Father won't do father/daughter dance

Re: Father won't do father/daughter dance

• trix1223 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Just skip it.  There's no need to replace it with anything else.
  
  Just out of curiosity though, is your father "allowing" a monther/son dance?  Because as a former MOG, that was a sweet and precious moment for me.
  
   My DIL's dad had passed away, but there wasn't any way that she would have thought for a moment about not encouraging my son and me to have our dance.
  

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• lalap69 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  I understand that your father's religious beliefs may prevent him from dancing, but what do you mean when you say he's "allowing" you a dance?  As in, one dance only?  Or he's allowing dancing at the wedding?  And why does he get to "allow" this?

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• Stormes

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  If you want something instead, perhaps a reading of something that will let him know how special he is to you.  Is he Baptist?  If so perhaps a psalm or religious passage could be found that would apply to the relationship you have with him.  You could just make a toast to him that you wrote yourself.
  
  Don't worry about what other people think.  Perhaps you are allowing your father to decide what is allowed because he is paying for the wedding and you want to keep the peace, perhaps it doesn't matter why. 
  
  My cousin's FIL almost refused to perform thier ceremony (he is a Baptist minister) when he found out the night before that they were having dancing at thier reception.  So I can certainly understand how this can be a tough issue to navigate.
  
  I'm sure you will think of something good, and yes, it would be nice for the groom and his mother to have their dance if they like. 
  
  

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