So I had lunch with my mom and eased into wedding conversation. Then I calmly explained to her that if she was not comfortable calling her brother and telling him he couldnt not bring his son, I had started writing them a letter explaining it.
OMG, Ive never seen shiit hit a fan so fast! In the middle of Brueggers we began a yelling match. Not loud enough that everyone stopped to look but the table next to us keep looking over. Pretty much what I got out of her was that her family is more important than anyone else and who gives a rats a$s what I want b/c shes paying so everything is going to be how she wants it.
She kept reminding me that the kids in our bridal party were Joshs family. To which I responded with "Im sorry that you feel your family is better than dads and that you never felt they were good enough to call family, but Joshs family is my family too!" Before we were even engaged I was Aunt Bridgett to all 6 boys, Joshs mom would introduce me as her DIL, his sisters all called me their sister. I am in such amazement at how big a biitch my mother is being.
She even went so far as to say that if my cousin couldnt come, then the parents of the BP kids need to drive the hr+ back to their homes after the ceremony to drop the kids off then come back. My reception is immediately following the ceremony! So they should just miss it all?! WHAT?!?!
I finally told her I was sorry I discussed the wedding with her at all and if she wanted it her way then she should plan it all b/c I was sick of it. Then told her cousin could come but I will not be that a$shole that allowed him to come. "Are you calling me an a$shole?!?!" "If the shoe fits..."
I am so over this f'n circus. I dont need this. Im seriously considering canceling the whole show, going to a court house and being done with it. Im so done with this "family" crap. Ive said my whole life that family has nothing to do with blood and my mom has always agreed...with the exception of her perfect family of course. AHH!
Thanks for letting me vent that. Im so incredibly angry and needed to get some of it off my chest.
People are inherently stupid. Weddings make it painfully obvious -- KevinandMonica