What do you do when BMs don't like their dress...
Maybe I am overly sensitive about this, but I figured I would ask some other brides' opinions...I chose my BM dresses a few weeks ago on a trip to Mariella's with my 2 sisters/maids of honor. I didn't have my other 4 BMs involved in that first trip to Mariella's becuase most of them are out-of-state and I figured I would choose the BM dress based on what me and my 2 sisters liked. My other 4 BMs said they were fine with that, and I could choose whatever I wanted. So I chose a dress that I liked and my sisters/MOHs also liked....and told the other 4 BMs that they could order online or go to Mariella's and get measured/try on the sample. Well, 3 of them went to Mariella's this past weekend to get measured, and when I asked what they thought about the dress, they weren't overly excited. They said "It's ok" and they complained that the sample size didn't fit them properly. It's a sample! Anyways. Maybe I am just venting but I wanted to ask....has anyone had this reaction from some of their BMs? Did you sympathize with them even though it's your wedding and you should choose the BM dress that you want? I know I should just brush it off and say, tough luck, this is what I want for my wedding....but I can't help being a little upset about their reaction! At least lie to me and say you love it! Anyone else run into this issue?
Re: What do you do when BMs don't like their dress...
Maybe they will like it when they see it in their size.
I'm sorry I don't have much more, I let the girls pick out their own dresses, so they love them.
June 2012 Bride!
Have they been BMs before? Do they know that BM dresses need to be altered to fit correctly so they won't get a great fit off the rack?
Or is the issue beyond the fit?
Yes, it's your wedding but if they have some really serious issues with the dress (body comfort issues for example) then maybe take a trip with them and see if there are other options. After all, they are buying this for you.
This may be a bit blunt but at the end of the day chances are you were also a bridesmaid in their wedding or will be, and have had to purchase a dress you didn't love as well. I agree with the girls about sample dresses maybe not fitting well, or if a girl requires a strap in order for her to be comfortable. You're never going to please all your maids, especially if they are built differently.
I sympathize with them from the standpoint that I have bought bridesmaid dresses i didn't LOVE, but from a bride point of view they'll get over it!
I think that is fine.. your weddiing is your vision. if the dresses are reasonably priced and you didn't pick an unflattering cute i think it is your decision. they may not love the dress, but they don't have too! you do
Be kind to them and figure out what the issue is, but at the end of the day, if they just don't like the style, it's your wedding. I've only been in one wedding, the dress was nice but only wearable once.
As long as it fits/can be easily altered, looks decent, and isn't over their budget, don't worry about it!
I told my BMs that they could wear any black shoes that they want, do their hair/makeup however they want, and wear any jewelry they want (within reason...obviously I wouldn't want them wearing huge crazy jewelry and thigh-high boots! But none of them would do that anyways). I figure that if they aren't thrilled with the dress, I could at least give them the option to choose their own shoes, accessories, hairstyle, etc..
Did they give a budget beforehand? The price isn't awful but at $175, unless alterations are included, they're probably going to be spending over $200. That may push them over the limit they want to spend or it may be fine.
The rest of your ideas sound great though.