with her on this one. 

    Just don't under estimate them. They know you, the situation, etc.. I'm sure they will do a great job! :)
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  • trishaselbytrishaselby
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks girls! Glad to know I am not alone! :)
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  • carrieoz_76carrieoz_76 member
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    edited December 2011
    I helped pick the day and time, but that's about it.  I've heard there is a theme and invitations have gone out and that's all I know.  To be honest, though, I'm glad that the friends planning it aren't involving me - it's a relief.  I've got enough on my plate (*coughguestlistcough*).  :)
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