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Some photos before the ceremony - Mother thinks it's a bad idea

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My groom and I WILL NOT be seeing each other before the ceremony, but I would like to take some pictures with family and the bridal parties before that so that after the ceremony we aren't rushing around to get everything done.  However, my mother is putting up a huge stink about this.  She does not want to have to be ready an hour before the ceremony.  The whole purpose of this is so we can get to our reception site (40 minutes away), take pictures there, then join the cocktail hour for the remainder of the time.  Am I making the wrong decision?

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Re: Some photos before the ceremony - Mother thinks it's a bad idea

  • kblumekblume
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    edited December 2011
    No you are not making the wrong decision.  My fiance and I are not going to see eachother before the wedding either.  Our wedding is at 2 pm and my side is starting at 11 and then the grooms is starting at 12:30 that gives my side an hour to get done and out of the church before the grooms side arrives and gives them time to get pictures done.  Yes I know I am going to have a lot of down time but I think that would be good.  It will give us time for lunch and just relax before the ceremony and not be rushed.  I am all for a relaxing no hurry day. 
    I have had problems with my parents too.   If your mom doesn't want to be ready, then you could always do the pictures you want to do before the ceremony than the pictures she is in after the wedding.  It isn't uncommon for the bridal party to be there an hour or two ahead of the ceremony for pictures and for the families to talk with eachother. 
    When is your mom going to get to the wedding?  What is more important than being there for your daughters pictures and who cares if you have to be ready early.   My cousins wedding a couple weeks ago the whole family (including cousins and aunts and uncles) were there 2 hours before getting the church ready and just mingling. 
    Atleast she isn't my mother who needs to be ready 3 hours before the wedding. : )
    Plus it isn't uncommon to take pictures before the wedding and then some after. 
    I would go ahead and just plan on what you are doing and try to get your mom there before, if not like I said before take pictures with her after the wedding, because I know if you take it without her you both will regret it.   
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    You are right.  I would tell your mother that you will be starting photos at X:00, and if she wants to be in any of them, she needs to be ready.
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  • Ljacks87Ljacks87
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    edited December 2011
    You're not making the wrong decision. We are doing the same thing; men and women will take portraits separately before the ceremony to save time later. Tell her to get over it lol.
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  • slwilliams84slwilliams84
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    edited December 2011
    You really should get as many of the photos before hand done as you can.  So start with the wedding party, then roll to family photos so that your mom doesn't have to be the first one ready but she will have to be ready a bit earlier.  This will also prevent allowing those who are most important to you to show up late to the wedding cause they will all already be there taking pictures!  Its alot of fun really!
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  • msvixienmsvixien
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    edited December 2011

    I am all for taking as many photos before the wedding. Im doing the same bacause I would like to enjoy our wedding. Think about it this wedding is for you two and you two NEED to enjoy it not spend all your time taking photos. It is not up to her when photos are taken. This wedding if for you two! ENJOY

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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    MOB here.  You really need to stick to your guns on this.  Pictures take HOURS and even if you aren't seeing each other before the ceremony, it is imperative that all the other ones are done.

    I agree that you tell her what time pics start and if she wants to be in them, she needs to be on time.  When our last DD got married (they took ALL pics prior to the ceremony) the parents didn't need to be there until about an hour and 15 min prior to the ceremony.  It's not a huge issue and you really need to stick with your plan.
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  • Louisa1000Louisa1000
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    edited December 2011
    To tack on to this question: I was originally totally against seeing my groom before the ceremony, but with all the scheduling options, it's sounding more and more like a good idea, to avoid a gap and get some daylight shots. I think everyone agrees doing separate shots before the ceremony is totally okay, but what about doing couple shots? Is there a good reason not to other than superstition?
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