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September 2012 Weddings

How to handle?

FI's GM keep texting him and asking him when our wedding date is.  Uhh scary yes but I chalk it up to them being men.  FI is in a wedding in 2 weeks and I swear if I didn't remember the date and book our flights he would miss the whole dang thing.  I guess his GM's wives aren't as on top of our wedding date as I am of his friends.  Anyways FI asked yesterday if we could send the invites to his GM so they have it and stop asking.  We weren't planning to send invites out until July 31 so it is about a month early.  I wouldn't care so much but there are a few snags with that.  

Both of our best men's parents are invited.  And one of the best man's younger sister, in-laws and sister in-law are also invited since FI is close with him and his wife and their families.  There are one or two couples in the same circle who are invited but who's husband isn't a GM.  I feel like if we send the invite to the GM we have to send invites out to everyone in the circle or the month between could make it seem like we have a B list which is not at all the case.  

Also, best man's wife who we are close with works with FI's parents so if she says she got an invite idk if FMIL will be all up in arms that we are waiting to send to FI's extended family (partly because it is so early, partly because it is a ploy in hopes all 50 of them can't make it if we wait).  Maybe it won't be a problem but a possibility.

Should I just tell FI to suck it up and keep reminding them via text?  Or send them since the GM are VIPs and just give FMIL a heads up of why we sent them and send to the rest of the circle too? 

Re: How to handle?

  • If he has a text with the date saved on his phone, and he still can't figure it out, do you really think the invitation is really going to make a difference?

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_how-to-handle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:85a5ffd8-e1fd-45b7-9f10-6afd52e09c9ePost:b0354c14-f86b-47cf-934f-f10a66858b57">Re: How to handle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If he has a text with the date saved on his phone, and he still can't figure it out, do you really think the invitation is really going to make a difference?
    Posted by Callmefia[/QUOTE]

    <div>Exactly this. </div><div>
    </div><div>I'd send him a pack of Post Its with your date on the top one. </div>
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  • Yeah I'd say wait. The time between now and then doesn't make a ton of difference. It's not like you are gonna send out invites 2 weeks before the wedding and run the risk of them forgetting... sending invites now or at the correct time still allows plenty of time for them to get their heads on straight. To avoid drama and the possibility of over-sending ("did we send one to him before or does he still need one?!"), I vote for waiting.

    Men are SO clueless sometimes.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_how-to-handle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:85a5ffd8-e1fd-45b7-9f10-6afd52e09c9ePost:b0354c14-f86b-47cf-934f-f10a66858b57">Re: How to handle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If he has a text with the date saved on his phone, and he still can't figure it out, do you really think the invitation is really going to make a difference?
    Posted by Callmefia[/QUOTE]

    I agree with that. What type of phone is it? B/c I know with iPhones you can invite people to events on your calendar. If you all have iphones you can send him an invitation that way. Or just text the guy's wife and tell her the date.

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  • I highly doubt a piece of paper with the date will make a difference; having it on his phone is prob the best place. And I mean really, it's such a minor detail... LOL
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  • I agree with PP, I don't think them having a piece of paper is going to make a difference.  Tell the wives/girlfriends and just keep reminding the GMs when they ask.  To use brides, September is right about the corner but the guest and the wedding party its still 3 months away.  To far for them to be concerned with right now.
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  • They live about an hour from the wedding location so they don't have to book flights.  I was kinda thinking it wouldn't make a difference either.  Especially when they all got fitted and should have a receipt from Men's Warehouse with a pickup date.  That should be a pretty clear indicator of our date.  Men!
  • I agree with PPs, I don't think a piece of paper with the date is going to make a difference if the texts aren't enough
  • I agree with everyone else. The physical invite probably wont do much more than the texts.
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  • LOL!  We have a couple weddings this summer, and if I didn't know when they were, FI would never show up to them.  He kept telling me his one friend's wedding was September 18.  I was like... Tuesday?  I finally asked his friend, and it's August 18.

    I agree with the ladies that sending the invite now will just cause you more problems than it's worth.  I like the phone thing.  Maybe if you're friends with any of the girlfriends, tell them directly.  Otherwise, your FI can probably handle a couple extra texts the next few weeks.

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