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jaschelle · May 2012

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kelsey+brandon · May 2012

Where's the background post on this?

peachykeen26 · May 2012

Okay seriously, you need to stop talking to these women. Just stop. All you are doing is hurting feelings and getting your feelings hurt.

This is your damn wedding, if you want to wear a strapless wedding dress then do it!
I promise you are NOT going to go to hell in a handbasket for it. If you are, then we are all screwed.
Let me ask. Is she a Christian? Are any of them? I would simply say something like no sin is unforgiveable and be done! That will get the point across.
If these two ladies make your day a living hell and your life a living hell then **ck them!
I am sorry, this really pisses me off.

I don't care if you are white, black, pink, green or orange or any other color. You are a HUMAN. YOU can make a concious decision to wear what you want to wear.
STOP TALKING TO THEM ABOUT IT!
It isn't any of their damn business. Focus on what you and FI want.
If that means not allowing FMIL and FGMaIL into the Bridal Suite then so be it.
I think that they are just nervous. In a few years, they won't even remember what the issue is.

Okay, rant done.

midgetthemighty · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_dress-code-continues?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:92bcc4a1-b7cd-441d-9bf5-cc96d7326dc1Post:7d702030-4909-4f57-9db8-d2ebba624261">Re: Dress Code Continues...</a>:
[QUOTE]Where's the background post on this?
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I'm confused.

If your FMIL is trying to tell you how to dress, she's completely ridiculous and you should just ignore her on that stance. If this is something with the wedding, just say no.

midgetthemighty · May 2012

Found it!
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_grandma-gives-bride-dress-code

You're a saint for even wanting to spend your honeymoon with his family. At this point, I would do everything possible to be alone 100% of the time, dress how you want and enjoy your HM. It sounds like his Grandma may be suffering from dementia or something like that since her family is shocked at her extreme behavior.

Ignore them. They're being ridiculous.

peachykeen26 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_dress-code-continues?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:92bcc4a1-b7cd-441d-9bf5-cc96d7326dc1Post:9860d83b-4e95-4d36-b029-93252377b672">Re: Dress Code Continues...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dress Code Continues... : <strong>Have I mentioned how I love you! :)</strong> You are very right. Agreed on all counts. I have stopped talking to FMIL about this topic a few days back, but I guess FI couldn't let it rest and he had to share his 2 cents with his mother on the topic to set things straight. It did make me feel better that he has put everyone in their place. We are all Christians, and agreed there too. :)
Posted by jaschelle[/QUOTE]

Hahaha, I try. :)
You need to tell FI that he unfortunately cannot fix this and just needs to leave it alone. HOWEVER, PRAISE him for defending the two of you. That is a GREAT sign!

melntaitt · May 2012

I am never a fan of people telling others how to dress, what to eat, who to date, etc.

I also am of the opinion that you should be initiated into the sainthood for dealing with this mess because by now, I would have told them what to do with their dress codes and opinions.

Absolutely do not change who you are on account of some fuddy duddy old lady; imagine if this is where you cave what she'll be trying to tell you to do next, "No dearie, you can't kiss him in front of people; they'll think you're a whore." Sorry granma but screw that...

peachykeen26 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_dress-code-continues?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:92bcc4a1-b7cd-441d-9bf5-cc96d7326dc1Post:62028be7-69f4-4714-bd10-edeaee34a5a9">Re: Dress Code Continues...</a>:
[QUOTE]I am never a fan of people telling others how to dress, what to eat, who to date, etc. I also am of the opinion that you should be initiated into the sainthood for dealing with this mess because by now, I would have told them what to do with their dress codes and opinions. <strong>Absolutely do not change who you are on account of some fuddy duddy old lady; imagine if this is where you cave what she'll be trying to tell you to do next, "No dearie, you can't kiss him in front of people; they'll think you're a whore." Sorry granma but screw that...</strong>
Posted by melntaitt[/QUOTE]

And with that, I completely agree!

Danidawn20 · May 2012

I agree with the PP's ,just dress how you want

melfacto · May 2012

Really your FMIL and FGIL need to get lives if they are so absorbed in what you wear! Come on it's ridiculous... I can only picture this turning into a war when you and FI have children.. EK

MiksChick23 · May 2012

I would not even be entertaining the idea of following her rules. I would also not have made concessions for her in the first place. This sounds like a nightmare! Dress how you want, you are going to be in HI for pete's sake! Put on your bikini and enjoy the sunshine!

CvilleClaire · May 2012

The sooner you all stop REACTING to her, the sooner she'll stop having something to say at every moment.

Sorry. Just a veteran who couldn't stand by any longer.

kaitlyn142 · May 2012

Hi fellow overly controlling FMIL sufferer! Here is my advice: Say no. Do not give in to the crazy. Let it cause drama. Better to let her throw tantrums than to give up yourself. My FMIL told me in no uncertain terms that we were NOT ALLOWED to have a Catholic wedding and that we absolutely had to pay for FI's aunt's hotel room. My answer? That's nice. Not happening. She said no one on her said would attend the wedding if we didn't do what she said. Oh well, their loss. Still not paying their hotels. If you don't stop it now, it will just continue. My nutcase FMIL still thinks she can bully us into moving in. Also not happening. Throw away all the approved outfits and wander the beach in the skimpiest thing you own. When you have kids, she's going to try to control how you raise them. Stop that expectation now!

peachykeen26 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_dress-code-continues?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:92bcc4a1-b7cd-441d-9bf5-cc96d7326dc1Post:5320b2d1-64e3-4825-a6e0-49873d0c2847">Re: Dress Code Continues...</a>:
[QUOTE]The sooner you all stop REACTING to her, the sooner she'll stop having something to say at every moment. Sorry. Just a veteran who couldn't stand by any longer.
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

Amen. :)

kelsey+brandon · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_dress-code-continues?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:92bcc4a1-b7cd-441d-9bf5-cc96d7326dc1Post:5320b2d1-64e3-4825-a6e0-49873d0c2847">Re: Dress Code Continues...</a>:
[QUOTE]The sooner you all stop REACTING to her, the sooner she'll stop having something to say at every moment. Sorry. Just a veteran who couldn't stand by any longer.
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

<div>Woohoo!!! :) The gangs all here! hehe</div>

michellep1 · May 2012

Omg this is so ridiculous. I'm so glad FI stood up for you! I agree with everyone that you should dress how you want and just stay away from those that disagree. You can't please everyone and on your honeymoon the only person you should focus on pleasing is FI

(couldn't resist, its TMI Tues!).

CvilleClaire · May 2012

Please practice the following sentence and use it liberally:

"I'm sorry, but that just isn't possible."

MoonlightSilver · May 2012

Just curious... are you planning on a garter retrieval / toss? Cause I can only imagine the drama she'll throw up at that.

littleluckypenny · May 2012

I'm glad your FI stood up for you. His mother and grandmother have issues (no offense).

midgetthemighty · May 2012

I still want to know why on earth you agreed to spend your HM with anyone beyond your FH (for the whole week). Nosy, party of me.

midgetthemighty · May 2012

Holy crap girlfriend! That's a lot. I am glad after all of that you'll have a week to yourselves though. I hope you do nothing but relax then.

Danidawn20 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_dress-code-continues?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:92bcc4a1-b7cd-441d-9bf5-cc96d7326dc1Post:9cc686c1-abf3-4dc3-9ea7-c7a4e8e59af6">Re: Dress Code Continues...</a>:
[QUOTE]Holy crap girlfriend! That's a lot. I am glad after all of that you'll have a week to yourselves though. I hope you do nothing but relax then.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]
I agree with this.

browner3 · May 2012

Honestly, I plan on being naked most of my honeymoon

Guess they'd flip out over that too.

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