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Bridal Shower Blunders
I want start off by saying I was never really interested in having a bridal shower but my mother and FMIL
kept insisting that I have one. My other asked me to put together a small list [key word SMALL] of people to come to the bridal shower because she was hosting it at her house. I gave her the list last month.. included a few people on each side of the family, couple friends & co -workers. Came out to about 20 people. We are about 2 weeks away from this shin-dig & people from my FI side of the family are getting pissy because I didn't invite everyone who is coming to the wedding. This is my first time getting married so I didn't know it was customary to invite every female that is coming to the wedding to your bridal shower. I've been to weddings where I was not invited to the bridal shower or bachelorette party and I was not offended. I'm just really confused as to what to do now...I don't want my future in laws to hate me or continue to argue with my FI about this whole thing
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Re: Bridal Shower Blunders
Let them know you wish they all could be in attendance but at the location their is only so much room. Talk to your FMIL and let her know the situation (since she did not host it) and how you feel. You and your mother did nothing wrong. In your family small showers are the norm so you did not know how upset people would be. Also anyone who still wants to give you a shower gift can or they can even host another one for you (if they feel so inclined).
In some circles it is very common to invite every single female to the bridal shower that is invited to the weddings. I know many large Italian and Spanish (from Spain) families do this. They are huge events. It sounds like your future in-laws are in one of these invite everyone circles.
Don't stress to much. Most people have rather intimate bridal showers or none at all.